Crafting Your Sexual Identity

Asian women in the United States are often subjected to some rather unfair stereotypes and assumptions with regard to love and sex. There is no real negative meaning to these assumptions, but it is still true that many non-Asian Americans have certain opinions about and expectations of Asian women. In fact, many people even go so far as to label women from China, Korea, Japan, etc. with different elements of beauty and sexual attitudes relative to nationality and background! Some of these assumptions are based on experience, some on pop culture, and some on small truths. Regardless, it is important that as an Asian American you ignore these stereotypes to form your own identity with regard to love and sex.

It is usually the case that Americans don’t mean anything negative by their sexual stereotypes of Asian women. In fact, a large portion of American men find Asian women to be particularly beautiful and sexy. However, if you get caught up in expectations and labels, it is easy to begin to play the part, even quite by accident. Instead, you should work on building up a healthy dating and sex life entirely based upon your own preferences, and your own romantic drive. Here are a few suggestions for how to construct a healthy and active sex life through finding your own preferences and desires.

• Try to go on actual dates. It’s easy enough to meet guys in bars, and if you feel so inclined, you can probably go home and have some fun with them. This is completely fine, if it’s something that you enjoy. But actually going on real dates with guys opens up other possibilities. For one, you can be more selective about who you spend your time with, and additionally, you increase the chances of really connecting with someone, which can lead to a far more satisfying experience. And if you don’t connect, you can always try again.
• Try new things. Even if you thoroughly enjoy sex your own way, you may be completely unaware of some new and exciting things that could make it even better. For example, try new positions and styles with your partner or partners, or if you really want to spice things up head to adameve.com and pick out a few sex toys and accessories. You may be surprised, once you start trying, at how many different ways you can enjoy sexual experiences.

Ultimately, creating your own romantic identity is a process that is entirely dependent upon your own preferences and your acceptance of experimentation and adaptation. But as illustrated by the advice above, the best way to go about crafting this identity is to actually try new things and figure out who you are with regard to romance and sex.