The White Man versus The Asian Man
I can just hear it now….the ohhs and ahhs. How dare she go there! How dare she compare the asian man to the white man! Blasphemous! Off with her head! I see what some people post to this site. IT’s a contentious issue but yeah, I am going to go there. I dated every color under the sun. Hey – I don’t see color. I’ve been seen as a color, object, sex toy my entire life. I’m equal opportunity employment. It sure as hell works for me in the workplace today. I know I get some breaks so, I most certainly must give it back in the dating sense, right?
I can just hear it now….the ohhs and ahhs. How dare she go there! How dare she compare the asian man to the white man! Blasphemous! Off with her head! I see what some people post to this site. IT’s a contentious issue but yeah, I am going to go there. I dated every color under the sun. Hey – I don’t see color. I’ve been seen as a color, object, sex toy my entire life. I’m equal opportunity employment. It sure as hell works for me in the workplace today. I know I get some breaks so, I most certainly must give it back in the dating sense, right? Well, I think so.
Here goes!
At 27 years old, I’ve had my share of dating experience; good, bad, ugly, infected (white and Asian)..you name it. I’ll address the stereotypes, truths and my own plain experiences.
White Man Stereotypes – Superior, think they are marriage material to increase our social status, have Asian fetishes, think they own women, elitists, assholes, Arrogant, self-absorbed.
Asian Man Stereotypes – Lack confidence in talking to women, angry, small penises, smart, short, bottom of the barrel, proper, boring, well mannered, think they own Asian women.
In MY dating New York City experience:
White Man –
Cons: think they own all women in general, arrogant, self-absorbed, treated like an object, rude
Pros: confident, makes me feel special and singled out, exciting, adventurous
Asian Man –
Cons: lacking in confidence while talking to me, boring
Pros: Proper, respectful, focused, express their feelings on how much they like me on a date
Let me elaborate:
White Man dating experience:
First and foremost, I would like to point out that I did not mention small penis for either race. I know this was one of the first confirmations you were waiting for so I decided to spill the beans in the beginning. It is completely not true. I’ve had every color under the sun, including fire crotch, hairy beast and grey matters.
Let me give you ladies a little tip on penis size for ANY race. If a man’s hands and feet are small don’t expect a big prize behind the curtain. It’ll be a battle against the bugle only if he wears pleated pants. Real men wear pleated pants. Get me drift?
Being an Asian lady myself, I’m definitely wined and dined by white men. It’s exciting and adventurous. Sometimes it makes we wonder what a romp in the sack is like? I’m usually happy to oblige but lately I’ve been less than willing to jump in right away.
Hot white men who usually date me are looking for a sexual adventure and dorky white me are just happy to date any female. They just think an Asian girl will give them the time of day.
White men are consistent with their dating behavior, so you’re left wondering a lot. Be prepared to be a rebound from a bad experience they had with a white woman or retaliation towards women in general. Some have been rejected too many times from a white woman and want to take it out on the “submissive” Asian. It could also be a trend.
White Man bedroom experience:
They’re adventurous in bed, so don’t expect the standard missionary. This could stem from a fetish, but I’m usually not with them long enough to figure it out. White men are into toys and fulfilling their fantasies.
Asian Men dating experience:
I’ve found that dating Asian men over the years has been slowly changing. I’ve noticed more confidence in each new Asian man I hang out with. Dating an Asian man is comforting, warm and secure.
Also, Asian men think I’m their property and that it should be a given that I will go out with them, whether or not I’m attracted to them. They are much more respectful on a date than a white man. They talk about other things besides sex. They are aggressive in their pursuit for a next date. They have a lot to offer financially.
Asian Man bedroom experience:
The “Asian small penis size” stereotype is just that, a stereotype. It’s not true as I explained above. The body hair is great, minimal.
None of these dates have led to serious relationships. It’s either been from one extreme or the other, too casual or too desperate! Dating in New York City has its own issues.
White men are not greater than Asian Men, and Asian Men are not greater than White men. They both have their advantages and disadvantages. It just depends on your taste and tolerance. If you’re young, you will probably be happy playing around with a white man and appreciate an Asian man as you mature, like a fine wine.
