{"id":7714,"date":"2011-02-21T03:02:35","date_gmt":"2011-02-21T03:02:35","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2011-02-21T03:02:35","modified_gmt":"2011-02-21T03:02:35","slug":"7-Icebreakers-To-Meet-Your-Match-","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?p=7714","title":{"rendered":"7 Icebreakers To Meet Your Match!"},"content":{"rendered":"

You know that moment: you spot someone across a crowded room, bus, or produce section. You\u2019d love to meet \u2014 but what the heck can you say to a complete stranger that won\u2019t come off as dorky or desperate? Try one of these real-world icebreakers that singles swear by. Why? Because these lines earned them plenty of dates!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Flirt with a fly-by<\/strong>
\n\u201cMy best icebreaking technique is what I call the \u2018fly-by.\u2019 It\u2019s where you make witty comments of a relevant nature as you walk by the person who interests you. For example, this one time I saw a guy in the grocery store who was really attractive. So, as I passed him in the cereal aisle I said, \u2018Buy the Frosted Flakes \u2014 sure, it\u2019s all sugar, but everyone needs to eat like a kid now and then.\u2019 Later, when I saw him again in a different aisle, I said, \u2018We have to stop meeting like this!\u2019 and finally, when we were near each other in the checkout line, I said, \u2018Care to chill out over coffee after all this decision-making?\u2019 He accepted!\u201d<\/p>\n

2. Try the direct approach<\/strong>
\n\u201cI have approached people in grocery stores, on the street, pretty much anywhere, and the best conversation starter I\u2019ve found is just to say what I\u2019m thinking. I\u2019ll say something like, \u2018Hi. My name is Josh, and I just wanted to let you know I find you incredibly attractive.\u2019 Everyone on this planet likes to be found attractive. And even if they don\u2019t want to date you, most people will graciously accept your compliment.\u201d
\n\u2014 Josh Prince, New York, NY <\/p>\n

3. Take a survey<\/strong>
\n\u201cSometimes I pretend I\u2019m doing a survey for research purposes. People just assume it\u2019s for a school or work project. My best \u2018survey\u2019 approach is to ask guys to tell me what they think the ratio in this particular spot is of those who are out to actually meet someone to date versus those who are just out to have a good time with their friends. It allows you to go up to anyone and just start talking\u2026both men and women! And you don\u2019t have to worry about coming across as hitting on anyone. It\u2019s all in the name of research!\u201d
\n\u2014Amy Brewer, New York, NY <\/p>\n

4. Play some games<\/strong>
\n\u201cMy friends and I like to play the typical old-school games while we\u2019re out \u2014 pool, darts, foosball, etc. \u2014 and you can use these games as an excuse to talk to whatever cutie you\u2019ve been eyeing. For example, I walk up to a person I find attractive and say something like, \u2018Hey, my friends and I are playing doubles at the pool table, but my partner left. Do you mind helping me out?\u2019 It takes a lot of pressure off meeting someone because you\u2019re both being active, which leads to a more natural conversation starter, like: \u2018I can\u2019t believe you made that shot! Do you play a lot?\u2019 versus sitting at a table trying to force witty banter. I actually met two guys with this little trick.\u201d
\n\u2014 Shannon Hamilton, Arlington, VA <\/p>\n

5. Lay on the flattery<\/strong>
\n\u201cOne of the best ways to meet men is to pay them a compliment. Not just by saying \u2018nice tie\u2019 or whatever, but something really flattering. For example, one time on the way to the ladies room at a restaurant where I was having dinner alone, I noticed a very well-dressed man. On the way back I stopped at his table and said, \u2018You are simply the best-dressed man I have seen in a very long time\u2019 and then proceeded on to my table. Within about five minutes, he came to my table and asked if he could join me for dessert. My answer was yes.\u201d
\n\u2014 Gloria Starr, Charlotte, NC <\/p>\n

6. Ask a question<\/strong>
\n\u201cIf I\u2019m going to try to chat someone up, I make sure that my opening line invites a conversation. So if I see a woman picking up some curry sauce at Trader Joe\u2019s, I\u2019ll say, \u2018Excuse me, I\u2019ve always seen that sauce and wondered about it. How can you use it? Is it very spicy?\u2019 Or, if I\u2019m at a music store, I\u2019ll ask a woman in the classical section something like, \u2018Excuse me, I\u2019m just getting into classical music. Can you recommend something?\u2019 In my experience, these kinds of questions really get you and the other person talking about your shared interests \u2014 which is a great way to bond.\u201d
\n\u2014 Henry Bloomberg, Boston, MA <\/p>\n

7. A little humor and humility can\u2019t hurt<\/strong>
\n\u201cI like to use what I call the \u2018no-line\u2019 pick-up line. I mosey over and say something innocent, like: \u2018Excuse me for interrupting; I can see you\u2019re busy reading (studying, working, whatever). You caught my attention, so I thought I would risk public humiliation by introducing myself.\u2019 My theory is that it doesn\u2019t really matter much what you say. If she\u2019s keen, she\u2019ll pick up the ball and respond in kind.\u201d
\n\u2014 William Sukala, San Diego, CA
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