How to tell if a man is “into” you. But I’m nottalking about how to tell whether the date you’re with likes you or not –that’s easy enough to tell! I’m talking about how to tell if a man is “into” you — for the long term. In other words, we’ll be talking about how to tell if a man is “husband-material,” particularly by observing how he acts around you!
Being able to tell whether a man is “husband-material” or not is a VERY important skill to have. It’ll save you time, it’ll protect you from getting hurt by non-committing men, and it helps make sure you only end up with the best single men around!
Sign #1 – Does He Stay In Touch?
Players are a dime a dozen, and they usually only keep in touch for the first few days after you meet. But after awhile, he starts to lose interest in you, and he stops calling. Of course, that’s okay. Good riddance to bad rubbish, I say!But “husband-material” men aren’t like that. When they meet a woman who immediately “feels” right for them,they’ll stick around to find out whether or not their hunches are spot on. So they keep in touch. They call when they say they will, they’ll show up fordates on time, and they basically show a genuine interest in you. Now, I know how creepy things become when you realize a guy actually likes you! But while you should always have your defenses up, it pays to give the guy a chance to show you what he’s really about. So when he tries to get in touch with you, go ahead and entertain him. Try to be genuinely happy to hear from him,
and let him take the lead. You’ll never know if he’s really “the one!”Sign
#2 – Does He Work To Meet Your Standards?Another way to tell if he’s REALLY into you is to see if he tries to meet your standards.Of course, you’re never supposed to talkabout your “ideal man” with a guy you’re actually interested in! You might accidentally give him the message that he’s NOT your type — and he might stop trying! But here’s the difference between players and “husband-material” men. Players care little about meeting your standards — all they care about are THEIR standards, and expect YOU to meet theirs. “Husband-material” men, on the other hand, avoid asking about your standards. But through your conversations and body language, he’ll try to pick up on your hints and form an idea of what you’re really looking for in your love life.An easy way to check this is by paying attention to his actions as your dates progress. Does his actions and gestures seem to get more and more attractive as time goes by? Does he start doing you favors, give you gifts, and basically make you feel pretty without asking for anything in return? Men don’t turn into “husband-material” overnight — it takes quite a bit of practice! But when you notice these little changes in him, it means he’s on the right track.
Sign #3 – Does He Talk About The Future?
This is my favorite sign of a man who’s really into you. When you’re going steady, or even if you’ve just dated exclusively for a few months, it’s hightime that he starts talking to you about the future — YOUR future together. Trust me — most single men out there are SCARED STIFF of marriage, commitment, and the future. Most men are so hopelessly dependent on their comfort zones that they can’t mature into responsible, capable family men. It takes a man who’s REALLY into you to take the big leap! So ask yourself — is he talking about the future? Does he make plans for the rest of your lives together? Does he feel comfortable talking about commitment and marriage? If so, then pat yourself on the back –you’ve found someone who’s really, really into you! If he still isn’t talking about the future, it’s best not to push the issue. He’s the one who’s supposed to bring it up with you, not the other way around!Remember, the one who makes the plans is the one in control of the relationship. And it’s best to leave that part of things to him. Remember, you are the prize and deserve to be treated as such. If he doesn’t comply, there is clearly something wrong with him (could be crazy) and/or his judgement. Move on to someone better who is NORMAL!
Too many women take “control” and play the “mommy” role. They force the issue with ultimatums and other added means of pressure. Don’t do this. I can guarantee that it will lead to bad marriage! He will most definitely cheat and YOU will be walking on eggshells most of the time. Trust me, when a man is serious about you he takes action especially out of a fear of losing you to someone else! Do you ever notice that when you’re in love with a man — you begin to think everyone else is too? That goes both ways. Besides, do you really want to tell your little ones that mommy gave daddy an ultimatum because he would not commit? That sends the wrong message across to young girls as SHEER DESPERATION!
The marriage that I most admire happened like this: My close friend was dating someone else and her husband did everything he could to win her favor. Sent her flowers every day of the week, hid behind a tree when she was on dates, etc. He KNEW she was THE ONE and did everything he could to MAKE IT HAPPEN! That is how a man acts when he is sure you are THE ONE. They have one of the happiest and strongest marriages that I know of and she absolutely adores him to this day.