My advice to American women who are attracted to an Asian Man or a White Man is to just go for it with an open mind. There are happy Asian couples and happy Asian white couples. I wanted to share my opinions on an equal opportunity, serial dater in NYC.
Feel free to crucify me below or you can always email me at nancy@asiancemagazine.com
I know your story from last year. As many as happy couples you point out there are just as many unhappy couples or bad relationships. Look at the recent headlines of Asian women killed by white guys in the news,( the adult actress, the Yale grad student, the female NYC forensic analyst) Of course you free to date or marry who you wish. I am for healthy relationhips and not preconceived stereotypes and fetish behavior. This dating issue is beaten to death on the other article on this site. Most Asian females marry within their own race/ethnic group. I know my beautiful girlfriend stands by me.
It was stated in a Columbia University article that while women of all colors support interracial dating, white/Latin/black women overwhelmingly look for a partner of their own race.
Asian women are the only ones that do not follow that pattern. Following the logic of Occam’s Razor, where the most likely answer is probably the right one, there is something wrong with the minds of Asian women, not white/Latin/black women.
What further supports that is the history of colonialism, brainwashing, inferiority complex, etc. which is absolutely rife in Asian and Asian American culture.
The world is brutal and the truth will reflect that. The reason why Asian women have no preference for their own, unlike women of other backgrounds, is that they have devalued their own men. The only way to re-balance this is for Asian men to devalue Asian women as a preference. I am a firm believer of karma and that “every dog has it’s day.”
Eventually, Asian women will have their comeuppance.
That’s exactly why our community is so weak. Asian women have no preference for their own which means that they have no preference for their own community.
In order for a small minority community to stay strong, they must favor their own.
Whoops.
As an Asian American male I have to agree with your comment about Asian American men lacking confidence. There are several reasons for this ranging from our upbringing to the media. I’m not going to get into that now but…
Confidence is something that can be learned but requires many failures and rejections (how else do you learn?). This is where I think Asian men need to be willing to accept in order to advance their game – their pride getting crushed by rejection or just by not giving a f**k. Too often my Asian guy friends are too afraid to even say hi to a girl that they ALREADY KNOW. Its pathetic and simply inexcusable.
It is the fault of Asian men for not trying harder. Getting past that approach anxiety is crucial for your chance with women period. After you’ve talked to 100 random women in a month then you can bitch and whine all you want but until then shut up.
Now it also helps to have role models which I do not see much of in American media. I do believe things are changing slowly with newcomers like Daniel Henney and Rain.
As for the Asian Man bedroom experience, the multi-ethnic ladies I’ve been with never had any complaints. Yes, we too are adventurous in bed. Standard missionary? Who the hell does that these days? Where do you think Kama Sutra originated from?
If you don’t know, feel free to shoot me an email Nancy.
Stop hating on yourself for being Asian. We’re like the coolest things under the sun. Get it? GOOD! Yeah can’t wait for my comeuppance for living my life. Loser!
Karma Sutra originated in India. Here’s a great video. Asian men need to be more confident. Getting rather irritated with the bitching and moaning of these p*ssy men…black, white, red, asian, whatever you are. If you don’t like yourself, do something about it. Go to the gym, cut your hair, get a hooker. Stop blaming it on women. Look at Victor Kim from Quest. He’s dating a hot white chick.
FHMs 28 Days of Kama Sutra – Watch more Funny Videos
Wait until my next article: Asian Man versus the Black Man. Yup! I went there and will go there again!
It’s interesting to see that the stereotypes were proven false, in your experience. That is reassuring, since stereotypes are usually just that. Still, a lot what you’ve said is either very subjective or based on limited experience. For example, your comment about pleated pants – that’s more of a style choice than anything else. Some people like the look of pleats and others don’t like the inflated look that pleats cause. Purely a style preference and not an indicator of anything else. -Mike
This has no effect as it doesn’t promote the “white man” ideal that has been pushed in society.
Not like it matters anyway, whenever Asian women such as yourself claim racial diversity in dating, it’s all white anyway. There this blog on blog.okcupid.com which showed that Asian women who date interracially specifically eliminate men of all colors.
So, you can drop the facade of being “colorblind” and “open-minded.”
