I was recently lying by the pool on a sweltering hot day out in Westchester (yeah I hang out there a lot \u2013 you have a problem with that?) with a group of unhappily married girlfriends discussing why I opted out of marriage twice. Yes people, I was engaged twice. Hard to believe, I know but let me reminisce. I explained that while my would be marriage date was creeping up I was having a series of recurring dreams, recently. The dreams featured me attempting to buy a beautiful one of a kind dress in a boutique where the nasty saleslady sternly reminded me that it was a FINAL SALE!! For a shopaholic and a purveyor of good taste such as moi, that was an absolute NIGHTMARE! I would wake up in a panic every time. That was basically like a judge sentencing me to life imprisonment\u2026.WITHOUT parole. <\/p>\n
Let\u2019s face it, men are dogs and until someone comes up with the \u201cinvisible fence for men\u201d they are going to explore territories that are forbidden, easy, challenging or even worse\u2026sprinkled with landmines. The Ten Year Marriage License would certainly help manage this problem, if not cure it. This way, both parties can stay competitive with one another and put their best foot forward at all times, just how I like it. Hey men, You want us to be looking our best, 100% of the time, so should you. I can just picture it now\u2026 <\/p>\n
\nLife is precious and short so why should people settle and be locked into a less than satisfactory, sub-par contract.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Nancy Lee<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\u201cSweetie, you\u2019re up for renewal in two years so you better work on those love handles of yours and for your information, in case you\u2019re interested, you haven\u2019t been paying enough attention to me lately. Oh, and I don\u2019t want to scare you but several men in the office have expressed much interest in me and their contracts are expiring as we speak.\u201d <\/p>\n
If you are hot and young looking like I am– this is a contract made in heaven! Life is precious and short so why should people settle and be locked into a less than satisfactory, sub-par contract. After all, people take more time deliberating over a lifetime guarantee for their audio equipment than they do for a marriage these days. <\/p>\n
With the divorce rate well over 50%, it seems to make sense to process marriage licenses in much the same way that driver\u2019s licenses are issued. Like driver\u2019s licenses, marriage licenses should expire after ten years with an option to renew.<\/p>\n
I know what you\u2019re thinking, \u201cbut what about the children?\u201d This marriage license renewable like a driver\u2019s license concept is perfect for \u201cdinks\u201d (double income no kids). However, if you are among the \u201cdiks\u201d (double income kids) or the \u201csiks\u201d (single income kids) this option is far less attractive to the major breadwinner of the pair. Just like a business partnership, you have to ask yourself \u201cwhat does he\/she bring to the table?\u201d The breadwinner gets penalized in divorce for being ambitious and hardworking. And these days more women are becoming the major breadwinner in the relationships. Thinking about it, are we even going to need that species?<\/p>\n
If we had formula to calculate the net worth of each spouse entering into a marriage over a ten year period many of the pre-nuptial\/divorce problems would be minimized. People would actually be \u201cfree\u201d to \u201cexit\u201d miserable unions without losing the shirt off their back.<\/p>\n
\n\n\nJust like businesses thrive on competition and innovation, the marriage market needs the same components to flourish.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Nancy Lee<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\nThink about it, most licenses that we apply for in life are only valid for a specific duration before they expire. Why should it be any different with a marriage license? Haven\u2019t you heard of the 10 year itch? Mine\u2019s more like a 5 year itch. I can\u2019t even be in a serious relationship with a guy for more than 4 years without before feeling CLAUSTROPHOBIC, IMPRISONED and BORED, BORED, BORED! Anything that leaves one without the option to CANCEL, RENEW or EXCHANGE goes against the laws of nature. The only way I can see myself \u201ctying the knot\u201d down the road to the old ball and chain, is if I know that at some point in time I can EXIT the situation safely and fairly if need be.<\/p>\n
It is human nature to take for granted and become bored with anything that \u201cis yours for the taking.\u201d A lifetime guarantee closes the door on any competition, growth, new experiences and excitement. Just like businesses thrive on competition and innovation, the marriage market needs the same components to flourish. I can just see all of the new business emerging from the new 10 Year Marriage License with an Option to Renew\u2026. Ideas anyone??<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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