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Facebook “Friends” with Benefits – Literally and Figuratively
\nOf course my editor will not let me use the f word, but you get the idea\u2026.dontcha?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sitting at my usual, weeknight, mid-night spot: my full size bed, 500 count thread sheets (hotel collection), four queen sized pillows propping up my back with my laptop on my tah dah! Lap. It\u2019s my nightly ritual! What am I doing at this ungodly hour? I\u2019m checking my social networking accounts (love the letters you email me at nancy@asiancemagazine.com by the way).<\/p>\n

Hmmm. Checking friend requests. 5 requests from women I know. 1 request from a work acquaintance and one from a GeorgieM. I peruse his profile. Oh Jesus! It\u2019s George (last name withheld). We dated for about 8 months in college. He was a Professor of Law at BU and I remember him being quite good at cunnilingus\u2026That\u2019s always a plus. <\/p>\n

I accepted his friend request.<\/p>\n

Suddenly I hear a beep. Oh lovely. He\u2019s IM\u2019ing me. <\/p>\n

GeorgieM:<\/strong> Hey you! It\u2019s been a while. How have you been?<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> Great. And you?<\/p>\n

GeorgieM:<\/strong> Ok. I just I looked you up on facebook and saw you live in New York City. I thought we could get together and get a drink.<\/p>\n

Ohh yeah right the good old let\u2019s get a drink, which translates to: \u201cCan I spend the least amount of money to get you in the sack\u201d.<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> What day? I\u2019m pretty busy.<\/p>\n

GeorgieM:<\/strong> Whatever day you are not busy ?<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> Next Tuesday should work.<\/p>\n

GeorgieM:<\/strong> Ok let\u2019s me at PJ Clarkes at 6:00pm.<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> Sounds enticing.<\/p>\n

Ah the good ole PJ Clarkes\/ Where midtown bankers\/lawyers and assholes hang in the hopes of laying an A list fashion, model or advertising type… you know? Girls who are looking for a husband any day of the week. I can already plan how this night, er morning is going to end. Oh and sorry men. GeorgieM is a non-Asian. Actually he is a WHITE male.<\/p>\n

Fast forward – It\u2019s Tuesday night 6:05pm <\/p>\n

God there are so many cute guys in here. I\u2019ll have to come back on my night off.<\/p>\n

I see George, standing up against the wall with a big shit eating grin on his face.<\/p>\n

George and I had great conversation. He\u2019s been working at a major corporate law firm right here in the city and recently broke up with his girlfriend. One of the things he mentioned which stuck in my mind was the intellectual connection he said we had and always remembered. <\/p>\n

I can agree with that. I AM highly intelligent.<\/p>\n

We did have our share of drinks and he did spring for something to eat. Shocker! Guess he felt I was going to be an easy lay or something like that.<\/p>\n

It was almost midnight and I was feeling good. The mashed potatoes I ordered helped me continue to enjoy my buzz instead of it ending up on the floor\u2026.or in a cab.<\/p>\n

We hopped into a cab and went back to his place on Central Park West. Very nice.<\/p>\n

As we walked into his apartment, black and white photos of himself adorned the entrance and hallway.
\nWho the f*ck does that?<\/p>\n

Nice bachelor pad though and it had a view of the Park. No pictures or any remnants of women. So HE DID kick his girlfriend to the curb!<\/p>\n

I was so turned on by the view and drunk that I threw him on the couch and jumped him.<\/p>\n

I blindfolded him, tied him to the chair and rode him hard. <\/p>\n

He did say I was the best sex he ever had, when we were dating. I can\u2019t possibly think he would have changed his mind.<\/p>\n

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\nThe old Nancy Lee would\u2019ve let him keep walking, knowing he would get his one day but this time, I don\u2019t think so. I was pissed!\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Nancy Lee<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

The passionate night of love making ended when I realized I had to work the next day. I left his apartment at 7am, just in time to cab it home, take a shower, grab a coffee and get into work by 8:30am.<\/p>\n

