City women head for LI, Conn. & NJ for guys who can commit_
Gorgeous single women are ditching the Manhattan dating scene in droves — and are increasingly looking for sex and love in the suburbs.
Some of the city’s most eligible bachelorettes told The Post the trend developed when they grew fed up with immature city men who aren’t willing to commit.
Instead, the women would rather hop on the commuter train to Westchester County, Greenwich, Conn., Nassau County and New Jersey hot spots that are now teeming with available mates.
“Greenwich guys have gotten a lot younger,” said raven-haired Megan Glynn, 30, who lives in the East Village and is a visual-presentation coordinator for jewelry company David Yurman.
“It used to be all families, but now it’s more of a business mini-mecca.”
Women like Glynn took the advice of dating experts, who for years have been telling city women to look in the suburbs.
“If you look, you’ll see these single guys advertising online, ‘Come out here, come date me,’ ” said relationship expert Heidi Banks.
“Don’t just look at the radius of NYC. You don’t know who you are going to meet outside of the city.”
Glynn often takes a 30-minute ride on Metro-North after work on Wednesdays or Thursdays to meet mature men with established careers at banks and hedge funds.
Most New York men, she said, are too obsessed with appearances.
“Guys in New York City are constantly emasculated when they have to buy a bottle to get into a club or they take a girl back to their apartment that they share with five other guys,” she said.
It also helps that there’s less competition.
“There’s not a lot of attractive females,” Glynn bluntly said about Connecticut clubs.
“If you’re smart and witty and you go out to Greenwich, you can do well.”
On her most recent trip last Wednesday, she settled in at the waterfront restaurant and lounge L’Escale.
She quickly found Doug Bookbinder, a 28-year-old finance entrepreneur.
The two flirted on a bench and later exchanged phone numbers.
“Everybody’s doing it,” said Anna Rothschild, an Upper East Side divorcee in her 40s who takes a car service to Greenwich several times a month.
“I have friends who go up there all the time for drinks after work,” she told The Post at Greenwich hot spot J House last week. “There’s so many guys! I don’t know which way to look,” she said, settling down for the night with Tim Mehnert, an actor and model.
Another professional woman said she goes to the suburbs because the men are “preppy, not pretentious.”
“Ugly guys in Manhattan, they think they’re hot stuff,” said Robyn Kassner, a 35-year-old owner of branding firm Haute PR who lives on the Upper East Side.
“In Connecticut, they’re just very normal, very sweet, very unassuming. They don’t have game. They’re steak-and-potatoes American. They don’t care about fashion, they’re not metrosexual,” said Kassner, who hopped on a train to Stamford, Conn., on July 12 for an outdoor concert featuring alt-rocker Matisyahu in order to meet a decent guy.
High-end matchmakers said it’s a matter of time before heading to the suburbs is no longer considered a trend — and becomes the norm.
“I don’t see it going away,” said Bravo’s “Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger.
“The men are not in the city; they’re buying houses in a down economy. If you want to get married, you have to go to where the men are. You have to think: location, location, location.”
Where the boys are
Tips from “Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger and VH1’s Siggy Flicker:
Connecticut hot spots:
L’Escale in Greenwich
Valbella in Greenwich
Round-trip by train: $34
Round-trip by car: $150
Long Island hot spot:
Toku in Manhasset
Round-trip by train: $20
Round-trip by car: $170
New Jersey hot spot:
Axia Taverna in Tenafly
Round-trip by car: $200
Best advice:
*? Stay at the local bed and breakfast.
*? Join the local country club.
*? Ask the bartender who’s single.
*? Try online dating focused on an area.
In my opinion, they are the same everywhere. The key is to find a man at the right time: when he is ready for commitment. It doesn’t matter whether he is in the city or the burbs. That is the way it is girls!
Read more: http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/manhattan/you_go_girl_out_to_burbs_for_real_YIM2AfWnI2w6yXIXCe3I9I#ixzz21Vz5yTYb
Isn’t this Marissa’s hood and she can’t seem to bag a guy even if he was delivered to her door? Maybe the local guys don’t like homegrown girls? New species in the jungle?
how do you know? Is that a fact anonymous?
Probably as factual as anything else on a typical blog
You have a wonderful sense of humour! Thank you
FIRST OF ALL, I HAVEN’T BEEN TO GREENWICH, CT IN ALMOST 4 YEARS!! HOWEVER, WEN I DID GO STARTING IN MEI EARLY 20’S, I WENT TO THE SAILING/BOATING CLUBS, THE BRUCE MUSEUM FOR FRIDAY NIGHTS WHICH USED TO BE SINGLES NIGHTS AND THE HOTEL RESTAURANTS INCLUDING THE AFOREMENTIONED, ONE RESTAURANT CALLED BLUE AND A CLUB CALLED KRYPTON WITH MEI ROOMMATES WEN AT UNIVERSITY TO MEET OLDER MATURE MEN!! L’ESCALE IN GREENWICH USED TO HAVE SINGLES NIGHTS ON THE TERRACE ON EVERY THURSDAY NIGHT=THURSDAY NIGHTS WERE ALWAYS THE BEST!!
