The new female sport: testosterone hunting?

My response to previous article: What’s real, trying hard and fake testosterone? http://my.asiancemagazine.com/2012/01/11/what-is-real-trying-hard-and-fake-testosterone

But when biological clocks start to tick and loneliness sets in, the hunt begins. Clubs and pubs become a jungle of eligible males (or a string of disappointing dates) as women flash their assets and dart their eyes around in hopeful search of “the one”.

I’m not sure when testosterone hunting became a bona fide sport. But Sophia Abella, yes!

Although I myself disagree with these in terms of 3 types of men, actually the descriptive I give of being fake, trying hard and real testosterone can actually describe one person in and of itself. Most men can be all 3, albeit it takes maturity and life choices to actually find a person’s core, which ultimately defines who they are. Simple really.

They suspect me I have been through some hard times, and it is easier to see or have an opinion about others based on “what you read” or what you think you know. Ultimately by knowing oneself is enough, this way it makes things easier when looking for that other special someone as you would already be solid in terms of your own identity, who you are and what you really want. To go through life and try to put others life into perspective really can be a reflection of you actually trying to understand yourself or feel good about who you are. I am talking generally, not personally. Take it as you readers will.

With regards to truth, I now disagree that we all strive to get it. Some people do not want to have truth in their life at all.

They are comfortable not facing truth maybe because of experiences that would contribute to certain choices. Some people, men, women, LGBT can decide to live their lives in a bubble and be protected by that bubble so that allows no-one to enter and find truth, whatever that means. With regards to lies, yes, we all lie, but the reasoning behind the lie may not be so sinister as you describe, lies can help protect us and also protect others, the person whom we should check our lies is ourselves, deep down inside when we are thinking about our untruths.

I think it is a basic case of understanding oneself first, include likes and dislikes, what one is willing to try and not try and go from there. It does not have to be so deep, and there is never a right answer, the answer lies in how you feel about a choice you make, not how you feel because someone else thinks it is ok. I notice other writing they talk about other people and their writing style is as an observer, which gives you the false sense of being able to help because you present that you understand, that is a barrier you have. It’s sweet! I am not saying it is not noble, it is good to want to help others, however by helping myself first is a good start and does not finish despite how much one reads or learns, it is an ongoing process and that is the beauty of getting up in the morning and living our life, not just surviving it!

The above slowly goes into love and its massive influence that it can have. The problem with love is that too many people forget that love is an emotion, it is triggered by feelings, through knowledge and a basic understanding of what one likes etc. Love needs to be left alone and not
analyzed too much as it is infinite and one of the most powerful emotions there is. Love has nothing to do with being selfish or narcissistic, on the contrary, it’s about unconditional feeling which leads to giving and showing, despite not receiving in return. That in my opinion is true love, with no conditions, it is up to the other person to embrace that or walk away. My comments about time, I agree with that completely, that has been my problem, I sometimes think that a gift is what it should take but it is nothing compared to spending time with someone. Quality time and not just being around.

Choices, uhhhmmm. Well choices begin with understanding options, when they are not thought out then they are not a choice, only an impulse. I agree, one cannot choose who they fall in love with However by following your instincts and educating yourself and making correct choices will category_ide you to an environment that will allow you to meet a significant other person, without much difficulty. Once that happens the rest should be fantastic because combined with a partner you can learn more about yourself and create a life with real sharing and not bullshit. Our lives are not a slave to choices, only if we keep making the incorrect ones, that’s all. But that’s the beauty of life, we can make mistakes, fall down and get back up and start again, and what better if you look up and see a genuine hand ready to help you? Fantastic! The strength is enormous and then any problem becomes a choice of how to deal with it and overcome.

Remind yourself to live your life as you feel comfortable, embrace that or make changes, that’s what I am doing. It is not always good to be right all the time, people might say you are mouthy or opinioned, fuck that! Opinions are like arseholes, we all have one and they all stink! We have 2 ears and one mouth, this means we should listen twice as much as we speak.
With regards to friends, of all the people I know, I probably have no more than 2-3 real friends, that’s it, and that’s fine with me and I consider myself very lucky.
On a lighter note and not too deep! LOL. I looked at friends face book and photo albums, I don’t know, there is something about people I cannot put my finger on, they look as if you they know what they want but then again, trying too hard comes to mind. I understand that but relax, be cool, everything will come if it is meant to be. Take advice as well as give it, you never know you could learn something else which in turn will assist your life. I know I have, with commenters I learnt something, so, thank you for that.