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Reason #1: For payback<\/strong>
\n\u201cI once cheated on my girlfriend after I saw on her cell phone that she had been text-messaging with her ex. They were pretty harmless messages, but it angered me that she had been communicating with him in the first place \u2014 I\u2019d always thought they were a little too chummy. That night, I was out with friends and got it all off my chest. I got so worked up about those messages that I pretty much made it my mission to find another girl and kiss her or get her number, which I did. I think it was a payback thing. We eventually broke up, but not because of that incident \u2014 I never told her \u2014 but more so because we just weren\u2019t right for each other. I know it wasn\u2019t the best way to handle my anger, but at the time, it sure did feel good.\u201d
\n\u2013 Christopher, 29, Oakland, CA <\/p>\n

Reason #2: The chemistry just isn\u2019t there<\/strong>
\n\u201cEver since I can remember, I have always been attracted to women who looked a certain way. My ex-girlfriend was great in many ways, but she was completely opposite of my usual type, looks-wise, which did absolutely nothing to make me physically attracted to her. I tried to get past it, but it was hard. About two months into our relationship, I was out with a bunch of friends and our incredibly attractive (and single!) waitress was really hitting on me. She gave me her number and asked me if I wanted me to meet her after her shift was over. I agreed, and we ended up spending the night just kissing and holding each other. It was just for one night, but it helped me realize I needed to end things with my girlfriend because I had to be with someone I was madly attracted to, not just someone who was a great friend.\u201d
\n\u2013 Dave, 26, Roanoke, VA <\/p>\n

Reason #3: Spending almost no time together as a couple<\/strong>
\n\u201cI cheated on my ex at a time when she was traveling so much that I never saw her. It was almost as if I didn\u2019t have a girlfriend. I got so lonely \u2014 especially on the weekend nights. I missed that companionship, both physically and emotionally. When she was gone, I began seeing someone else while I was still technically seeing my ex. I ended up telling my ex and she broke it off with me. In the end, I think things ended for the better, even though the steps I took to make it happen weren\u2019t very honorable. I now make sure that whoever I choose to date doesn\u2019t have a job that requires big-time traveling.\u201d
\n\u2013 Scott, 30, Jessup, MD <\/p>\n

Reason #4: Wanting to play the field instead of settling down<\/strong>
\n\u201cI had dated Melanie all through college ever since we met at freshman orientation. After we graduated, I moved to New York and she moved to Chicago, but we decided we\u2019d stay together. I spent nearly every weekend traveling to see her, but during the week, I\u2019d go out with my friends in New York and have a blast. After a few months of that schedule, I knew staying true to her would be tough; going out in the city made me realize how many smart, beautiful women are out there, and never having been with anyone other than Melanie made me feel like I was missing out on a lot of fun. One night I met up with another girl, which finally made me realize I had to end things with Melanie. I told her what happened, and, as it turned out, she had done the same thing a few times. While we were both hurt, we realized we needed to take some time off. We stayed friends, and still are today, even though we\u2019re married to different people.\u201d
\n\u2013 Tom, 35, New York, NY <\/p>\n

Reason #5: Emotional and\/or lifestyle incompatibility<\/strong>
\n\u201cI met my ex in a Weight Watchers meeting, of all places. When we started dating, we were both about 50 pounds overweight. As the months went by, I took the program really seriously and quickly dropped weight. She didn\u2019t adhere to the program and her weight didn\u2019t come off. After I lost the weight, I felt this new sense of confidence \u2014 women who had never spoken to me before began approaching me and it felt great. My ex, on the other hand, was depressed about being heavy and was always jealous of other women. One weekend when she was out of town, I met this gorgeous woman at my gym and we spent time together. I never told my ex, but I did end up breaking up with her a few weeks after that incident. I\u2019ve realized since then that I need to be with women who are on the same page as me about the things in my life that are important.\u201d
\n\u2013 Brad, 41, Houston, TX <\/p>\n

Reason #6: There\u2019s too much drama in the current relationship<\/strong>
\n\u201cMy ex and I used to live together, and we fought all the time. The constant tension made me miserable. In contrast to my ex, there was a girl at work who was easygoing, friendly and fun. One night we were both working late and ended up getting dinner together after we left. One thing led to another, and it ended up being more than a platonic night. As bad as this may sound, after that happened, I felt free. It was as if I finally had the courage to just end it with my ex already. When I came home the next morning, my ex went crazy, but for the first time, it didn\u2019t bother me, because I knew what I was going to do. I told her exactly what had happened and that I\u2019d be moving out that week… and I did. I began seeing the girl from work, and we\u2019ve been together for about four months now.\u201d
\n\u2013 Nate, 34, Boulder, CO <\/p>\n

Reason #7: To provide a sorely needed shot of self-esteem<\/strong>
\n\u201cI\u2019m really shy and have never felt very comfortable approaching women. I once had a girlfriend who was just as shy. Our relationship was fine \u2014 nothing too exciting \u2014 but I was resigned to the fact that it was my best option. I went to a conference for business, and during one of the dinners, a really attractive, intelligent woman at my table began hitting on me like mad. I was so shocked; nothing like that had ever happened to me before. It made my self-confidence skyrocket, and I felt like I was on top of the world. She and I hung out that night and a few other times during the conference. I never told my ex about what had happened, but I did end things with her a few months later. After the conference the other woman and I never saw each other again, but the experience gave me the confidence that I could go out and approach interesting, exciting women \u2014 I just needed that push.\u201d
\n\u2013 Charlie, 33, St. Louis, MO <\/p>\n

Reason #8: To pursue the one that got away<\/strong>
\n\u201cI once cheated on my girlfriend of six months when a girl I had been pining over for quite some time came on to me. She had been with someone else for a long time, so I knew she was off-limits. I have to admit, I\u2019d still probably do it again; it was like my fantasy finally came true. I broke up with my girlfriend and dated this girl awhile, but we didn\u2019t last. Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality!\u201d<\/strong>\u2013 Mark, 44, New York, NY
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