While I was on the subway reminiscing about the night, I realized he had way less hair on his head than he had 8 years ago, but what man doesn\u2019t?<\/p>\n

When I arrived at work, I already had a voice mail from him telling me what a great night he had.<\/p>\n

Yeah I know. I\u2019m THAT GOOD! No need to explain.<\/p>\n

George asked me out again for Thursday night. I happily obliged. I had no one else in mind that I was planning to see that week.<\/p>\n

Thursday came and went. Bing, Bam, bang,boom. Oh yeah.<\/p>\n

You could tell he was back on the market and taking full advantage of it. We did have a great connection and I could feel it coming back. I went out with him one more time. He then started to grow a little distant and not on my ass as usual.<\/p>\n

Two weeks ago, 3 three weeks since George first contacted me via facebook, while visiting one of my friends in Greenwich, CT, I had the shock of my life. It was the most beautiful Saturday. I was sitting at an outside caf\u00e9 on Greenwich Avenue, having a cocktail with 2 of my girlfriends. And what transpires? <\/p>\n

A very handsome man, with a two year old toddler on his shoulders, walks passed, makes eye contact with me and continues walking.<\/p>\n

I know that guy, I said to myself.<\/p>\n

\u201cOh my god THAT\u2019s GEORGE!!!!\u201d I scream to my girlfriends.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe old bachelor?\u201d, one says.<\/p>\n

\u201cMother F***** Yes!\u201d <\/p>\n

I turn around, check him out and notice a never before seen accessory! He\u2019s walking with a petite woman pushing a baby stroller.<\/p>\n

Excusie Moi? I don\u2019t think so!<\/p>\n

The old Nancy Lee would\u2019ve let him keep walking, knowing he would get his one day but this time, I don\u2019t think so. Not with the way he sought me out and pursued me!<\/p>\n

I was pissed! I told my friends I would be right back.<\/p>\n

One of my girlfriends screamed, \u201cWait!\u201d<\/p>\n

I ran up to \u201cGeorgieM\u201d..<\/p>\n

\u201cHello George\u201d, I said.<\/p>\n

\u201cAh, Ah Hi. And you are? Can I help you?\u201d He said.<\/p>\n

\u201cAh. It\u2019s Nancy. Don\u2019t even play me like that!\u201d I said. His accessory (aka wife?) looked on shockingly.
\n\u201cI\u2019m sorry but you must be mistaking me for someone\u201d, he said. \u201cMany people look like me in this town\u201d.<\/p>\n

\u201cOhhh no asshole. Are you married?\u201d I asked calmly.<\/p>\n

\u201cYes I\u2019m married. Very happily married, I might add. You need help, excuse me\u201d. He tried to pass me.<\/p>\n

\u201cGeorge (last name). You were a Boston University Law Professor. We dated for almost a year, about 10 years ago. You have a facebook account named GeorgieM, which I\u2019m assuming YOUR WIFE has no idea about. You have a \u201cbachelor\u201d apartment overlooking the park. I rocked your world a few nights these last 3 weeks. You sought me out and told me, you just broke up with your girlfriend!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cNo, not me.\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

\u201cExcuse me\u201d, his wife said as she tried to pass me.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo, excuse me. You are married to one hell of a scumbag honey!\u201d I screamed. \u201cNow I know why he cheats on you and has a second life in the city during the week! Because he can! You\u2019re pathetic!\u201d
\n\u201cYou\u2019re a psychopath\u201d, she screamed.<\/p>\n

Clearly his wife knows or has a hunch but chooses to look the other way. Not my problem! Pathetic woman!<\/p>\n

I turned around to return to my friends. I clearly needed another drink.<\/p>\n

\u201cWas that THE George?\u201d My girlfriend said.<\/p>\n

\u201cYes. Yes it was. Un-f*@king-believable. This always happens to me. What the hell?\u201d Then, I thought for a second. Does it really JUST happen to me? This situation was too seamless, quick and so matter of fact for it to be rare. How many other women were in my shoes or have experienced something similar?
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\nTo Women both cheated on and cheated with:<\/strong><\/p>\n