{"id":10956,"date":"2011-10-29T23:10:54","date_gmt":"2011-10-29T23:10:54","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2025-10-15T00:59:21","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T00:59:21","slug":"would-you-rather-die-enormous-than-live-dormant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=10956","title":{"rendered":"Would you rather die enormous than live dormant?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m a firm believer a person that knows everything about everything is both an idiot and dangerous. <\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s why I believe people should be encouraged to ask questions no matter how many times the question has been thoroughly explored by others before. Sure, it get annoying when you hear the same questions over and over again. What&#8217;s more annoying than replying to a redundant question? To me, having to intervene when something awful happens that could have been prevented if someone asked some questions before acting on limited knowledge. <\/p>\n<p>Now, here\u2019s my personal shell, I am 29 years old, fair, tall and smooth, and I have had men tell me I am attractive. The thing I can\u2019t understand is that why is that all the unattractive men are the ones chasing me? I usually attract men that are either black, married, overweight, or just fugly in general. We\u2019re not talking being friendly, they try to get my phone number, they follow me, want to go out with me, etc. etc. etc.<\/p>\n<p>After all my personal experience in dating scenario and relationship world, I conked myself to have to lay low for a while. Every person that comes into our life has a reason, we should not feel regret and think them as weapons to face in our new life journey. There may be some bad memories we choose to bury in silence. As we have this saying, \u201ctime will heal the wounds\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>Have met different types of men around the globe, that\u2019s how I get to know man&#8217;s world. I felt enough and content, then I vowed myself to celibacy. I have never thought, all these failings can bring me to the positive world. Looking back those years, now I can smile and be at myself. Lately, certain events playing in my mind boggles me, may be because I\u2019ve been dormant for awhile, facing level 30s which has resulted me in questioning lately if I am doing right or wrong? Am I perfectionist or masachoist? <\/p>\n<p>Why can\u2019t I have boys that are normal weight, white, and are attractive chase me? I would really love to have the handsome ones chase me at least once in a while, I just can\u2019t understand why I am a magnet to men I don\u2019t like? I\u2019m not racist and I\u2019m not shallow towards overweight or ugly men, I just don\u2019t see why it\u2019s the same damn thing over and over. I do not want a model,  I just want someone like me, someone that I am attracted to.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s just the same damn thing over and over. If it\u2019s not some black guy, it\u2019s a fat guy, if it\u2019s not a fat guy, it\u2019s some hunk with some freaky face. And it just keeps repeating over and over. Wanting someone that matches my standards isn\u2019t a high standard. I see guys always holding hands with beautiful women everyday. *shakes head*<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m a firm believer a person that knows everything about everything is both an idiot and dangerous. 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