THANK YOU SEW MUCH FOR YOUR LOVELY COMPLIMENT HOWEVER!! YOU ARE RIGHT, I CANNOT “BAG” ANY MAN MAINLY BECAUSE I AM UGLEE, NOT SMART AT ALL AND HAVE 0% SENSE OF HUMOR=I NOT FUNNY AT ALL!! 🙁 WOE IS MEE!! 🙁 CLEARLY I AM NOT LOOKING TO “BAG” ANYONE BUT RATHER GROW VERY BORED WITH A MAN AFTER HE COMMITS TO MEE=THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN MEI MAIN PROBLEM!! I ONLEE LIKE THE UNKNOWN AND TRULY DESIRE THE UNAVAILALBE AND ALREADY TAKEN=WHAT CAN I SAY?? I REALLY DUE WISH I WOULD FALL FOR SOMEONE HARD ENOUGH TO WANT TO “BAG” HIM UNTIL ETERNITY TO USE YOUR CATCHY PHRASE!! AND DON’T WORRY, I HAD MORE THAN A FEW BOYFRIENDS FROM THAT HOOD IN MEI DATING LIFE!! LIKE ALWAYS I WAS QUITE THE VISIONARY AND 20 STEPS AHEAD OF EVERYONE ELSE AS FAR AS THE GREENWICH DATING SCENE WAS CONCERNED. GREENWICH IS BASICALLY AN EXTENSION OF NYC NOW AS IS STAMFORD, CT. THE REAL HOTTIES ARE UP THE LINE FROM GREENWICH, THE MAINLINE PA AND AROUND SUMMIT AND SHORT HILLS, NJ MAI FRIENDS!! YUE ARE SEW RIGHT “ANONYMOUS,” I AM SURE THAT IF AND WEN I RETURN TO THE AREA, THE MEN WILL BE RUNNING MEE OUT OF THAT TOWN LIKE THEY HAVE BEEN FOR ALL THESE YEARS! 🙂 BTW, ALL OF MEI FIANCES WERE LIVING IN THEIR OWN HIGH END COOP/CONDO, HAD A CAR IN THE GARAGE AND WERE WORKING ON WALL STREET IN NYC BUT NOT ONE OF THEM WAS FROM NYC=GREENWICH,CT, SADDLE RIVER, NJ AND SPRINGFIELD, MO= MOST SUCCESSFUL MEN FROM THE SUBURBS WORK IN NYC!! NEVER ENCOUNTERED A PROBLEM WITH THE NYC DATING SCENE MEISELF SO I REALLY CAN’T RELATE=YOU NEED TO LOOK YOUR BEST, BE HIGH MAINTENANCE, DRESS TO IMPRESS, BE FASHIONABLE, GORGEOUS AND STAND OUT FROM THE CROWD BC FRUMPY AND NON FASHION CONSCIOUS GIRLS DON’T STAND A CHANCE IN NEW YORK CITY = IT IS VERY COMPETITIVE AND SWARMING WITH BEAUTIFUL MODELS BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE AT ALL!! THE GIRLS WHO DO BEST ARE MODEL/DANCER/THEATER AND ACTRESS TYPES BC THEY ARE THE CREME DE LA CREME OF THE CITY AND KNOW HOW TO WORK IT!! 🙂 MOST GIRLS ARE CLUELESS, LACK ANY SOPHISTICATION AND DON’T WANT TO INVEST THE TIME AND EFFORT TO LOOK THEIR VERY BEST AT ALL TIMES=THAT IS WHY THEY CAN’T GET ANY IN NYC!! IF YOU HAVE A GREAT SENSE OF STYLE, TAKE THE TIME TO PROFESSIONALLY BLOW OUT/STYLE YOUR HAIR EACH DAY AND APPLY YOUR MAKEUP LIKE A PRO=YUE WON’T HAVE TO TRAVEL VERY FAR AT ALL!! TRUST MEE, “GORGEOUS” FOR GREENWICH IS ALMOST INVISIBLE IN NYC=THEY DON’T CALL NYC “THE CANDY STORE FOR MEN” FOR NOTHING!! 🙁 THE ONE THING I WILL AGREE WITH HOWEVER IS THAT FRUMPY, OVERWEIGHT AND PLAIN AND/OR TACKY GIRLS WILL DUE MUCH BETTER IN PLACES LIKE GREENWICH AND STAMFORD AKA “MANFORD” WHERE A MAN IS HAPPY TO GET ATTENTION FROM ANY LIVE FEMALE DUE TO A TREMENDOUS SHORTAGE!! LET’S FACE IT, MEN WANT TO GET LAID AND THEY ARE SUCH CREATURES OF CONVENIENCE=THEY WILL SETTLE ON A CHEAP HAMBURGER IF THERE ISN’T ANY FILET MIGNON TO BE OFFERED!! AND NO OFFENSE, BUT IF THESE GIRLS WERE SO HOT IN THE FIRST PLACE, THEY WOULDN’T HAVE HAD SO MUCH TROUBLE WITH THE DATING SCENE IN NYC=THEY CLEARLY DON’T MEASURE UP TO THE INTENSE COMPETITION!! WHY IS IT THAT NANCY LEE AND I ARE PURSUED REGARDLESS OF WHERE WEI ARE – EVEN NAPLES FLORIDA?? SPEAKING OF WHICH THE HOTTEST MEN OF ALL ARE IN TAMPA/PALM BEACH, FL, CHICAGO, IL, HOUSTON/DALLAS TX AND RESTON/MACLEAN, VA!! 🙂
PLEASE NOTE THAT EVERYTHING ON MEI BLOG AND ON THIS SITE WRITTEN BY NANCY LEE AND/OR MEE IS A FACT THAT HAS GONE THROUGH SPECIAL SECURITY CLEARANCE AND IS CONSIDERED CLASSY FIED INFORMATION!! 🙂