Just wanted to do a quick blog – going back to my first blog post that answers one of the questions I posted. If you haven’t read it, well here it is: http://www.asiancemagazine.com/2011/10/01/once-you-go–you-never-go-back.
Any who, the question I want to answer is “Would you date any other race besides African-American?”
So here’s the main thing – I can’t consider dating any other race because ultimately I’m in a relationship ^_^ I know, cheap cop-out. But if I wasn’t in one, I would say yes, I would consider other races. When I was in middle school I had the biggest infatuation with White guys – I mean huge – and maybe that’s because I grew up in a small town in South Carolina, so it figures, right? Not too many Asians out there..so I was drawn to what I saw around me.
What I think it comes down to is what you’re familiar with, the behavior of that person and how they were brought up that makes them attractive. For whatever reason, and for no reason at all – you choose people because of who they are. That’s why I think it’s sad to hear people or see people unaccepting of IR relationships. Stares from people who don’t like it or don’t understand cut like knives.
Just this past Vietnamese New Year’s, George and I went to the Tet (Vietnamese New Year) Fair by my house. I hadn’t been there in ages since I hate the crowds and I always feel like people stare, which is probably me being paranoid. We went anyways for the food because I love Vietnamese food and so does George. We were probably there no more than an hour waiting in line. The entire time I walked around with George next to me it felt like people were staring. Maybe because they don’t normally see too many Black people at the fairs or maybe because he was with me. I couldn’t stand it and that’s why I rarely dwell where there are too many Asians in one place – not because I don’t like them, but because it always feels like they’re staring and thinking, “she’s with a Black dude, yikes!”
Assumptions bite you in the ass, but in the end I didn’t care; however, to know that’s the vibe I get – it’s not very settling. Let’s all change the way we make others feel next time. Now that’s some food for thought.
Random, I know:
I want to go watch The Vow, George wants to watch Safe House. Who’s gonna get their way tonight? Probably George since he’s taking me on a date – he owes me. I ironed his clothes today =)
Mardi Gras is in the air down in the NOLA. If I go to any of the parades, I’ll try and take some pics for you guys, but can’t make any promises as it gets kinda craaazyy lol. Laissez les bon temps rouler!