That’s a very thought-out reply you gave here. It’s pretty much par for the course for the rest of what this defunct e-magazine has to offer.
I’d like to take your statement and point out that while you’re busy thinking about yourself and living “your” life, it runs contrary to the community. If Asian American men are constantly emasculated, how can the sheer number of Asian American women with white men help fight that notion? In fact, it’s reinforcing it.
You can do what you want but please stop saying you support us.
This is why I hate it when Asian women, such as yourself, keep talking about how they support the community and men but their actions run contrary to that fact.
Also, three other things I forgot mention:
1.) You said that one of the big problems with Asian men is that they lack confidence; do you believe that seeing so many Asian women with white men helps reinforce that insecurity or combat it?
2.) The fact you raised that Asian men are only “appreciated” later on in life is repulsive to me. There are lots of benefits to being “conservative” in that it’s more economically responsible. This arises from being pushed by Asian society to be able to provide for their future family.
Your comment smacks of a ideal where Asian men are to be taken advantage of, when all his economical benefits have matured, after getting your fill of white men.
Lastly, I am extremely proud of being an Asian man in New York. I am also proud that more and more Asian men are clueing into the fact that non-Asian women are willing to date them so we don’t have to put up with the sociological abuse that Asian women have dished out.
The main kicker is this, you underestimate and stereotype that anyone who posts this type of “negative” response can only be the stereotypical Asian nerd. I hope you keep doing it because underestimating your adversary always results in defeat.
Just to make one thing clear. I too am proud to be an Asian (Korean American to be exact) male with the balls to game and chat it up any woman of age or color. In addition, I have a beautiful, voluptuous Korean girlfriend who sticks supports and values her Asian brothers and HATES it when she sees Asian men getting fuct in American entertainment probably unlike those other Asian bitches I met at the club. I cringe at the sight of Asian American men being bombarded with racially motivated negativity solely to set us back. That’s all it seems to be these days. “How else can we make Asian men look stupid and asexual? Excuse me…you say your name is William Hung? Why you’d be perfect!!”
Just to make one thing clear. I too am proud to be an Asian (Korean American to be exact) male with the balls to game and chat it up any woman of age or color. In addition, I have a beautiful, voluptuous Korean girlfriend who sticks supports and values her Asian brothers and HATES it when she sees Asian men getting fuct in American entertainment probably unlike those other Asian bitches I met at the club. I cringe at the sight of Asian American men being bombarded with racially motivated negativity solely to set us back. That’s all it seems to be these days. “How else can we make Asian men look stupid and asexual? Excuse me…you say your name is William Hung? Why you’d be perfect!!”
I will say that Asian men do need to step up their confidence but I didn’t get to expand on what I mentioned earlier which dealt primarily with this issue – the constant barrage of Asian American men being de-sexualized by mainstream White America.
Don’t even try to deny it either. You know EXACTLY what I’m talking about. Ever seen an Asian Male news anchor with an ATTRACTIVE white female counterpart? Or what about a ubiquitously WELL KNOWN Asian American actor who is idolized as a sex symbol? You have absolutely none. And top of that now you have this imbalance of White male-Asian female couples everywhere you look. How do you expect its supposed to make us feel?? Seeing more and more women of our own kind in this “openminded” and so-called culturally diverse society refusing to date anyone of us while solely seeking out someone who is a white male?!? I’ve experienced countless times where I’d strike up conversations with ASIAN women at social gatherings only for them to tell me that they only like White guys. WTF is that shit? Talk about sheer racism. I had to respond, “Yeah ladies, I understand. I only like beautiful girls.”
NiceRice, you sure they said that in front of your face. Cmon, you just said you have a Korean girlfriend now. We are all free to date or marry whomever, but I agree with you on those women or men who subliminaly exclude their own race/ethnicity and date others as a reverse revenge factor. I have a beautiful Asian/Indonesian girlfriend and despite what you see in these WM/AF couples. I respect those who marry for love and companionship and not like that other dumb thread of those who exclusively date and sex another race because of so called superior preferances. I have respect those Asians who are open minded yet respect thier own culture and are also attracted to other handsome and pretty Asias.http://www.asianfever.fr and you will see pics of mostly Asian females with other handsome Asian guys.
