Here are five things you’ll need to practice and remember whenever you meet new men. Once you have these tips down to second-nature, you’ll be well on your way to capturing the hearts of the men you meet!
#1 – Keep Your First-Ever Conversation Short And Sweet.
Here’s the very first thing you’ll have to remember — when you’re talking to a man for the very first time, it’s NOT a
good idea to immediately try to carry a long, interesting conversation with him. It’s NOT! Why? Simply because it’s a bad idea to exhaust his interest in you during the very first meeting! It’s MUCH better to keep your first conversation with him short, sweet, and sexy. 5-10 minutes tops — that should be your limit. The idea isn’t to satisfy his curiosity, but to TRIGGER it. Make him think and wonder and fantasize about you after you swap numbers and say goodbye. And quite simply, the best way to do this is to spend 5-10 quick minutes leaving a great, irresistible impression on him. You’ll know when you’re doing it right when, just a few nights later (or less), he calls you up and asks you out on a date.
#2 – Be Comfortable. Anything Goes!
Here’s the second thing — you’ll have to be COMFORTABLE when you’re talking to a guy. You’ll have to feel completely at ease.
You know why? Because most of us women almost automatically feel nervous, uncomfortable, or scared whenever we’re with the men we like. It’s like we feel a huge pressure to make a good
impression. Trust me — if you feel pressured to leave a good impression, chances are you won’t! Here’s an idea — to be comfortable with any guy you meet, you’ll have to have an
“anything goes” personality. Anything goes! In other words, you’ll have to be smart and open-minded enough to be able to carry a conversation, no matter what the topic is. That way, no matter what you talk about, you’ll always have a good story to tell or a good joke to dress up the conversation with! When you can handle any conversation topic, it’s much easier to feel comfortable no matter who you’re talking to. (Especially if it’s a man who’s madly in love with you!)
#3 – Listen.
Of course, it takes two people to carry an interesting conversation. That’s why when he’s talking, it’s best to bite back the urge to butt in, and simply LISTEN!
Remember that one of the biggest turn-offs for men is a woman who talks too much about what SHE thinks, what SHE feels, and how SHE acts. It’s just not cool! And the “popular”
women out there know it’s not cool. That’s why part of the practice in becoming a good conversationalist is knowing when to stop talking and listen to what he has to say! Men find women who know how to listen as very attractive, simply because it shows she’s mature enough to know how to handle her relations with the people she meets. And maturity can be a LOT sexier to men than good looks and a skimpy outfit!
#4 – Use The Right Body Language.
Simple eye contact is probably the easiest, and yet one of the most attractive, kinds of body language you can use to get into a man’s heart. Remember the saying that goes, “Women want to be loved, men want to be respected”? This is definitely true –men love women who respect them.
And when you at least hold his gaze when he’s talking to you, then you’re immediately placing yourself above most of the women he’s met in his life so far. Simply because you respected him just a little more than they did! Of course, there are many other “sexy” pieces of body language you can throw into the mix, like stroking your hair, crossing your legs away from him, and touching him. But you should at least have the “level 1” body language — eye contact — down to an art first. Trust me on this! Oh, and speaking of sexy body language…
#5 – Subtly Let “Sex” Into The Conversation.
No, I’m not telling you to talk to him about sex — that’s just asking for trouble. I’m just stating the undeniable fact that when it comes to sex, men stop what they’re doing and pay attention! Even if it’s just implied, mentioned in passing, or suggested in a double-meaning remark. (The BEST)
For instance, one of my favorite ways to inject sex into the conversation is when an admirer asks me what I did for a living:
“Oh, I work for myself. I like being in charge and being on top of things.” By itself, that statement is harmless. But to a man who’s interested in me, he immediately starts thinking of what I might look like ON TOP OF HIM in bed. Try it out — and you’ll be surprised at how closely he’ll pay attention to you
for the rest of the conversation. And, yes, you can bet he’s going to be VERY interested in another date with you soon!
FYI Whenever I am out with my engagement ring on, I attract men like crazy! They all come around in an attempt to get my attention. That is because competitive men want what they can’t have! Also, they feel much more comfortable approaching you because they have less of a fear of being blown off. They can say to their friends –too bad she is engaged. I actually wear my ring bc I am ENGAGED and have been more than three times. It just occurred to me that everytime I am ENGAGED, that ring becomes a man magnet! They’re thinking, if she’s already taken she must be some catch! I want to check out that situation.