I read an article about the dating scene in Singapore… yet again. It seems that dating is really becoming an important topic for us. In fact, the younger people, those 25 years old and below are also joining dating agencies to find their right partners. But what I found interesting about the article was the fact that most of the people interviewed for the article were focusing on what they want; what they are looking for; the kind of partners they like, etc. But they never once mentioned how they were improving themselves to attract the people they want. I thought that it was very revealing why some of them still have not found their right partners.
Are you too egocentric? You see, people tend to be egocentric. So even when they are looking for their Mr or Ms Right, they are still egocentric. It’s all about “I want this type of character” or “I like that kind of personality.” “I want…”, “I want…”, “I want…” But we tend to be so focused on what we want that we forget what our ideal partner wants. Have you ever put yourself in their shoes and asked: “What do they want? Can I give them what they want? Do I meet their expectations?”
This is the same mistake that most businesses make. They tend to focus on themselves, what they have and what they want. Just take a look at their marketing materials and you will notice that it’s all about themselves – how long they have been around, how big they are, what their products and services offer and the usual puffery. You will be hard pressed to find anything that shows that they are sincerely thinking about their prospects. This is actually one of the biggest stumbling blocks businesses have. They just can’t seem to step out of their own shoes and walk a mile in the shoes of their prospects, so to speak.
Didn’t I always say that interviewing is just like dating?? Read my article entitled “Creativity and Collaboration on Craigslist” from the December 2010 Issue!