{"id":10193,"date":"2011-09-03T04:09:10","date_gmt":"2011-09-03T04:09:10","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2025-10-15T00:59:21","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T00:59:21","slug":"mind-of-man-here-s-why-we-don-t-call-you-back","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=10193","title":{"rendered":"Mind Of Man: Here\u2019s Why We Don\u2019t Call You Back"},"content":{"rendered":"

Chances are the reason he hasn\u2019t called you back is because he doesn\u2019t want to talk to you. Maybe he can\u2019t talk to you. Maybe he\u2019s fighting pirates, composing an opera, shampooing orphaned kittens.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If he hasn\u2019t called you back, don\u2019t hemorrhage. Don\u2019t instant message your bestie to bitch and moan. I\u2019ve observed many of you in the wild; bitching and moaning begats more bitching and moaning. A dude not calling you back will snowball into ridiculousness. The simplest, most reasonable answer is the right one. His phone could have been turned off, his grandmother could have died, he could have been hit by a truck and has amnesia. Simple, right?<\/em><\/strong> <\/p>\n

Women are so fatalistic when it comes to interpreting male actions or inactions. We\u2019re not tea leaves, financial data, or post-modern fiction. Odds are if we haven\u2019t called you back, it\u2019s not because we think you\u2019re a loony bird fatty who smells like olives and is crazy. It\u2019s probs because we\u2019re flakes, our dude brains crammed with video game scores, baseball statistics, and pure white noise. If he says he\u2019s \u201cbusy,\u201d it\u2019s because he\u2019s \u201cbusy.\u201d In manese, \u201cbusy\u201d does not translate to \u201cI hate you.\u201d<\/p>\n

Of course, there is the other hand. I\u2019ll speak from my experience, but the reasons I\u2019ve \u201cnot called her back\u201d range from the flighty to the downright selfish and douchey. I\u2019ve not called her back because I was thoughtless or because I was spineless. A couple of times, it was because of her expectations of what our relationship would be versus what was real, and I didn\u2019t have the energy or the heart to painfully explain the truth of the situation,<\/em><\/strong> and I hoped that she\u2019d just \u2026 disappear. Which is also spineless. I\u2019ll confess to having been through a post-breakup, slightly sadistic, deeply angry phase where I didn\u2019t call or text back because I could. It\u2019s remarkable how love can sometimes rot and decompose into cruelty.<\/p>\n

In dating, you\u2019re either playing a mind game or taking brave, slightly drunk leaps of faith. Personally, if I wanted to date a mind game, I\u2019d curl up nekkid with a Sudoku book. So, me let me reiterate. He\u2019s probably busy, flustered, thinking about you, juggling life. If he\u2019s not that into you, you\u2019ll know it. If he\u2019s not that into you, you probably knew it before he had a chance to not call you back.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

There are dozens of reasons why he didn\u2019t call you back, text you back, Facebook, Twitter, or email. But there\u2019s only one reason why he does call you back: because he wants you. And that\u2019s a 110 percent true fact. Now, it could be he just wants to park it inside you. Well, I mean, he definitely does. But that\u2019s not the entire equation. Calling you back is different than desperately sweating you at a bar like a horny swamp donkey. Remember that dudes are not complicated. We\u2019re pretty binary when it comes to this stuff; it\u2019s either game on or game off.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

We call you back because we\u2019re crazy about you. That\u2019s what men do. Shut-up beta males. (Don\u2019t take that from me. Stand up for yourselves.) When we meet someone whose smile is a Martian raygun set to \u201camazing,\u201d it is our manly responsibility to woo. Steal her heart at all costs. Call her back and ask her about her day. Text her witty, casual regards. Email her sweet \u201cwhaddups?\u201d Read her blogs, her Twitters, absorb her brain. To be clear, when the game is on, we play to win.<\/p>\n

Of course, sometimes guys can come off … a little too eager. We can call and text a little too much. Or say and text the wrong things. For instance, hypothetically speaking, we can get drunk and in a cab home transform into a horrid Lord Byron\/Quasimodo mash-up and drop multiple, overly affectionate texts. Not obscene, or inappropriate \u2026 emo … and slightly desperate. This can happen. Or so I\u2019ve heard. And then maybe y\u2019all are like, \u201cWhoa, cowboy. We\u2019ve been on two dates.\u201d This is when you should remember all those times we didn\u2019t call you back.<\/p>\n

A very funny read is “Kiss My Tiara” by Susan Jane Gilman. I give that book to dear friends to get them to start laughing if this ever happens.<\/em><\/strong> \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

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