I had a talk yesterday with my sister about marriage, as it dwells and hangs over all of us as we get older each year. Seeing that George and I have been together for almost 7 years now..the only question next is marriage. But you see it’s not that easy. We’re trying to establish ourselves first, then consider marriage. That’s not the only thing that concerns me however. My sister brought up religion, and trust religion and my dad are nothing to be played with.
I was raised Catholic and by my dad’s right hand, I will be forever a Catholic. So how can I get married to someone who is not Catholic? According to my sister, I can’t marry in a Catholic church unless my spouse-to-be converts. I thought to myself, “I’ve made it ok in my mind and my family’s mind to say our relationship is worth it, and now God’s hand has a say also?” Well if that doesn’t beat a dead horse when he’s down!
So now converting looms in my head. I know George goes with me to church sometimes, but to change his entire faith so that he and I can marry in a Catholic church, or marry at all? I don’t think he’ll do it.
Exhibit A: I take my late uncle (R.I.P) who ended up ending his engagement to this beautiful Vietnamese woman because she was Catholic and he was Buddhist. They butted heads over religion and ended it because they wouldn’t come to an agreement of who would convert. Catholics believe that Catholicism is the dominant religion and whoever marries a Catholic should convert to a Catholic.
Exhibit B: My mom who was Buddhist had to convert to Catholicism to marry my dad. Imagine if she never decided to convert, my dad may not have wanted to be with her.
George and I really have to figure out what we want to do, not only that, but decide what religion our children will be. Maybe I’ll do some research and see what other interracial couples do when they can’t decide which religion to follow or if they continue practicing separately.
Decisions, decisions, is there anything really black and white anymore?