Chris Rock once said that, when you\u2019re dating someone for the first time, you are meeting his or her representative. All jokes aside, I think there is an element of truth to this statement. Often compared to interviewing for jobs, dating this day and age is a numbers game of showcasing your resume to several applicants until a reply occurs. For the busy, exhausted, or curious, one way to date people on a fast-paced scale is through speed dating.<\/p>\n
Chris Rock once said that, when you\u2019re dating someone for the first time, you are meeting his or her representative. All jokes aside, I think there is an element of truth to this statement. Often compared to interviewing for jobs, dating this day and age is a numbers game of showcasing your resume to several applicants until a reply occurs. For the busy, exhausted, or curious, one way to date people on a fast-paced scale is through speed dating.<\/i><\/p>\n
I was initially lured to speed dating because the event, Meeting Chinese and Korean Singles, (www.prosinthecity.com<\/a>) promised wine and chocolate. And if the aphrodisiacs also led to attraction to the opposite sex, so be it. I had a very open mindset: I wanted to meet, possibly network, and, lastly, consider dating that person. To think I would meet Prince Charming could lead to disappointing results. Finally, I wanted to have a good time in the process!<\/p>\n \nI also caught a glimpse of his scorecard\u2014a list of phone numbers from all the previous women. Enough said.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n All singles were given a nametag and scorecard, where they would take notes about the candidates and check whether they were interested in them or not. If there was a mutual interest, then both people would be given the contact information they allowed to the other (phone and\/or e-mail) the next day.<\/p>\n Even though the event seemed to cater to two ethnic groups only, I met a variety of people: Caucasian, mixed race, and Vietnamese. The age group varied from mid-20s to upper 40s. Given the rather high noise level created by the proximity of others, both parties needed to be vigilant to make a connection. The time spent with each person can be the most grueling or quickest four minutes. I experienced both. With one gentleman, not only could I not hear him, but also he couldn\u2019t understand me. Meanwhile, I was trying to ask unique questions rather than the typical \u201cwhat do you do\u201d questions.<\/p>\n \u201cSo, what annoys you?\u201d I asked. <\/p>\n His eyebrows furrowed and he responded, \u201cOh, I\u2019m not a noisy person. I\u2019m pretty quiet.\u201d <\/p>\n Oh, great. I fumbled, trying to explain in Mandarin, but he still had no clue. This was a problem. <\/p>\n Another candidate cut to the chase and asked for my contact information near the end of the four-minute conversation. He wore a baseball cap and looked attractive. I politely said that, if there is a connection between us, then that information will be revealed. I also caught a glimpse of his scorecard\u2014a list of phone numbers from all the previous women. Enough said.<\/p>\n The next day, I received an e-mail stating that a few matches were made. I kept in touch with some of these matches as friends. To some, this experience was a failure in the dating realm. But, I\u2019d like to think that I met some pretty interesting people all in one night. And, like any other job interview, I just have to keep trying. <\/p>\n Emily is involved in the Organization of Chinese Americans of the greater Washington, DC area (www.ocadc.org<\/a>). 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