Do you ever wonder what attracts men and how YOU can use that knowledge to bring more men into your circle? These tips on what attracts men will draw them to you like flies to honey. Have you ever wondered what it takes to keep a man’s attention? I’m not talking about simply GETTING his attention. I’m talking about keeping it. When you really think about it, what does it take to get that initial look from a guy? If you are wearing a nice dress or the jeans that flatter your figure, you’re going to get a glance. If your hair is gorgeous, your lips are smiling and your eyes are bright with curiosity, you are going to get a second glance! But attracting a man’s attention is only the first step. Learning what attracts men after that initial flirtation is what will keep him coming back for more. What TRULY attracts men are the things they can picture enjoying for the long haul.
ATTRACTION #1: MAKE THINGS EASY AND FUN
The woman who walks into the room in that killer dress will turn heads, sure. But the woman who is smiling, laughing and chatting it up with everyone will make a bigger impression before the night is through. That’s because men definitely notice looks, but they also notice the women who make them feel good. A warm smile and a flirty hello makes them feel good! When they strike up a conversation with you, choose topics that are interesting but not too personal. Let the discussion flow where it may. Keep things easy and light. He might have been intrigued by how good you look. (Poor man can’t help himself!) But he got even more interested when you started talking. THIS is what attracts men!
ATTRACTION #2: LEARN THE ART OF CONVERSATION
Now that you’re talking, make the most of the time you have with him. People love to talk about themselves. You know it’s true! Have you ever noticed that your BEST girlfriends are also the best listeners? They are the ones who REALLY pay attention. That’s why you love them so much! They notice what you say. They pay attention. That’s exactly what you need to do for the guy you’re interested in. Ask him questions about his life. When he mentions something interesting, jump on it and ask him to tell you more. Really listen to him, and make a mental note of what seems to get him talking faster. There are plenty of women in the place for him to look at, but there aren’t many women who are focused on him to the exclusion of the other men in the room. If YOU are that woman, he will appreciate it and take advantage of it. He will definitely notice that you pay attention, and that will definitely attract him to you. In fact, he might ditch his buddies, find a quiet corner and talk to you all night long.
ATTRACTION #3: USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
But don’t let things move into the friend zone as you talk and get to know each other. Keep the tension high with your body language. It’s okay to touch him. Occasionally and lightly! Put your hand on his equipment as you move from your seat. (just kidding) shoulder—put your hands on his shoulder! Reach out and touch his hand as he leans forward to tell you something important. Play with the rim of your glass with your fingertips. Tilt you head to the side as you listen to him. Make good eye contact and have a smile at the ready. Remember, open body language – keeping your body turned toward him, keeping your arms open and relaxed, crossing your legs in his direction – are subconscious triggers that tell him you are interested. As you talk, get a little closer. Let him see that you are interested in him for more than just someone to talk to. He will definitely notice!
ATTRACTION #4: WOW HIM WITH YOUR INTELLIGENCE
What will you do when he asks about you? It’s not a good idea to reveal too much. That takes away the mystery, and you don’t want that. What you DO want is to make him see who you really are, inside – beyond the beautiful package. This is where you talk about things that you are interested in. Maybe you read an article about time travel that intrigued you. Maybe you are trying to get up the nerve to go skydiving. Or maybe you were thrilled with the new movie that everyone else thinks was a dud. It’s time to explain exactly what you loved about it! When he sees that you can hold an intelligent conversation, that you love to learn and that you aren’t afraid to explore the world, he will find an instant respect for you.
ATTRACTION #5: MAKE HIM LAUGH
All this time, don’t forget to laugh! A woman who is smiling has a glow about her. It is the kind of glow that says she is happy, comfortable in her own skin and looking to share some happiness with someone. Men are very attracted to women who seem to have that light shining from within. So laugh at his jokes. If he seems the sarcastic kind, don’t be afraid of a little sarcasm of your own. Make bad puns and laugh about them. Zing in a one-liner here and there. Don’t fancy yourself a comedian? You don’t have to be. Just as long as you are laughing at what he has to say, he will appreciate the attention. A woman who smiles is a woman who attracts men. In the shadow of a mega-watt smile, all the other women will fade away, and you are the only one left. And he will want to make you smile again!
ATTRACTION #6: KEEP THE MYSTERY
Now that you have hooked him, it’s time to reel him in, right? Wrong! Now is the time to smile, tell him what a great time you have had talking with him, and prepare to walk away. At THIS point, any man worth his salt will try to get you to stay. And you can stay – but only for a little while. When you try to leave again, THIS is when he will ask for your phone number. You have just given him all the things he wants to see in a woman, and now he wants to keep in touch. He wants to see you again. He has so many more questions to ask! But don’t jump immediately at a date with him, no matter how much you like him. Don’t reveal too much about yourself, no matter how comfortable you are in talking to him. What attracts men for the long haul is mystery! You want to let him know you are fun, thoughtful, and a joy to be around. You want him to count down the hours until he sees you again. (I never have that problem). You’ve made a good start. So hand over your phone number with a smile, and don’t be surprised if he calls bright and early the next day. He’s definitely attracted to you in all the ways that count! Make him want you! Make him want me? I have quite the opposite problem! WINK
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