{"id":5417,"date":"2010-03-02T04:03:23","date_gmt":"2010-03-02T04:03:23","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2025-10-15T00:59:15","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T00:59:15","slug":"he-can-have-his-cake-and-eat-it-too-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=5417","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;He can have his cake and eat it too&#8221; women"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In light of the most recent Pig Gate, where should we start? Tiger, John Edwards, A-Rod, Bill Clinton?&#8230; the list goes on.<\/p>\n<p>The latest:<\/p>\n<p>Tiger Woods cheats on wife, wife beats him to a pulp, Tiger needs to buy a \u201cKobe special\u201d, wife most likely stays or increases prenup, he stops cheating\u2026for awhile or is more careful.  Wife will most likely stay.<\/p>\n<p>I began to think about who and why women stay in these \u201cabusive\u201d relationships.  Never mind why men cheat, we will never get to the bottom of that issue. I know women cheat too. We\u2019ll explore that later, but this is a woman\u2019s dating column. Would you allow your man to have his cake and eat it too?<\/p>\n<p>My friends and I decided to make a list of some \u201ccould have his cake too\u201d women:<\/p>\n<p><b>Whitney Houston<\/b> \u2013 Bobby has his cake and ate it too\u2026for a long time. Until he decided to spit at her and  Whitney was not having that anymore\u2026.Hell to the naw! What\u2019s even worse? She was supporting the douchebag!<\/p>\n<p><b>Hillary Clinton<\/b> \u2013 Bubba had his cake and ate it too, lied to our faces, found another interesting way to make use of a cigar, is probably still having his cake and eating it too. But with www.hillary2012.com already purchased and Hillary on a power trip, there\u2019s a high probability she\u2019ll continue letting him have his cake and eating it too.  Word to the wise Hillary, he\u2019s not helping your campaign.  I\u2019d have more respect for you, and a possible vote, if you would just dump his sorry ass!<\/p>\n<p><b>Jacqueline Onassis<\/b> &#8211;  John F. Kennedy is reported to have had affairs, with individuals including Marilyn Monroe, Mimi Beardsley Alford, author of &#8220;Once Upon A Secret&#8221; and Mary Pinchot Meyer.  Let\u2019s not forget his nickname  \u201cMattress Back\u201d. Jackie O. stated at a college event shortly before she died,  &#8220;I like to share what I\u2019ve learned with all young women I meet, because I wished I\u2019d have known it at your age-never marry, never mix your money&#8221;. <\/p>\n<p><b>Alex Rodriguez\u2019 wife<\/b> \u2013  Cynthia let him have his cake and eat it too, until he decided he wanted to be with Madonna. Their marriage survived his affair with a stripper in Canada, among many others, with pictures of A-Rod and his stripper on the cover of the New York Post.  Cynthia Rodriguez did what most women do to keep their man\u2026She got pregnant, again. Unfortunately, it still didn\u2019t tame the wild beast. He kicked her, along with numerous other \u201cclingy\u201d women to the curb. A-Rod should have never been married.  Same with Tiger. It didn\u2019t hurt A-Rod. Tiger are you listening?<\/p>\n<p><b>Vanessa Bryant<\/b> \u2013 Married to one of the greatest players in the NBA today, Kobe Bryant.  Her husband was accused of rape and he admitted cheating on her. Vanessa still stood by her man, and attended a press conference with a $4.5 million purple diamond ring on her finger.  The charges were eventually dropped but Kobe admitted to having sex outside his marriage\u2026This time.<\/p>\n<p><b>Elizabeth Edwards<\/b> \u2013 Looks wise, he\u2019s a 10, she\u2019s a 2. He\u2019s out on the road traveling. If you want to be happy for the rest of it, never make a pretty woman your wife. Can I just ask a question? I thought she had cancer, and it hit the bone about 3 years ago? They had a big press conference on it? Was that just for sensational purposes? I hope not, but tell me someone who survives 3+ years after cancer hits the bone? Boy those are some miracles! With her husband\u2019s love child all over the papers and a sex tape with his baby mama soon to hit store shelves, it\u2019s no wonder they finally separated? Way to go Elizabeth.  Is being first lady really that important for you to put up with your husband\u2019s grotesque behavior? We know you knew about it all along.<\/p>\n<p>These are just a few of the women, in which the media claims are inspirations, women to be admired, educated, we should aspire to be like, filled with principles, etc. \u2026gag me you\u2019re so wrong!<\/p>\n<p>Each month, I\u2019ll profile and give my honest opinion, as an experienced serial dater on one of the above women.  