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How to message your way into her heart (or at least her bed).<\/strong><\/p>\n

They say sex is like pizza\u2014that even when it\u2019s bad, it\u2019s still pretty good. Unfortunately, that time-worn analogy does not apply to dating. Having a truly fantastic date is rare enough; you don\u2019t want to ruin it by screwing up the postdate communication. Texting the right things at the right time is practically essential to making that second date happen. So herewith, our trusty category_ide to playing it cool over text while still displaying a pulse:<\/p>\n

Initial Timing<\/strong>
\nWhen you send that first text is crucial. Swingers came out almost 20 years ago, before we lived in a world of constant technological contact. There\u2019s nothing wrong with saying you had a great time within hours\u2014minutes, even\u2014of parting. However: There is a creepiness window you\u2019ll want to avoid if you miss the first timing wave. Don\u2019t text her at 2 a.m. unless you want her to think she was merely the last stop on your Tinder tour. Nor should you be texting her right when your alarm goes off. Either contact her immediately after the date\u2026or wait till the next afternoon.<\/p>\n

Quality content <\/strong>
\nYou just spent about five hours together. Surely in that time she mentioned a favorite band or a common saying that neither of you have ever quite understood. You can do better than \u201cHey. Hows yr day?\u201d An abbreviated text not only kills her hopes for banter but also puts the onus on her to come up with something clever. Remember: There\u2019s nothing desperate about using full sentences. And no emojis, please. You\u2019ll make yourself sound like a Japanese teenager. You know who wants to date Japanese teenagers? Other Japanese teenagers.<\/p>\n

Response Timing<\/strong>
\nIf you happen to be holding your phone in your hand when she replies, yes, you are allowed to wait. But the game playing must stop there. Unless you are the President (in which case maybe you shouldn\u2019t be playing the field?), there\u2019s no excuse for taking more than four hours to respond. Phones die, emergencies arise, reception gets lost, but know that sometime between hour three and hour four, women start thinking of reasons why you weren\u2019t so great anyway. <\/p>\n

Getting Sexy Selfies<\/strong>
\nSure, you\u2019re attracted to this new girl for a multitude of reasons, but when she\u2019s not around, it\u2019s not her funny stories you\u2019re fantasizing about. Here\u2019s how to obtain photographic evidence of her hotness without seeming like a perv: Don\u2019t ask. Don\u2019t come out of the gate demanding a \u201chot\u201d or \u201ccute\u201d pic. Instead, start by asking her what she\u2019s doing or what her plans are for the day. Then, no matter what her response, write \u201cThat I\u2019d like to see.\u201d (Unless she says she\u2019s going to a funeral or getting a colonic.) Once she opens the floodgates with that first pic, feel free to ask for something racier.<\/p>\n

Moving from Tinder to Text<\/strong>
\nWhen you move a conversation from Tinder (or any dating app), imagine yourself as a big cat that just picked up a kitten by the scruff of her neck. You can\u2019t just drop her into a new medium like everything\u2019s normal. You hardly know this person. Try employing a playful \u201cHey, it\u2019s me, from one of the other bubbles on your phone.\u201d Jumping straight into \u201cWhere are you right now?\u201d can come off as a little too intense. Remember: All of this is meant to turn her on. And that\u2019s not gonna happen if she turns off her phone.<\/p>\n

SOURCE:<\/strong> http:\/\/www.maxim.com\/sex-relationships\/how-sext-grownup<\/p>\n

Da Ya Think I’m Sexy<\/em><\/strong>
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