What is Tantric Sex?
In a nutshell, The point is to channel all the sexual energy that would normally leave during an orgasm, back into your body. It gives you so much energy and a special beyond close connection!
Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion play to reach new levels of lusty satisfaction. “The idea is to build arousal very slowly so you both stay just below the boiling point for as long as possible, that way you really focus on the full sexual journey — getting turned on, stimulating each of your five senses for maximum passion, harmonizing your sexual rhythms.” The result is an out-of-body bond with your partner plus very physical ecstatic orgasms.
“In the classical sexual ritual, the participants worship each other as embodiments of deities. We encourage people to bring an attitude of reverence into their lovemaking and to all their interactions. The tantric approach has far more to do with your mental approach than with technique. It’s certainly got nothing to do with bragging about staying power.”
But in tantric sex, you can feel pleasure longer, Lovemaking is part of the tradition, the tantrics of old recognized that orgasm can be a mystical experience, often the most readily accessible mystical experience of all. During orgasm, the mind goes quiet, and you may feel a sense of merger — be it with a partner or even with all that is.
For most of us, the transcendent potential in sex is something that’s experienced only briefly, during the orgasm itself. If you extend arousal and focus on building it (this need not include genital intercourse), you may start to feel this sense of union well before you have an orgasm, and it is likely to last far longer than it would in more conventional lovemaking. So making it last is a means to an end, not an end in itself. If you can stay turned on for a half hour or so, you’re likely to experience the altered state of consciousness we just described.”
Design an “Intimacy Space”
This should be a comfortable area that is playful and relaxed. First, clear the room of any attention-grabbing clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics. Scent is really important to our sensuality, so try natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Make sure your bed is as comfortable as possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, chose a soundtrack of music that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your mood.
Breathe Each Other’s Breath
Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. “Becoming conscious about your breath is central to all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra,” says Strgar.
Keep Your Eyes Open
“The idea of making love with your eyes open is one of the fundamentals of deep connection in intimacy,” says Strgar. “It is surprisingly harder to do than you might expect. Move toward this idea as an intention rather than a rule and be amazed as the collection of glimpses that will reshape how you think about your partner and yourself. It is not easy to be seen, even by the people we love. Truly witnessing the act of love is profoundly transformative.”
Take it Slow
Sorry guys, foreplay is essential in Tantra. A leisurely, slow build helps men control longevity and piques women’s arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.
8 Tantric Sex Positions
1) The Hot Seat
Because your bodies are squeezed together so tightly, this position allows for intense pressure.
2) Get Down On It
Yoga fanatics, this one couldn’t be more perfect for you.
3) The Amazing Butterfly
This position is primo for unequaled ecstasy without high-energy commitment.
4) Row His Boat
This traditional girl-on-top pose includes a tempting twist.
5) The Wow-Him Powwow
This takes eye contact and body-to-body closeness to the max but adds a passionate perk.
6) The Mermaid
Keeping your legs together creates lots of blissful friction and an incredibly tight fit.
7) The Sofa Spread-Eagle
While your stable stance allows you to move to his rhythm, your wide-spread legs give you that super sexy vulnerable feeling.
8) Torrid Tidal Wave
Nothing beats this pose when you want to take a make-out session on a secluded beach to a passion plateau.
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