As a matter of fact, I might even get my PHD in Human Behavior in order to study the dynamics of these \u201ceducated\u201d, \u201cintelligent\u201d women and why they choose to stay with these men. Can I hear a \u201cDesperate\u201d?<\/p>\n<p>More on them later.. This month, I\u2019ll focus on Jenny \u201cI\u2019ll see what the heart does not want to hear\u201d Sullivan Sanford\u2019s (let\u2019s get rid of the last name now, honestly Jenny) pathetic situation\u2026ahem.<\/p>\n<p>Why do women do that? You are not a Sanford anymore. Please stop giving him credit.<\/p>\n<p><b>Jenny Sullivan Sanford<\/b> \u2013 One of Barbara Walter\u2019s Most Fascinating People? Surely you can\u2019t be serious! Why? Because she is woman scorned? Mark Sanford doesn\u2019t want his cake and eat it too. He\u2019s a man who knows what he wants, and it ain\u2019t her. It was never her!  Baba Wawa states, \u201cShe did not become the wictim. She refoosed to stand by her man\u201d How can you stand by your man when he\u2019s left you? Get real. This is a woman\u2019s empowerment facade. Don\u2019t know but I really think Baba Wawa has a touch of Alheizmer\u2019s because this ass kissing is old! Wake up and smell the coffee Jenny!<\/p>\n<p><object width=\"425\" height=\"344\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/9eRTo2gvq74&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\"><\/param><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\"><\/param><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\"><\/param><embed src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/9eRTo2gvq74&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" width=\"425\" height=\"344\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Barbara Walters calls her an inspiration to women\u2026what women? Not to me! Maybe to other fools who choose to not see what their man is telling them. Wake up and smell the coffee women! And you too Baba Wawa.. <\/p>\n<p><b>Baba Wawa says Jenny refooses to be the wictim<\/b><\/p>\n<p><object width=\"560\" height=\"340\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/Pse2suEiwsY&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\"><\/param><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\"><\/param><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\"><\/param><embed src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/Pse2suEiwsY&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" width=\"560\" height=\"340\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>What is most telling here is that Governor Sanford had to go on national television and declare his love for another woman, so his wife would GET it!  By the way, that was a horrible display of mush. I cringed just watching it.  Are you still in grade school? What\u2019s even more scary is this dude was running the state of South Carolina.<\/p>\n<p><b>See the pussy talk about his soulmate, Mar\u00eda Bel\u00e9n Chapur.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><object width=\"425\" height=\"344\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/msygB3KpSq4&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\"><\/param><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\"><\/param><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\"><\/param><embed src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/msygB3KpSq4&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" width=\"425\" height=\"344\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Little Marky asked his wifey for permission to see his soulmate. After his getaway to his mistress, where he spent five days crying (gimme a break), Mark Sanford returned and called his advisor\/wife. \u201cDo you know what kind of storm you are returning to?&#8221; Jenny Sanford said she asked her husband. &#8220;And where do we stand?&#8221; <\/p>\n<p><b>Come again? Where do we stand?<\/b> You mean to tell us, you are still giving him the option to be with you after he just went to see his mistress?..1) Can anything be more desperate and 2) HE TOLD YOU HE\u2019S IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE! GET IT THROUGH YOUR THICK SKULL! Now you can understand the need for a press conference. The need was to get rid of Jenny!<\/p>\n<p>When was Jenny going to have her light bulb moment? You had that on your wedding day, Jenny! When your husband takes out \u201cfaithful\u201d in his wedding vows, and you don\u2019t get the hint then, he\u2019s obviously marrying you for something OTHER than his love for you\u2026Connections? Money? You figure it out Jenny! <\/p>\n<h2>\u201cIn retrospect, he had some flaws but that was a marriage\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>Took out faithful in the wedding vows<br \/>\nHe didn\u2019t remember her birthday<br \/>\nHe was cheap<br \/>\nHe didn\u2019t attend her father\u2019s funeral.