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Challenge #1: Being short can wreak havoc with your confidence
\n<\/strong>While many women are happy to date a great guy regardless of his height, for some girls (especially the tall ones) it\u2019s an instant deal-breaker \u2014 and, given men are often responsible for making the first move, it can be tricky to know how to proceed. \u201cThere was a woman I was absolutely smitten with,\u201d recalls Charles, 40, who\u2019s a 5\u20197\u201d surgeon living in New York City. \u201cShe was only a couple of inches taller than me and friendly to me in group settings, so I figured I\u2019d give it a shot. But after trying unsuccessfully to get a date with her, one of her friends finally told me the deal: I was too short for her.\u201d <\/strong>Another experience many shorter guys suffer is when women do warm up to them… as a friend, that is. \u201cOne time I was out with a short buddy of mine and a tall girl he was hitting on did the one thing that all short guys hate: she put his arm around him, kind of like one would do with a little brother,\u201d shudders Eric, a 40-year-old paramedic from Louisville, KY who\u2019s 5\u20197\u201d. Understandably, such experiences can leave many short guys feeling gunshy. \u201cIf I\u2019m approaching a woman who\u2019s taller than me, I\u2019d probably be dissuaded much more easily,\u201d continues Eric. \u201cI\u2019ll probably interpret any bit of coyness or lack of enthusiasm as, \u2018Well, she just doesn\u2019t go for shorter guys\u2019 and steer clear.\u201d
\n“Midgets with money” are usually the opposite and suffer from Little Man Syndrome.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Coping strategy: Know that plenty of women don\u2019t mind half as much as you think
\n<\/strong>While sussing out who\u2019s open to dating in the lower height ranges isn\u2019t easy, there are ways to get a handle on who\u2019s game. Case in point: most men don\u2019t pay that much attention to a woman\u2019s shoes, but shorter guys hone in on them… and for good reason. \u201cIf I see a tall woman who\u2019s got on four-inch heels, that\u2019s a subtle message that she\u2019s into being tall and it\u2019s part of her personality. I\u2019ll generally avoid these types as a rule,\u201d says Eric.<\/strong> \u201cBut when I see a tall woman who wears flats, it\u2019s a clear sign she\u2019s not caught up in being tall. As a matter of fact, she\u2019s trying to bring herself down a little bit. <\/strong>So, I\u2019ll approach her.\u201d<\/strong> And for women, the word is that you need to be more explicit and encouraging if you\u2019re interested in a shorter guy.<\/strong> \u201cThe taller women that I\u2019ve dated actually came more to me than I pursued them,\u201d says Eric, who is currently dating a woman a couple of inches taller than he is. \u201cThe woman I\u2019m dating right now came and gave me a kiss at a party. It was that easy.\u201d
\nWomen in their 20’s and early 30’s are usually very discriminating. Both men and women mature with age. Most short men in their 20’s and early 30’s will ONLY MARRY a woman who is shorter than they are. However, when they get older they gain the confidence to approach statuesque women.
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Challenge #2: In the online dating world, height can be listed as a must-have for matches
\n<\/strong>On many online dating sites, members are asked to list their own height as well as the desired stature of the people they\u2019d like to date. For shorter guys, this can present obvious problems \u2014 and while it\u2019s tempting to fudge the facts by a few inches in your profile, the game will be over once you meet each other in person. \u201cIf you walk into a date and you\u2019ve said you\u2019re two inches taller than you are, then you might as well be wearing a big sign that says \u2018liar,\u2019\u201d points out Eric. So be honest, but also be willing to take a proactive role in scanning for and emailing women online, since you may not make their minimum height requirement when they do the searching.
\nOnline dating is less successful than they lead you to believe. It works backwards with a checklist and can never compete with Face Time. The most important element in a successful relationship “CHEMISTRY” is missing. Why waste your time otherwise?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Coping strategy: Realize that most women will bend their rules for the right guy
\n<\/em><\/strong>While the situation may look bleak, shorter online daters shouldn\u2019t despair, and here\u2019s why: when women list what they want in a mate ideally can be light years from what they\u2019re perfectly happy to accept with the right guy. Eric, for one, was initially surprised when his online profile got attention from taller women who were breaking the very height requirements they listed in their own profiles. \u201cThey write that they\u2019re looking for a taller guy, but then again, they\u2019re contacting me,\u201d he says, adding that at first he felt the need to explain to them that he might not live up to their lofty standards. \u201cI used to tell them I\u2019m a lot shorter than you\u2019re looking for, but I don\u2019t do it anymore because it\u2019s pointless. They can see it right there in your profile.\u201d Bill, a 35-year-old publishing executive from Rochester, NY, who\u2019s 5\u20196\u201d, says he\u2019s had a good response online from women of all heights. \u201cI have taller girls emailing me a lot, even though I don\u2019t meet the height requirements they say they\u2019re looking for,\u201d he says. \u201cThey all tell me that my profile made them laugh. I think the key is having something to capture their attention with other than height. Humor\u2019s the best.\u201d
\nWomen will bend for the “right guy” true but NOT online.
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Challenge #3: Short guys aren\u2019t always taken seriously
\n<\/strong>Even guys who do find a gal who\u2019s fine and dandy with a height difference know that being an odd couple (visually, anyway) can be hard \u2014 for instance, strangers may do double-takes and friends and family may make snide, jokey comments. \u201cGenerally speaking, if you\u2019re a short guy and you\u2019re dating a tall woman and you walk into a new place, people tend to laugh or whisper about you,\u201d says Eric. \u201cI mean, have you ever noticed how men think it\u2019s OK to hit on a tall girl, even when it\u2019s obvious she\u2019s dating the short dude standing right next to her?\u201d<\/p>\n

