After 6 months of being accosted at bars, events, even work related functions, I longed for a nice old fashioned date. Last week, I finally found myself out to dinner, sitting across from a handsome, successful gentlemen on a 51st floor terrace, enjoying the most magnificent salmon, overlooking the most breathtaking park. It was one of the most beautiful nights. I was getting a little tipsy from the $500 bottle of wine and I thought I could not ask for anything more. <\/p>\n
\u201cSo are you going to f*ck me or what?\u201d, he said as my perfect night screeched to a halt like a record being ripped off its record player. <\/p>\n
I was taken aback. <\/p>\n
\u201cExcuse me? This is our first date? Why did you just have to ruin it?\u201d I said as my buzz began to subside. <\/p>\n
\u201cWell this dinner is expensive. Do you think I take EVERY girl out like this?\u201d he replied. <\/p>\n
Since when did dinner become a ticket for a lay? Did I come across as some prostitute? <\/p>\n
\u201cDid I come across as some hooker?\u201d, I asked<\/p>\n
\nI also don\u2019t just bang anything I find attractive. And there are other things that are important like this beautiful weather and this bottle of wine..oh and me.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Nancy Lee<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\u201cNo, not at all. Quite the opposite actually. I find you attractive, you find me attractive. I\u2019m very sexual. I need sex. Don\u2019t you need it too? \u201d <\/p>\n
\u201dUm yes I need it too, but I\u2019m not an animal. I can control it. I also don\u2019t just bang anything I find attractive. And there are other things that are important like this beautiful weather and this bottle of wine..oh and me.\u201d <\/p>\n
\u201cIs that a no?\u201d he asked. <\/p>\n
\u201cIf I was going to have to spread my legs and blow you for a dinner, I would have stopped at the drinks and saved myself a few calories no matter how many I would\u2019ve worked off in the boom boom room\u201d. <\/p>\n
\u201cOhhhhhh\u2026boom boom room. That\u2019s kind of turning me on\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDon\u2019t you want to get to know a woman?\u201d I asked. <\/p>\n
\u201cWell I\u2019m not looking for a relationship right now. And if I was, sex is the most important part of a unity. If you\u2019re not having good sex, what\u2019s the point in continuing a relationship. Eventually the initial excitement will wear off. I\u2019ll need a woman who\u2019s going to be able to keep it going, not matter how long we stay together. <\/p>\n
Sounds like he needs a hooker at your beck and call. <\/p>\n
\u201cPlease don\u2019t flatter yourself. I wasn\u2019t looking for a relationship with you, yet.\u201d I stated. <\/p>\n
\n\n\nWhatever happened to picking up a female, taking her out on a date, paying for the bill, then dropping her off or putting her in cab home\u2026WITHOUT trying to jump her bones?\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Nancy Lee<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\nHe did come across as a keeper, but I wasn\u2019t banking my new pair of Louboutin\u2019s on it. <\/p>\n
Based on my New York City dating experience so far, \u201ctoo good to be true\u201d is usually, \u201ctoo good to be true\u201d. BINGO! This guy was too good to be true. <\/p>\n
\u201cAfter this behavior, there\u2019s 100% chance you won\u2019t be seeing me again. IT\u2019S OUR FIRST DATE!\u201d I started getting irritated. <\/p>\n
\u201cJesus Christ. I\u2019m so out of here. Don\u2019t worry, I\u2019ll catch my own cab!\u201d I yelled. <\/p>\n
Whatever happened to picking up a female, taking her out on a date, paying for the bill, then dropping her off or putting her in cab home\u2026WITHOUT trying to jump her bones? Is that too much to ask? And on a FIRST Date? How did my knight in shining armor turn into a smushy douche bag? <\/p>\n
Have we, as women, really become valued based on our sexual performance and\/or willingness to utilize all 3 orifices? Is it just New York City men or other Metropolitan men in the US? Who raises these men? Did their mother die? Were they raised by apes? Did they learn this from one of their classless buddies who \u201cappears\u201d to get all the chicks? It is not like this in Boston. Has the value of intelligent, educated and moral women just disappeared? Have they been replaced by women who suck and fuck at the drop of a dime, while sexually up for anything? <\/p>\n
Is this how it\u2019s going to be dating in New York City? Is this something I\u2019m just going to have to accept in the dating world of a single 27 year old female? If so, I\u2019m heading back to Beantown very soon!!! <\/p>\n
Nancy Lee is a new dating and relationship, sex columnist. She will be writing on her experiences throughout her dating career. A recent graduate of Boston University, Nancy has seen it all. The purpose of her column is to educate and inform young women, through her own life experiences, on the trials and tribulations of being a young woman in today’s dating world. Nancy hopes to connect with the readers and hopes the women (and men) can identify with her experiences. Hey – \u201c It’s hard out there for a pimp! She looks forward to your feedback. Name changed for obvious identity purposes. Leave your own Christmas Men stories below. If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to leave at the bottom or send her a private email at nancy@asiancemagazine.com<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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