{"id":6574,"date":"2010-10-30T19:10:17","date_gmt":"2010-10-30T19:10:17","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2010-11-09T04:11:26","modified_gmt":"2010-11-09T04:11:26","slug":"Angry-Asian-Men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=6574","title":{"rendered":"Angry Asian Men"},"content":{"rendered":"

After a year of writing for Asiance, I’ve read a year’s worth of comments. And a lot of them beg a question: Why are Asian men so angry about women who… date non-Asian men?<\/p>\n

For example:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. “Yeah, we know you, you belong to the white guys who date you for novelty but never marry you. Anything for acceptance. <\/li>\n
  2. That sounds more like “White Fever” to me. I don’t know if the author is one of these types, but I would HOPE NOT for it would be quite hypocritical if you ask me.<\/li>\n
  3. I’m an Asian guy. I have to say I probably wouldn’t give an Asian girl who had dated non-Asians a chance, unless it was just for a few months and they had decided that it had all been a mistake.<\/li>\n
  4. Yeah, Asian men, as usual, are the LAST RESORT. Guess who is first choice?<\/li>\n
  5. (Responding to an Asian woman’s defense of a Caucasian man): You know, the guy that LOOKS like you? The one that looks like your DAD? EWWWW…<\/li>\n
  6. i think its really pathetic when asian girls bask in the white mans glory. you are a parasite. whats next, nicholas cage. you will never be white by association. go get a life. you need white men to make your self feel like somebody. truly shows your insecurity, lack of maturity and lack of strength. what a turn off. <\/li>\n
  7. i think its funny how all the asian girls want to marry a white dude cuz they think they’ll get “cute hapa babies.” then they end up with a baby that looks like rob schneider, who by the way is a hapa. <\/li>\n
  8. Tattoos of chinese characters are more in demand than asian men themselves.”<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    It’s true:<\/strong> Some Asian women date outside their race; some Asian women have never dated an Asian man. But I’m honestly not clear on why this might be a problem. <\/p>\n

    In my humble opinion, preserving racial purity isn’t a worthwhile goal. You should be able to date whomever, whenever, wherever without the threat of a backlash. Does this make Asian men feel less-than? Does it all boil down to sex? At its most subliminal level, is this about propagating the race? After all, furthering the species sits at the heart of our time on earth. And (at the risk of lighting a powder keg), if a large portion of people start marrying outside their race \u2013 uh, oh! Suddenly, no more race.<\/p>\n

    I’ve heard of African-American women who get angry at African-American men who choose to date outside their race. Once, a friend of mine (Asian) and her date (African-American) were approached by an African-American woman. Shaking her finger at my friend, she yelled, “You find your OWN man!” My friend was so shocked it took her a second to realize who or what this woman was referring to. The phrase used by many African-American moms is, \u201cIf they can\u2019t use our comb, they can\u2019t come home.\u201d <\/p>\n

    I’ve experienced this anger in my own life. A friend and I like to go out to lunch in a part of town that has dozens, if not hundreds, of authentic Chinese restaurants. As you might guess, it’s a largely Asian neighborhood. And my friend, who’s a he, and married, is white. I’ll be focused on my plate of spicy wontons when I hear him whisper: \u201cDo you see that Asian guy over there? He’s been giving me the eye. Oh, and that guy at the other table is staring daggers too!” Happens every time. <\/p>\n

    People will always have preconceived stereotypes that may or not harbor a ring of truth. Such as:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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    • Asian chicks are submissive. <\/li>\n
    • Asian guys want to be waited on hand and foot. <\/li>\n
    • Black women don’t like white women.<\/li>\n
    • White women feel entitled and are bitchy. <\/li>\n
    • Asian men have smaller penises.<\/li>\n
    • White men tend to be be bigger.<\/li>\n
    • Black men are the biggest of all.<\/li>\n
    • You need to be with your own race. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      The list goes on and on. What’s true about all of these statements: They ignite anger. <\/p>\n

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      \nIn my humble opinion, preserving racial purity isn’t a worthwhile goal. You should be able to date whomever, whenever, wherever without the threat of a backlash.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

      Candace Kita<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

      Bruce Lee was handsome. Jet Li is awesome. So are Denzel Washington, Tom Cruise and Antonio Banderas. And Asian culture has nothing unique in its prejudice; a friend (white) still remembers the family member who said, “Why do you need to marry a Pollack? Isn’t a German good enough for you?” In the early 19th century, neighborhoods in the U.S. and the U.K. featured signs reading \u201cNo Irish.\u201d Later, Irish Americans looked down on the \u201cgutter Irish\u201d \u2013 those who came to America to escape the potato famine. <\/p>\n

      Red ants kill black ants. It would seem no matter how much bigger and more complex we get as humans, our socialization is still aligned with those tiny creatures who kill others based simply on color.<\/p>\n

      An actor and women\u2019s safety advocate, Candace Kita is the author of \u201cThe Hottie Handbook: A Girl\u2019s category_ide to Safety.” As a safety specialist, Candace has been interviewed by People, Good Morning America, the Jay Leno Show, Inside Edition, the Los Angeles Times, 48 Hours, the LOGO Network and WHO Australia.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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