Hello Twitterworld friends, I have taken the unusual step of copying and pasting your tweets to me in an effort to do justice with a worthwhile answer; your questions quite touched me and deserves some thought and revisiting.
Thank you firstly for your efforts and secondly for your wonderful
bluntness. I am thoroughly sick of those that cannot be bothered reading profiles/biography and who look only at photos and then interrogate you
Endlessly when all their questions were answered in font, they were just
too lazy to read it. Secondly I despise SMS/DM shorthand: “ I want you, you are great” drives me up the wall, and I find myself wondering whether a
conversation with such persons would also be carried out in shorthand….So to read such an eloquently crafted letter was a joy.
I am extremely sure of my sexuality and what I want out of life with
regard to love: It has to be a man, and an open-minded one at that
because if I am with a man a serious with humor and for the
sexual intimacy that has become a primal part of my psyche. I cannot
get aroused by pussy. Doesn’t mean promoting gay porn star or Playboy model makes me a lesbian or a homosexual. This is to say that I don’t like women; I adore women because I am one, if anything it has freed me to love them for the wonderful gender they are, and to truly appreciate them untainted by being one. The interesting thing is because I am so much more appreciative of them, they in turn find me far more attractive than ever, and cannot understand why I can’t I be one of them. But I think you understand why I chose to act more far better, it’s a personal branding.
It has been difficult. I have always believed if you are scrupulously
honest and dignified then you cannot be hurt. This is not always the
case. If persons choose to despise you because of your sexual choices,
then they hurt you not with the truth but with their perceptions and
lies and gossip.
In that time I have had some good and bad relationships, five long term ones, and yet I am still single. Why? I put it down to compatibility. I need
intellectual stimulation and a high regard and respect for my partner.
While I would never degrade any of my ex partners intelligence, there
is a difference between being smart and being educated, and I
desperately need to communicate on a level above the sexual at times….
I personally compose original quotes. I chose to be correct than being nice, as there’s always often gap in between. I was very much the “woman” with character before finding my true search for a serious man. Have had lovers, but didn’t work and am well versed in the art of pleasure. I have understood for the longest time that sex is like Christmas: it’s by giving that we receive. I am highly sexual and sensual and can enjoy the most sensual and romantic lovemaking, or the wildest most uninhibited extreme sex: what I wish is to find a partner who also has such a broad based sexuality, and better, the intelligence to understand when is the right time to effortlessly segue from one to the other….I want a lover whom I am desperate to excite and delight, one whom I can drain all his juices ecstatically, while he is similarly involved with me. I want someone who I respect and adore, but would
also eagerly rim in the nightclub toilet if it so pleased us to do
so…But there is so much more. One whom reads the newspapers (other than
“people”) and doesn’t think that the 5th gospel of the Bible was written
by Oprah….One who has an incisive wit, and mostly, one who has business
sense and commonsense, whom I can talk over decisions, and who is
intellectually, spiritually and directionally a true equal.
It appears to me that they are sensualist extraordinaire and a bit of a fetishist. Which is fascinating. I have a very dirty and naughty side that has, due to a lack of suitably erotic partners, lain dormant for a while….
Your honesty and wisdom are applauded and adored by me, as is your
earthy sexuality and intelligence that fuels me to become. You are all very highly admired, and I can only hope that we continue to nurture a connection between us…on Twitter and Facebook.
You inspire my thinking processes, and inflame my simmering libido.
Happy Holi, Sophia Abella