<br \/>\nHe didn\u2019t attend the birth of her first child<br \/>\nHe took back presents he bought her<br \/>\nHe declared his love for another woman on international television!<\/p>\n<p>Where do we stand? <\/p>\n<p>Is anybody home?<\/p>\n<p>Jenny says this is all part of a marriage\u2026trying to understand someone..Is this chick for real? Marriage is also compromise, which he was NOT doing for you! Doormat! Even Whoopi is laughing at your blindness! Did this chick ever have a boyfriend? This is not a relationship.. It\u2019s a one sided take, without any giving.<\/p>\n<p>Jenny Sullivan had and still continues to have an excuse for every single one of his bad behaviors.  No wonder he HAD to go on national tv and say he found a soul mate! This woman was NOT GETTING IT!!!<\/p>\n<p>Was he speaking Mandarin? Is there some kind of Lost in Translation?  Can he put it any more direct terms that he doesn\u2019t want to be with you anymore..Ok he\u2019ll Try to fall back in love in with his wife. <\/p>\n<p><object width=\"560\" height=\"340\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/mNVBx38BWDM&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\"><\/param><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\"><\/param><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\"><\/param><embed src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/mNVBx38BWDM&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" width=\"560\" height=\"340\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<h2>\u201cI want to stay together for the children\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>Oh Jenny, it&#8217;s really about you, not your children.<br \/>\nHer sons are pawns in the disgusting game called divorce.<br \/>\nWhy don\u2019t you stop using the kids as an excuse. Same bullshit. \u201cI wanted him to snap out of it.\u201d Do you want a happy face? A tap dance? He is just not that into you!! <\/p>\n<p>Jenny blasts Mark for making \u201cthis\u201d public? A) You both chose a public office. Your family was bound to be scrutinized. Thinking about the children then? I think not! B) Mark, the Goon, made a spectacle of himself. Thinking about the children then? I think not! C) Jenny writes a tell-all in the hopes of it becoming a best seller\u2026THINKING ABOUT THE CHILDREN THEN? I THINK NOT!!!!<\/p>\n<p>In regards to that book, what do you gain by writing this book, Jenny? You don\u2019t need the money..What about your sons? I thought your main concern was the children? Isn\u2019t that why you wanted Mark back? To work it out for the children?<\/p>\n<p>Let it be known here, that women\u2019s motivation of, &#8220;I want to keep it together for the children&#8221; is just a ploy to win their husband back. She doesn\u2019t give two shits about her children..otherwise she would have went away quietly without writing a book, without allowing cameras into her home, etc.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It is better to come from a broken home, than to be in a broken home.&#8221; It is sad though, not many couples realize that. They do not realize how harmful the yelling, silence and stress are on the children. It is the children who ultimately suffer more. <\/p>\n<p>This sets a bad example to her four boys. She should have the self-esteem and where withall to kick him to the curb and find her soulmate. Jenny should explain to her sons, that Mark\u2019s not good enough for her, this is not how you treat women, and marriage is something to be taken seriously. Let&#8217;s continue to taint the next generation shall we?<\/p>\n<p><object width=\"560\" height=\"340\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/pRzO1acZ-Cw&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\"><\/param><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\"><\/param><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\"><\/param><embed src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/pRzO1acZ-Cw&#038;hl=en_US&#038;fs=1&#038;\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" width=\"560\" height=\"340\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Dear Jenny Sullivan,<br \/>\nI don\u2019t feel sorry for you. You don\u2019t inspire me. I will not read your book. I would not vote for you in South Carolina or whatever political arena you are aspiring to. You look like you\u2019re horrible in bed. Perhaps you should read my article on   <a href=\"http:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/2009\/03\/12\/what-is-it-with-tits-anyway\" target=\"_blank\">tits!<\/a> It might help you some. You were Mark\u2019s doormat for years, emasculated him, accepted his ways until he eventually found true love. That\u2019s your story\u2026end of it!<br \/>\nHypocrites!!!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In light of the most recent Pig Gate, where should we start? 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