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I swear on my life those Asian bitches said that to me in front of my face. And there were 3 of them!! You know, at least they were honest about it though I’ll give ’em that. Nevertheless, have some tact and decency.
My asian friends and I have no problem dating asian men. It’s all about attraction. As an Asian myself, the only explanation that I can think of for yourself is that you hate being Asian. The entire world will be multicultural by the year 2500. The sooner you realize that, the more you’ll be able to accept yourself and the happier you’ll be.
I understand you love yourself and who you are, maybe too much, because your article is pretty narcisistic. Might be beyond a race issue. You switch to who you want to be according to what you need. The comment about dating white men then moving onto Asian men when you mature doesn’t make sense to me. So after you have all your “adventurous fun” you settle down? I don’t get it. What if a guy said that about Asian women? Sounds like you’re generalizing and creating your own stereotype according to your experiences. I know you probably help the community more than people think and I’m not bashing, just communicating. I grew up with a lot of racism in my city and I understand there were different ways to grow up and be raised in America. I believe the way some people feel is tribal. I’m sure Asian women would find it strange if it was the other way around.
You know, two can play this game.
How about people here start posting all the low down on The ASIAN WOMAN VS. WHITE WOMAN battle, and see who comes out on top?
I don’t think Asian women want to go there, if ya catch my drift. But just for kicks and giggles, Let’s Play the Feud!
Cons with Asian Women: Materialistic self-centered Oriental Princesses whose primary appeal to men is their exotic lotus blossum Geisha girl fantasy. Take this away from them, and what do they really offer–besides no butt, small boobs, but a very large sense of entitlement?
Pros with Asian Women: (Sound of Crickets Chirping)
For all my Asian sisters out there who are offended by my comments, lighten up. I was just playing with you–kinda.
i just don’t understand why the asian men are going to this extent to explain their assets/pro whatever.Stereotype has always been used by beta personality.If you of value WHY THE HELL are you defensive, angry,pointing fingers blaming media and such.LOOK at the HISTORY,Malcolm x,gandhi,martin luther king and the list go on.they laugh at the stereotypes.Media potrayed Jews as greedy,indians as taxi drivers/7-11 store owners.Do you think they bother to answer why they are not.asian men stop the rebuttals,you are embarrasing yourself.
FOR ALL ASIAN MEN: ELABORATING ON ONE OF THE SITUATIONS I MENTIONED IN THE PREVIOUS POST: I was actually sitting at one corner of this long (12′ to 15′) table at a Panera Bread, there was a cute Korean girl on the furtherest possible corner from mine (only 2 of us at the table). In walks in this hot brunette in workout gear (leggings with a tracksuit). She sits down right across from me and starts eating her soup. I starting flirting with her, she was a pilates instructor at a local gym, we get into a discussion about 1 night stands–she says she doesn’t approve of them. So I tell her, “I don’t think it’s going to work out between us then, cause that’s totally what I’m going for with you”…she laughs and mentions that she was living with a someone. I ask “BF, fiance, husband, a girl? Is she as cute as you?” She laughs and says BF. I immediately perk up and say “just BF huh? So I have shot!” She laughs more and says “no, no, no, you have no shot…” We banter some more. She gets done eating and proceeds to finally ask my name and introduce herself (we didn’t even exchange names up to this point), when we shook hands I held on to hers and asked her out for a drink, and refused to let go until she gave me her number.”
NOW GET THIS, when she left, I caught the Korean girl on the corner, and her friend at a small table further back, checking me out several times for the next hour. THINK ABOUT IT. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Now, I don’t expect anything to come of this number I got, especially since she’s living with the guy. I just wanted to demonstrate that it’s perfectly OK to “GO THERE” with a girl (Asian or not) you just met and didn’t even know the name of. ALSO, WATCH THE SHOWTIME SERIES CALIFORNICATION, pay attention to how Hank Moody (main character) interacts with women, and just about everyone in general…
Hey angry asian guy ,I am asian, can i respond to you?!You give all asians a bad name.It take two to communicate,if you don’t want a debate don’t post.You seem to just lash out at people who post here with barage of insults,accusations assumptions.He had already given the key to true confidence which is to be of value yourself and not follow others,you dumbass.Read his post properly.I totally agree with him,i rather be a loner with true confidence then be a fake dickhead like you who have to be an asian to communicate with you and only think of getting laid.Get a life loser.YOU GIVE ALL ASIANS A BAD NAME.**** off my asian brother.By the way i HAVE AN ASIAN GIRLFRIEND.