<\/strong>Coping strategy: Confidence can make any guy seem 10 feet tall
\n<\/strong>One lesson short guys learn early on is that confidence, not height, is the ultimate aphrodisiac. \u201cIf you\u2019re hitting on a taller woman, don\u2019t even blink,\u201d recommends Bill. \u201cJust interact totally straight on with her, like there\u2019s nothing weird. Never let your actual stature affect your sense of metaphorical stature.\u201d <\/strong>In fact, showing a taller girl your chutzpah works especially well when you\u2019re short. \u201cIf a woman is taller than you, she knows that she\u2019s taller and she\u2019ll see your approaching her as a sign that you\u2019re very confident with who you are. That puts you in a very good light, both in front of her and in front of others,\u201d says Eric. So when you\u2019re taking a woman out and get a double-take or see someone giggling in your direction, remember: your date chose to go out with you because you have all kinds of great things going for you. Never let another person\u2019s height hang-ups put a dent in your confidence!<\/p>\n

<\/strong>And that brings up a valuable big-picture perspective issue: height hang-ups are just that \u2014 another person\u2019s problem, not yours. So if you do get rebuffed because of your stature, consider how Charles looks at the situation: \u201cIf a girl doesn\u2019t want to date me because I\u2019m shorter, I just think, \u2018Too bad for her. She\u2019s missing out on me.\u2019\u201d <\/p>\n

<\/strong>Short men who are with tall statuesque women get much more respect than when they are with short women. That is because height for women is synonomous with beauty, ballet, modeling, trophy wife etc. The body of a tall woman is simply much more beautiful than that of a short woman. Why do you think Manolo Blahnik and Jimmy Choo are sooo successful? Look at Harvey Weinstein. He really got a major prize!<\/em><\/strong> In New York City aka “land of the little men” the pickings are slim so short men should flock to Manhattan!<\/p>\n

<\/em><\/strong>FYI One short guy who hit on me told me “don’t worry, I’ll cut you down to size” after I commented that I was so much taller than him. That was a MAJOR TURN ON for me!<\/strong>
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