There IS a secret. In fact, there are many secrets, and any woman can master them. The secrets of attraction sometimes seem counter-intuitive. But these secrets WORK.
1. MAKE HIM WORK FOR IT
Men are hard-wired to pursue what they want. They have done this since the beginning of time. They see what they want, they go after it! When you turn the tables and pursue HIM, it upsets the natural balance. It makes him see you in a different light. A woman who pursues a man is sometimes seen as desperate. Or worse, she is seen as easy! That is not the kind of impression you want to make. Also, consider this: Think about a time when you really wanted something. Maybe it was a promotion. Maybe that new car. Maybe just the time to watch that new movie. But you had to WORK to get it. You had to put in extra hours. You had to carve out the time to make it work. You had to GO FOR IT. When you did get what you wanted, it was so sweet, wasn’t it? It put you on cloud nine! That’s what happens when a man pursues a woman. He wants her SO much that when he does finally get her, the reward is worth the wait. And of course, we already know YOU are worth the wait! So you should always let him pursue you. He is the one who calls. HE is the one who asks for the dates. HE is the one who keeps the relationship going! Never you.
2. DON’T GET TOO ATTACHED
Once you do get involved with a man, keep your emotional distance for a while. Men are accustomed to women who do just the opposite. They get into a dating relationship and she wants to move fast. Then he puts on the brakes. He puts on the brakes because she starts demanding or expecting too much. So when you do the opposite and stay cool about the situation, it’s a refreshing change of pace! He starts to see you as being very different from the other women he has known. Then he starts to wonder why you are NOT getting attached. Maybe he needs to step up his game! His attraction for you grows when it appears that you are cool and calm about a relationship. When you are hard to get, he wants to get you even MORE.
3. BE VERY SELECTIVE
Men are intrigued by women who do NOT play the field. They are intrigued by women who choose only high-quality partners for their dates. The other men he sees you with becoming a measuring stick. He measures your attractiveness based on what OTHER men think of you. The more selective you are in choosing the men you enjoy, the more attracted he will be to you. Being selective is what you should be doing anyway – not just to attract the man of your dreams, but to find the ultimate enjoyment in your personal life. When a man sees that you choose only the finer things in life – including the finer men -he will want to BE one of those men. You will force him to step up his game. That goes both ways. Think about it. If you see a handsome successful man with a fat and sloppy woman what does that say about him?? You can’t help but judge a man by his ex-wife or be turned off by his former partner/girlfriend if she is loud and unattractive in any way because that person is a reflection of YOU! It goes both ways. As I always say, it is better to be Single and Selective than to Settle and be Stuck for life with Someone Subpar. 🙂
4. DON’T LET HIM STEP OVER THE LINE
This is the point where a lot of women make big mistakes. The first time something goes wrong and he tests how far he can push things in the direction HE wants them to go, she agrees! When a man sees that you will put up with his BS, he loses all respect for you. He decides that he can walk all over you if he chooses to do so. But if you call him on his crap and show him that you have a backbone – and it is MUCH stronger than his! – he will be more attracted to you than ever before.
5. LIVE A FULL AND RICH LIFE
Another mistake many women make is catering to his wants and needs. They become involved in HIS hobbies and spend time with HIS friends. They start to change their lives. They do this because they didn’t have a rich life to begin with. They were looking for someone to inject some excitement into their days! You can avoid this trap by creating a full and rich life all on your own -with NO man involved. Cultivate your own hobbies. Get out and do things! Read about current events. Visit new places. Make new friends. Spend time with friends, both male and female. Soon your social calendar will be full, and you will have to find time to work in dates with that man who wants so badly to spend time with you!
6. OFFER PLENTY OF SEX APPEAL
There is no doubt that all of the above points will help you attract a man. But what is the BIGGEST attraction of all? Sex appeal! It might seem like sex appeal is tough to get, but it is actually easier than you think. Sex appeal is ALL about confidence. You KNOW you are a wonderful, intelligent and happy woman. Those things are sexy! Start right now by working on your confidence. The more you believe in yourself, the more confident you will be. Confidence translates into passion, and that thrills him like nothing else! Passion for all things that life has to offer!
7. CHALLENGE HIM!
Finally, always challenge him. Give him new things to think about. Give him a new outlook on life. Long conversations that debate hot-button topics are great for this. Find a current event that he feels strongly about and play devil’s advocate. Watch his temperature rise! Ask intelligent questions. Learn a little bit about everything there is to know! Most importantly, learn about HIM and what makes him tick. Then you can push him just a little bit. Offer an opinion that is different from his. Be ready to debate it and hold your ground. He will get hot under the collar in more ways than one! A man loves a sexy woman who is not afraid to voice her own opinions. He loves a woman who will stand up for what she thinks, even if that means directly challenging what HE thinks. It makes life exciting in more ways than one! I for one march to the beat of my own drummer and formulate my own opinions regardless of how unpopular they are with anyone! Even if you are in love with a man who has a different opinion or set of values than you do you must be true to yourself. Do not accept his ideas as your own so that he will accept you. That is pathetic–be who you are! If he cannot accept your views then he wasn’t a keeper in the first place. 🙂