{"id":12339,"date":"2012-02-17T03:02:40","date_gmt":"2012-02-17T03:02:40","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2025-10-15T11:01:49","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T11:01:49","slug":"responding-to-nosy-questions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=12339","title":{"rendered":"Responding to Nosy Questions"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><em>Problem: A nosy friend asks how much green you spent on your car, your clothes, or your house, and you think it&#8217;s none of her business.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Solution: <\/strong>  When someone asks an invasive question, you&#8217;re never obligated to answer, says Laurie Puhn, a relationship expert in New York City. Some women are made of plastic, man!  &#8220;If she asked about your favorite sexual positions, would you feel you had to tell her? Probably not,&#8221; Puhn says. The next time this friend asks the price of a new leather handbag, Puhn suggests saying something like: &#8220;I have a new policy that I&#8217;m not going to share prices or salaries. It&#8217;s nothing personal. I&#8217;ve just found it&#8217;s easier not to discuss finances with friends.&#8221; Or try what etiquette expert Anna Post, author of Emily Post&#8217;s Wedding Parties ($23, amazon.com), calls the &#8220;gently evasive&#8221; approach. &#8220;If your friend asks what you paid for your new house, say, &#8216;Well, probably a little more than I should have, but I am so happy with it.&#8217; Then immediately change the subject: &#8216;Can I give you a tour?'&#8221; suggests Post. &#8220;Your answer indicates that the issue is not open for discussion.&#8221;  <\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Now I am going to come out with Marisa Sung&#8217;s Rules of Modern Day Etiquette as soon as possible as there clearly is a market out there that is hungry for it.<\/em><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p><\/em><\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/living.msn.com\/life-inspired\/live-your-dream\/slideshow?cp-documentid=30940248\">SOURCE<\/a><br \/>\n<!--break--><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Problem: A nosy 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