what the fuck attack?! geez
koreans eat garlic thus they smell different = TRUTH
KOREANS SMELL COS THEY EAT LOTSA GARLIC = STEREOTYPE
KOREANS HAVE NEVER EATEN GARLIC,DON”T BELIEVE THE STEREOTYPE= The “Asian small penis size” stereotype is just that, a stereotype. It’s not true.
First of all, I DOUBT YOU HAVE A GF, OF ANY KIND. And the reason you would “rather be a loner with true confidence than be a fake dickhead” is because you ARE A LONER WITHOUT MUCH CHOICE IN THE MATTER. I have met “confident” Asian guys before, I even looked up to them once. Then I realized that they all had an angle, looks, money, etc, and only got the girls that other people, or a situation, basically delivered to them. Like I said, I’m not the tallest or best looking, so I decided to work on my other attributes and get the women I want.
As for valuing myself and not following others, wow where do I begin?: You know what gives me that extra kick of confidence before walking up to a hot girl? The knowledge that the 4 other guys checking her out probably have no idea how to approach her, or even have the balls to attempt it. If you even read any of the materials, you’ll see that they all have different and often conflicting methods of attracting women. So it’s pretty much impossible to “follow” anyone. They and anyone else I learn from are like different kinds of paint, I have to be the one to learn use them and get what I want out of it.
In terms of valuing myself, yes, I care about what I wear, staying in shape, the quality of my professional work, review self help material rather than playing WOW or hang out with losers that bitch but never do, so please spare me.
As for giving Asians a bad name–I’m not the guy with poor posture, no dress sense, nerdy disposition, and utter lack of confidence when talking to anyone (not just women), or the buffoons that agree to play roles in movies that demean Asian men. Nor am I the guy who bitches about how Asian girls are dating other men but never do anything to give myself more options. On top of that, I know Asian guys who are dating Asian girls, but constantly checking out other (usually hotter) women (Asians or whatever) but never willing to learn or do what it takes to get them. I also know a guy who is finishing his undergrad and Masters at UMICH all within 4 years but is actually thinking about going back to China just so he can get a wife cause he’s almost a 30 yr old virgin… I BELIEVE IN HELPING YOURSELF IN ALL AREAS TO THE GREATEST DEGREE POSSIBLE, if you have a triple doctorate from MIT but can’t talk to the women you want, or get into a leadership position because you lack confidence, then you should probably work on that. If that mentality means giving all Asians a bad name then I happily stand by it.
DEBATE WELCOME
All Asian dudes here should read this article below. It offers some good advice: Diversify your portfolio, if you know what I mean.
http://minoritymilitant.blogspot.com/2009/10/price-of-poon-asian-men-must-diversify.html
this is where every guy asian or white ,green or blue makes a mistake in dating.NOT realising what works for you and COPY lines or tactics from pickup artist(PUA) and the character hank moody who is a sex addict who needs help.GOD if you are good with your “copied tactics” and it works for you i am happy for you mate.but your tactics is NOT THE UNIVERSAL WAY OR TRUTH in dating.every race has its alpha, beta and the nerds.It will be disasterous for a normal asian guy to imitate a tactic used by a white guy on tv to land a girl.What works for a white guy wont work for you.The fellow who used the one night stand pickup line r, you sure you are getting laid mate?R u sure? guys any guys big ,tall ,yellow, white, purple ,BE OF VALUE and TRUE CONFIDENCE and you my friend will be a MAGNET.confidence is knowing yourself ( your pros ,cons ,strengths and limitations) the polar opposite is ARROGANCE. For example if your stereotype is asian dicks are small refrain from comments or pickup lines that MANDINGO in a porn flick would use.you will be laughed out of the bar or whatever place you are in.There is always an element of truth in every stereoype but blown out of proportion by HATERS.Dont act like its a myth.It worsens the situation.Trust me stereoypes of a race is the first thing to cross one’s mind when the meet someone of that particular race for the first time.If they deny it they are lying to your face.
