HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU MARRIED THE RIGHT PERSON?<\/p>\n
During one of my seminars, a woman asked me a
\nquestion. She said, “How do I know if I married
\nthe right person?”<\/p>\n
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next
\nto her so I said, “It depends. Is that your
\nhusband?”<\/p>\n
In all seriousness, how do you know?<\/p>\n
Here’s the answer.<\/p>\n
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,
\nyou fell in love with your spouse. You
\nanticipated their call, wanted their touch, and
\nliked their idiosyncrasies. <\/p>\n
Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In
\nfact, it was a completely spontaneous
\nexperience. You didn’t have to DO anything.
\nThat’s why it’s called “falling” in love – because
\nit’s happening TO YOU. <\/p>\n
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept off my
\nfeet.” Think about the imagery of that
\nexpression. It implies that you were just
\nstanding there; doing nothing, and then something
\ncame along and happened TO YOU. <\/p>\n
Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and
\nspontaneous experience. <\/p>\n
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria
\nof love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY
\nrelationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
\nbecome a bother (if they come at all), touch is
\nnot always welcome (when it happens), and your
\nspouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
\ndrive you nuts. <\/p>\n
The symptoms of this stage vary with every
\nrelationship, but if you think about your
\nmarriage, you will notice a dramatic difference
\nbetween the initial stage when you were in love
\nand a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.<\/p>\n
At this point, you and\/or your spouse might start
\nasking, “Did I marry the right person?” And as
\nyou and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
\nthe love you once had, you may begin to desire
\nthat experience with someone else. This is when
\nmarriages breakdown. People blame their spouse
\nfor their unhappiness and look outside their
\nmarriage for fulfillment. <\/p>\n
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and
\nsizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But
\nsometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
\nfriendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. <\/p>\n
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie
\noutside your marriage. It lies within it.<\/p>\n
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love
\nwith someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY
\nyou’d feel better. But you’d be in the same
\nsituation a few years later. Because (listen
\ncarefully) THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN
\nMARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S
\nLEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.<\/p>\n
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous
\nexperience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You
\ncan’t “find” LASTING love. You have to “make” it
\nday in and day out. That’s why we have the
\nexpression “the labor of love.” Because it takes
\ntime, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
\nit takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to
\nmake your marriage work.<\/p>\n
Make no mistake about it. Love
\nis NOT a mystery. There are specific things you
\ncan do (with or without your spouse) to succeed
\nwith your marriage.<\/p>\n
Just as there are physical laws of the universe
\n(such as gravity), there are also laws for
\nrelationships. Just as the right diet and
\nexercise program makes you physically stronger,
\ncertain habits in your relationship WILL make
\nyour marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and
\neffect. If you know and apply the laws, the
\nresults are predictable – you can “make” love.<\/p>\n
Marriage Fitness a step-by-step system for making
\nand maintaining love in your marriage. And the
\nprogram works for any marriage even if only one
\nspouse does it.<\/p>\n
I agree with this to an extent but I also believe that many people do rush into marriage with the WRONG PERSON or stay in MISERABLE RELATIONSHIPS much too long because they are afraid of change. I completely disagree with THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. That is just plain RIDICULOUS. If that is your mantra, I pity you. \ud83d\ude41 That is basically saying, learn to love the one you’re with. Sorry, every other woman is off limits, you are stuck buddy. You made your bed a long time ago!! LOL<\/em><\/strong> HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU MARRIED THE RIGHT PERSON? During one of my seminars, a woman asked me a<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1213,"featured_media":72448,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"colormag_page_container_layout":"default_layout","colormag_page_sidebar_layout":"default_layout","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7877","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news"],"magazineBlocksPostFeaturedMedia":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x150.jpg","medium":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","medium_large":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","large":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","1536x1536":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","2048x2048":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-highlighted-post":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-featured-post-medium":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-featured-post-small":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x90.jpg","colormag-featured-image":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-default-news":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x150.jpg","colormag-featured-image-large":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-block-extra-large-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-grid-large-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-grid-small-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg","colormag-elementor-grid-medium-large-thumbnail":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg"},"magazineBlocksPostAuthor":{"name":"Joshua","avatar":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/62ee23f8f40307578d1f284ecd823d77f32da8ea35541e7dbdafeb5da1a4e877?s=96&d=mm&r=g"},"magazineBlocksPostCommentsNumber":"1","magazineBlocksPostExcerpt":"HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU MARRIED THE RIGHT PERSON? During one of my seminars, a woman asked me a","magazineBlocksPostCategories":["News"],"magazineBlocksPostViewCount":186,"magazineBlocksPostReadTime":4,"magazine_blocks_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg",113,170,false],"medium":["https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u.jpg",113,170,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/u-113x150.jpg",113,150,true]},"magazine_blocks_author":{"display_name":"Joshua","author_link":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/?author=1213"},"magazine_blocks_comment":1,"magazine_blocks_author_image":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/62ee23f8f40307578d1f284ecd823d77f32da8ea35541e7dbdafeb5da1a4e877?s=96&d=mm&r=g","magazine_blocks_category":"News<\/a>","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7877","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1213"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7877"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7877\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/72448"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7877"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7877"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/asiancemagazine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7877"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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