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On Apr 22, during the Q&A segment of a reading I did at Barnes & Noble last year, someone asked, \u201cDo you spit or swallow?” He did not raise his hand, nor did he speak loud enough so I could hear him. Rather, he asked the question just loud enough so my family seated immediately in the row in front of him could hear. On Apr 22, during the Q&A segment of a reading I did at Barnes & Noble last year, someone asked, “Do you spit or swallow?” He did not raise his hand, nor did he speak loud enough so I could hear him. Rather, he asked the question just loud enough so my family seated immediately in the row in front of him could hear.<\/i> <\/p>\n

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I mean, you really can’t say, “Actually, I would prefer a pearl necklace, please,” when you have a dick in your mouth. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Jessica Cutler<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Since he was so fixated on me that he went out of his way to attend my reading, we can assume that he reads this column on a regular basis. To answer your question, anonymous heckler, I do neither: I do not spit, nor do I swallow. <\/p>\n

That’s not to say that I haven’t done either in the past, but I always felt uncomfortable with the presumptuous nature of the “spit or swallow” dichotomy, as if those are my only two choices. I mean, you really can’t say, “Actually, I would prefer a pearl necklace, please,” when you have a dick in your mouth. <\/p>\n

And aren’t we supposed to be using condoms anyway? If a man is wearing a condom like he’s supposed to, then spitting and swallowing are not viable options. Although spitting may seem safer than swallowing, think of it this way: Semen is a bodily fluid, just like urine. Would you let a man piss in your mouth? And would you want to swallow it or spit it out? Probably neither, but no judgment against anyone who is into that sort of thing. <\/p>\n

We’re supposed to be using dental dams, too, but I’ve never seen one. Not one in my lifetime has a man ever used one while going down on me, even on my not-so-fresh days. It surprises me how unconcerned some of these men are about safe sex. All the more reason not to let them cum in my mouth! <\/p>\n

However, many women enjoy swallowing their partner’s ejaculate when they finish them off. I’ve done it before, either because I’ve really liked the guy or because I didn’t want to offend him. But I feel really stupid about my behavior in retrospect. It wasn’t safe and I’m damn lucky I didn’t contract any STDs. Maybe I’ll do it again for someone I truly adore in the future, but it’s not likely: I’ll probably just envision him peeing in my mouth and get too grossed-out to go through with it. <\/p>\n

Join Jessica Cutler every month here at www.asiancemagazine.com and www.jessicacutleronline.com<\/a> where she writes about dating, sex and relationships.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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