FIRST OF ALL, IF YOU’RE NOT AN ASIAN GUY, DON’T EVEN RESPOND TO MY STUFF BECAUSE YOU WOULD NEVER UNDERSTAND… BUT YES, I AM GETTING LAID, as you so delicately put it–your mom was wobbly on her legs for a reason this morning…BUT SEVERAL POINTS: A)The “1 night stand” thing was not a pickup line because we were already talking about 1 night stands. I used that “line” to let her know I wanted her, I essentially knocked the possibility of the “friend zone” out of the water. All I was doing was flirting, which produces positive chemicals in your body that raises your confidence, and before you BS about how true confidence stays with you, the fact of the matter is that it rises and falls, even with the most “confident” guys. Getting you confidence up early in the day will make it easier to approach and talk to other girls.
Also, as much I like to think you’re an asshole, you are on the money with several points: THERE IS NO UNIVERSAL THING that works for everyone. That’s why I threw out several PUA’s at once. And yes, if you are lucky enough to have a life that fostered confidence then you will be pretty good with women. But what if a guy doesn’t come from this type of background? For all the shit you threw at me you sure as hell didn’t leave much of a solution as to HOW TO GET THE CONFIDENCE, AND WHAT TO DO TO GET IT. Finally, Hank Moody is an extreme character case. He doesn’t have a healthy lifestyle, but I wasn’t advocating that either–get with it, in life you need to pick and choose what to learn and from who. I don’t COPY everything I read or watch from PUA’s, there are some things I know I would never get away with or want and that’s fine.
As for your bit on stereotypes, you have a point, but THE THING WITH ASIAN GIRLS IS THAT BECAUSE THEY FEEL THEIR IDENTITY IS TIED TO ASIAN GUYS, THEY WILL BE MUCH MORE SENSITIVE AND PRONE TO BUY INTO THESE STEREOTYPES THAN OTHER WOMEN. I’m not saying Asian girls are impossible, I’m saying you’ll probably have an easier time with other kinds of women if you are an Asian guy. And lets face it guys, it hurts regardless to get rejected because you are Asian, but it hurts more if the girl is also Asian. IF REALLY WANT TO REFUTE ME, THEN POST HOW YOU “GET LAID”. I personally doubt you ever had the balls to talk to a girl out of the blue in your life. The only girls you ever got is probably because people introduced you to them, and when you’re done wining and dining her, and driving her home, she’ll call me to bang her brains out.
“If you’re young, you will probably be happy playing around with a white man and appreciate an Asian man as you mature, like a fine wine.”
I don’t know how you can write this quote and still bitch about how “Asian men think I’m their property and that it should be a given that I will go out with them, whether or not I’m attracted to them.” THESE TWO QUOTES BETRAY A VERY SIMILAR MENTALITY.
It almost sounds as if YOU ASSUME THAT ASIAN GUYS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR you even after you play around with everyone else–like they will always be in your back pocket. Regardless of the truth in this statement, it is no different than the entitlement mentality that some Asian guys have with Asian girls. So if you don’t like that mentality, you shouldn’t be endorsing it.
TO ALL ASIAN GUYS READING THIS: From this article I think it’s safe to assume that the author has had sex with a much greater percentage of the white guys she dated than the Asian guys. And guess what? It’s because they made their desire known and they’re not afraid of being honest with themselves or her about what they want. Doesn’t it insult your ego to read how she tells Asian girls to fuck around with white guys (but not other guys–racist?) and then maybe marry an Asian guy who will be good to her? What kind of a double standard is this? And all the more fucked up too because she writes it with such a nonchalant attitude…
To this day, I have never met an Asian guy (aside from myself) capable of walking up to an attractive woman (any ethnicity) and starting a conversation WITH THE INTENT OF FLIRTING WITH HER AND GETTING HER NUMBER. Stereotypes may have some effect, but the approaching lies purely in the man’s control.
