{"id":7039,"date":"2010-12-26T03:12:25","date_gmt":"2010-12-26T03:12:25","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2025-10-15T00:59:22","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T00:59:22","slug":"5-secrets-to-making-him-love-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=7039","title":{"rendered":"5 secrets to making him love you"},"content":{"rendered":"

Know a woman who always seems to be in perfect sync with the guy she is dating \u2014 they laugh at each other\u2019s jokes, are considerate of one another\u2019s feelings, and are devotedly in love (and best friends to boot)? <\/strong>Well, the reason this gal\u2019s so lucky in love is pretty simple: It\u2019s because she treats her guy right, and he can\u2019t get enough of her company. Now, when I say she \u201ctreats her guy right,\u201d what do I mean? She treats him like a friend, giving him the same five-star support, understanding, and (yes) slack we automatically extend to our girlfriends. If you want to reap the same benefits in your own love life, try some of these tips, and, trust me, you\u2019ll notice a difference. That girl is me.
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\nHere is how you can get there too:
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\n1. Share an activity
\nFor women, it\u2019s second nature to invite their girlfriends along for a shopping spree, yoga class, spa day, you name it. But activity-based bonding shouldn\u2019t be relegated to females only. Guys love jawing over a shared pursuit, and while he might not be up for a mani\/pedi (nor you for a day spent watching basketball), there are plenty of other options. Becoming gym buddies is a no-brainer (and can serve as that extra kick-in-the-butt you need to go more often!), or if you two usually dine out on a Saturday night, consider delving into a cook book and taking a crack at a recipe that\u2019s a bit of a challenge, like duck terrine with glazed shallots. Whether it turns out terrific or so odd that you end up ordering takeout, the fact that you\u2019ve worked toward a common goal together builds team spirit. And by investing in a history of shared experiences with your partner in crime, you\u2019ll increase the things you have in common and experience a deeper bond.
\nIt goes without saying, you must share similar interests and activities and be very compatible.
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\n2. Cheer him on
\n<\/strong>Women take great pains to make their girlfriends feel great about themselves, showering them with ego-boosters like, \u201cYou look amazing; that is the best color on you\u201d or \u201cOf course, you should email that guy \u2014 he\u2019d be lucky to have you!\u201d And while we might think the world of the men we date and even brag about them to our friends and family members, telling him these things doesn\u2019t always occur to us. Maybe it\u2019s because we assume guys possess impenetrable egos \u2014 but the truth is, they can be just as insecure as your female friends and would probably appreciate a compliment now and then. So, if he just got a promotion at work, toast him at dinner and tell him exactly why he deserved it. Or try a simple off-the-cuff statement, such as: \u201cYou look so good in that shirt \u2014 it really brings out the color in your eyes.\u201d Don\u2019t be surprised if he suddenly seems to be around a whole lot more often, basking in your presence.
\nI always tell my fiance how handsome he looks, what great shape he is in, how incredibly smart he is, etc. He knows that I look up to him and have great admiration for him and he wouldn’t accept it any other way. He would immediately cut off a woman who was abusive or controlling because he knows that he is too good for someone like that!<\/p>\n

<\/em><\/strong><\/em><\/strong><\/em><\/strong>3. Let him be himself
\n<\/strong>Most women find it hard to love guys just the way they are. We want to change their hair, their clothes, their job, and sometimes even their friends to fit our ideal. With our own pals, we\u2019re more accepting of their differences; we can actually be proud to have a technology nerd, yoga snob or fashion slave as part of our collection of confidantes. Ruthanna Hall, a sales associate in New York, has learned to relax and appreciate distinctly male behaviors (with great results) in her own relationship.<\/em><\/strong> \u201cWhen we go out, I might feel more like a cool lounge uptown, but then all he\u2019ll want is a round of darts at the neighborhood dive,\u201d she explains. Rather than sulk all evening about his lack of class, she\u2019ll focus in on the funny conversation they\u2019re having. \u201cSure, most guys do things that cause girls to go \u2018uggghhh!\u2019 But that\u2019s just the way they are,\u201d she says. \u201cWhy not get on with it and have fun?\u201d
\nBuy him clothes and gadgets that you know he will like instead of what you will like for him.
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\n4. Tell him what you think
\n<\/strong>We don\u2019t expect our best friends to always know what we\u2019re thinking. In fact, we actually enjoy swapping our thoughts, hopes, and fears \u2014 that\u2019s most of the fun! But why, then, are we so disappointed when our boyfriends don\u2019t exhibit mind-reading tendencies 24\/7? We\u2019ve all been guilty of harboring romantic notions like, \u201cIf he\u2019s been listening to me, he\u2019ll know exactly where to take me for dinner on Valentine\u2019s Day\u201d or \u201cIf he were truly paying attention right now, he\u2019d know I\u2019m freaking out about this virus on my computer and offer to come over and help.\u201d But trust me, you\u2019ll save yourself a lot of disappointment by just telling him where you want to dine out on Valentine\u2019s Day, or by asking him to come over with his anti-virus software. After all, it\u2019s common knowledge that two heads are better than one, so just because you\u2019ve decided he\u2019s The One, don\u2019t go mum and add major guesswork to your communications.
\nDo yourself a favor and don’t be needy and\/or expect too much.
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\n<\/em><\/strong>5. Give him his space
\n<\/strong>Sometimes, girlfriends just go MIA for awhile. They get so busy at work that they don\u2019t return your emails. Do we give them flack for it? Nothing serious. But for some reason, the rules change for guys: We rail on them for not promptly returning phone calls, take offense if they want a guy\u2019s night out. But remember, achieving a balance between \u201cme\u201d time and \u201cwe\u201d time will make the time you do spend together even better.<\/em><\/strong> Bridget Cunningham found her relationship got so much mellower once she stopped stressing about where her boyfriend was every hour. \u201cI don\u2019t hold it against him when he wants to have his own time,\u201d she says. \u201cYou don\u2019t cut your friends off when they do things with other people, so why shouldn\u2019t it be the same with the person you love? Meanwhile I\u2019m free to go running off with my girlfriend and blab about girl stuff. We meet afterwards for coffee, and we\u2019re both feeling refreshed and fulfilled by spending time apart\u2026and that much happier to be spending time together again.\u201d <\/p>\n

I have witnessed the worst relationships around where the wife bombards the husband with phone calls, messages, spying, and other similar type controlling behavior. I was horrified to know that a man can live in this type of environment.<\/em><\/strong> Any worthwhile man will run for the hills from a woman who behaves in this manner unless he is STUCK for some financial or other reason. It reeks of insecurity and desperation and makes everyone who witnesses it very ill at ease! Please never do this.
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