I can just hear it now….the ohhs and ahhs. How dare she go there! How dare she compare the asian man to the white man! Blasphemous! Off with her head! I see what some people post to this site. IT’s a contentious issue but yeah, I am going to go there. I dated every color under the sun. Hey – I don’t see color. I’ve been seen as a color, object, sex toy my entire life. I’m equal opportunity employment. It sure as hell works for me in the workplace today. I know I get some breaks so, I most certainly must give it back in the dating sense, right?
I can just hear it now….the ohhs and ahhs. How dare she go there! How dare she compare the asian man to the white man! Blasphemous! Off with her head! I see what some people post to this site. IT’s a contentious issue but yeah, I am going to go there. I dated every color under the sun. Hey – I don’t see color. I’ve been seen as a color, object, sex toy my entire life. I’m equal opportunity employment. It sure as hell works for me in the workplace today. I know I get some breaks so, I most certainly must give it back in the dating sense, right? Well, I think so.
At 27 years old, I’ve had my share of dating experience; good, bad, ugly, infected (white and Asian)..you name it. I’ll address the stereotypes, truths and my own plain experiences.
White Man Stereotypes – Superior, think they are marriage material to increase our social status, have Asian fetishes, think they own women, elitists, assholes, Arrogant, self-absorbed.
Asian Man Stereotypes – Lack confidence in talking to women, angry, small penises, smart, short, bottom of the barrel, proper, boring, well mannered, think they own Asian women.
In MY dating New York City experience:
White Man –
Cons: think they own all women in general, arrogant, self-absorbed, treated like an object, rude
Pros: confident, makes me feel special and singled out, exciting, adventurous
Asian Man –
Cons: lacking in confidence while talking to me, boring
Pros: Proper, respectful, focused, express their feelings on how much they like me on a date
Let me elaborate:
White Man dating experience:
First and foremost, I would like to point out that I did not mention small penis for either race. I know this was one of the first confirmations you were waiting for so I decided to spill the beans in the beginning. It is completely not true. I’ve had every color under the sun, including fire crotch, hairy beast and grey matters.
Let me give you ladies a little tip on penis size for ANY race. If a man’s hands and feet are small don’t expect a big prize behind the curtain. It’ll be a battle against the bugle only if he wears pleated pants. Real men wear pleated pants. Get me drift?
Being an Asian lady myself, I’m definitely wined and dined by white men. It’s exciting and adventurous. Sometimes it makes we wonder what a romp in the sack is like? I’m usually happy to oblige but lately I’ve been less than willing to jump in right away.
Hot white men who usually date me are looking for a sexual adventure and dorky white me are just happy to date any female. They just think an Asian girl will give them the time of day.
White men are consistent with their dating behavior, so you’re left wondering a lot. Be prepared to be a rebound from a bad experience they had with a white woman or retaliation towards women in general. Some have been rejected too many times from a white woman and want to take it out on the “submissive” Asian. It could also be a trend.
White Man bedroom experience:
They’re adventurous in bed, so don’t expect the standard missionary. This could stem from a fetish, but I’m usually not with them long enough to figure it out. White men are into toys and fulfilling their fantasies.
Asian Men dating experience:
I’ve found that dating Asian men over the years has been slowly changing. I’ve noticed more confidence in each new Asian man I hang out with. Dating an Asian man is comforting, warm and secure.
Also, Asian men think I’m their property and that it should be a given that I will go out with them, whether or not I’m attracted to them. They are much more respectful on a date than a white man. They talk about other things besides sex. They are aggressive in their pursuit for a next date. They have a lot to offer financially.
Asian Man bedroom experience:
The “Asian small penis size” stereotype is just that, a stereotype. It’s not true as I explained above. The body hair is great, minimal.
None of these dates have led to serious relationships. It’s either been from one extreme or the other, too casual or too desperate! Dating in New York City has its own issues.
White men are not greater than Asian Men, and Asian Men are not greater than White men. They both have their advantages and disadvantages. It just depends on your taste and tolerance. If you’re young, you will probably be happy playing around with a white man and appreciate an Asian man as you mature, like a fine wine.
My advice to American women who are attracted to an Asian Man or a White Man is to just go for it with an open mind. There are happy Asian couples and happy Asian white couples. I wanted to share my opinions on an equal opportunity, serial dater in NYC.
Feel free to crucify me below or you can always email me at firstname.lastname@example.org