{"id":15163,"date":"2013-03-20T02:03:35","date_gmt":"2013-03-20T02:03:35","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2013-04-16T20:04:27","modified_gmt":"2013-04-16T20:04:27","slug":"Turning-On-with-Sex-Love-and-Attention-with-Sophia-Abella","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=15163","title":{"rendered":"Turning On! with Sex, Love, and Attention with Sophia Abella"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hello Twitterworld friends, I have taken the unusual step of copying and pasting your tweets to me in an effort to do justice with a worthwhile answer; your questions quite touched me and deserves some thought and revisiting.<\/p>\n<p><object width=\"420\" height=\"315\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/hQgSNoNnnsQ?hl=en_US&amp;version=3&amp;rel=0\"><\/param><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\"><\/param><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\"><\/param><embed src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/hQgSNoNnnsQ?hl=en_US&amp;version=3&amp;rel=0\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Thank you firstly for your efforts and secondly for your wonderful<br \/>\nbluntness. I am thoroughly sick of those that cannot be bothered reading profiles\/biography and who look only at photos and then interrogate you<br \/>\nEndlessly when all their questions were answered in font, they were just<br \/>\ntoo lazy to read it. Secondly I despise SMS\/DM shorthand: \u201c I want you, you are great\u201d drives me up the wall, and I find myself wondering whether a<br \/>\nconversation with such persons would also be carried out in shorthand\u2026.So to read such an eloquently crafted letter was a joy.<\/p>\n<p>I am extremely sure of my sexuality and what I want out of life with<br \/>\nregard to love: It has to be a man, and an open-minded one at that<br \/>\nbecause if I am with a man a serious with humor and for the<br \/>\nsexual intimacy that has become a primal part of my psyche. I cannot<br \/>\nget aroused by pussy. Doesn\u2019t mean promoting gay porn star or Playboy model makes me a lesbian or a homosexual. This is to say that I don\u2019t like women; I adore women because I am one, if anything it has freed me to love them for the wonderful gender they are, and to truly appreciate them untainted by being one. The interesting thing is because I am so much more appreciative of them, they in turn find me far more attractive than ever, and cannot understand why I can&#8217;t I be one of them. But I think you understand why I chose to act more far better, it\u2019s a personal branding.<\/p>\n<p>It has been difficult. I have always believed if you are scrupulously<br \/>\nhonest and dignified then you cannot be hurt. This is not always the<br \/>\ncase. If persons choose to despise you because of your sexual choices,<br \/>\nthen they hurt you not with the truth but with their perceptions and<br \/>\nlies and gossip.<\/p>\n<p>In that time I have had some good and bad relationships, five long term ones, and yet I am still single. Why? I put it down to compatibility. I need<br \/>\nintellectual stimulation and a high regard and respect for my partner.<br \/>\nWhile I would never degrade any of my ex partners intelligence, there<br \/>\nis a difference between being smart and being educated, and I<br \/>\ndesperately need to communicate on a level above the sexual at times\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>I personally compose original quotes. I chose to be correct than being nice, as there\u2019s always often gap in between. I was very much the \u201cwoman\u201d with character before finding my true search for a serious man. Have had lovers, but didn&#8217;t work and am well versed in the art of pleasure. I have understood for the  longest time that sex is like Christmas: it\u2019s by giving that we receive. I am highly sexual and sensual and can enjoy the most sensual and romantic lovemaking, or the wildest most uninhibited extreme sex: what I wish is to find a partner who also has such a broad based sexuality, and better, the intelligence to understand when is the right time to effortlessly segue from one to the other\u2026.I want a lover whom I am desperate to excite and delight, one whom I can drain all his juices ecstatically, while he is similarly involved with me. I want someone who I respect and adore, but would<br \/>\nalso eagerly rim in the nightclub toilet if it so pleased us to do<br \/>\nso\u2026But there is so much more. One whom reads the newspapers (other than<br \/>\n\u201cpeople\u201d) and doesn\u2019t think that the 5th gospel of the Bible was written<br \/>\nby Oprah\u2026.One who has an incisive wit, and mostly, one who has business<br \/>\nsense and commonsense, whom I can talk over decisions, and who is<br \/>\nintellectually, spiritually and directionally a true equal.<\/p>\n<p>It appears to me that they are sensualist extraordinaire and a bit of a fetishist. Which is fascinating. I have a very dirty and naughty side that has, due to a lack of suitably erotic partners, lain dormant for a while\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>Your honesty and wisdom are applauded and adored by me, as is your<br \/>\nearthy sexuality and intelligence that fuels me to become. You are all very highly admired, and I can only hope that we continue to nurture a connection between us\u2026on Twitter and Facebook.<\/p>\n<p>You inspire my thinking processes, and inflame my simmering libido.<br \/>\nHappy Holi, Sophia Abella<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hello Twitterworld friends, I have taken the unusual step of copying and pasting your tweets to me in an effort<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3430,"featured_media":72448,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"colormag_page_container_layout":"default_layout","colormag_page_sidebar_layout":"default_layout","footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15163","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"magazineBlocksPostFeaturedMedia":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x150.jpg","medium":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","medium_large":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","large":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","1536x1536":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","2048x2048":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-highlighted-post":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-featured-post-medium":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-featured-post-small":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x90.jpg","colormag-featured-image":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-default-news":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x150.jpg","colormag-featured-image-large":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-block-extra-large-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-grid-large-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-grid-small-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-grid-medium-large-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg"},"magazineBlocksPostAuthor":{"name":"mollievzqkcboxrsdbvw","avatar":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/af49673fbe75a5862eb974b1f584c702c2e96993699ead39246fa5c8810d8df9?s=96&d=mm&r=g"},"magazineBlocksPostCommentsNumber":"8","magazineBlocksPostExcerpt":"Hello Twitterworld friends, I have taken the unusual step of copying and pasting your tweets to me in an effort","magazineBlocksPostCategories":[],"magazineBlocksPostViewCount":263,"magazineBlocksPostReadTime":4,"magazine_blocks_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg",113,170,false],"medium":["https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg",113,170,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x150.jpg",113,150,true]},"magazine_blocks_author":{"display_name":"mollievzqkcboxrsdbvw","author_link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?author=3430"},"magazine_blocks_comment":8,"magazine_blocks_author_image":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/af49673fbe75a5862eb974b1f584c702c2e96993699ead39246fa5c8810d8df9?s=96&d=mm&r=g","magazine_blocks_category":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15163","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3430"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15163"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15163\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/72448"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15163"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15163"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15163"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}