I’m an Asian guy, 5’8″, 125 pounds, not the tallest but somewhat above average looking. However, I work out, maintain confident eye contact when talking to people, and absolutely not afraid of making suggestive/flirty comments, or letting a girl know I want her. I have outright told hot women that I want to get in her pants, or that my blood just rushed to a nether region of my body after she let her hair down, and STILL WALKED AWAY WITH THEIR NUMBER and with them smiling. And these weren’t sluts, or in a bar (coffee shops actually).
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First of all, props to the author for being open and honest.
However this particular quote needs a response:
“Also, Asian men think I’m their property and that it should be a given that I will go out with them”
That may well be true, however, I’ve found that most Asian women have this same perception of most Asian men before any words are even exchanged, and it is this very perception that taints any interaction between an Asian guy and girl before any words are spoken.
CONSIDER THIS: I’m an Asian guy and can approach a cute blond, Hispanic, or black girl, and they will think (they usually know LOL) that I’m talking to them because they’re cute. However, if I approach a cute Asian girl exactly the same way, she will think that I’m talking to her A) because she’s cute, but she is also very like to think B) because I think I have a better shot with her (or she’s my property) simply because she’s Asian–for this reason, the Asian girl will often reject an Asian guy to make a point (“Just because I’m Asian doesn’t mean I’m into you”), or give him a harder time than she would with a white guy (double standard anyone?)
Either way, this mentality taints the interaction before the Asian guy even says anything.
In fact, the only time Asian girls have been interested in me is after they see me flirting with or going out with a cute white girl. So my word of advice for Asian guys who want Asian girls: learn to attract other women and the Asian girls will be interested in you–but then again, you would probably have found a cute girl that doesn’t need you to jump through so many hoops to have her…
In the US (Western society in general), it is generally up to the guy to make the approach and start an interaction, which means the guys have to do 95% of the work on the outset, because of this, it means that they have 95% control over how the interaction goes.
I’m an Asian guy and I must say that stereotypes definitely have an effect, but strangely enough, it affects more when I’m interacting with Asian girls.
I was reading the blog,i came across Never Settle.My advice to this person is settle down,Relax.you seem to NOT take criticism.You start every debate with an insult to those who debate with you which shows insecurity.grow up.It’s healthy debate not a fight.You are NOT being ALPHA you are being an ASS.You seem to discredit everyone by saying that they are lying which clearly says one thing,YOU MUST BE LYING.LOL.You can’t change the world or the image of ALL the asian men to the image you want it to be.You seem to be like hitler with a hatred towards other races,asian women and all asians conforming to your ideal.Your superiority bravado shows inferiority complex(now i am really gonna get it from NEVER SETTLE).Nothing wrong in being a 30yr old virgin going back to china to marry a chinese bride after working hard for his masters.ITS HIS CHOICE.Asian American actors do have to eat so they have to accept any role.It took a long time for black american actors like denzel and halle berry to win oscars.Nothing wrong in hanging out with losers (in fact you are discriminating others and you are ranting about discrimination of asians)you are image conscious,you seem to talk like a hurt animal(looks like you got hurt by maybe an asian girl).You don’t seem to grasp the idea of CHOICE and PREFERENCE.I DON”T want to DEBATE with you for you will insult my comments ,just like what you did with the others.YOU WIN.GOOD LUCK!Work with the cards that god dealt you ,diligently move towards your goal without hurting anyone and co exist with those who love and misunderstand you.FOLLOW YOUR BLISS. HAVE FUN guys life’s too short!
never settle is one of those guys who talks smack like an UFC fighter cos he works out in the gym and learn some thing new from his pua friends.you claim you are buff and above average in looks.there will be always better built better looking guys than you.Its human nature to choose the better option.(bigger and handsomer)women are no exeception to this rule.In reality lets face it ,asian guys are the last to be picked up by women.Based on personal experience,Asians hate their features (flat nose slanted eyes oops i mean single eyelids small dicks ,small tits and list goes on.).Asian girls have told me to my face that they want to get rid of their asian features by mixing with the whites.)i was shocked cos they truly hate themselves.I know,i know not all asians are small ,and not all nerds, not all are self hatin.you are the only race that complained that the media potrays you as asexual and nerdy.when have the media ever got anythin right,but still smells of insecurity.i know of an asian dude who was better educated,fitter,makin more money was well respected by his peers than his white counterparts but still was not chosen by any white girls or any race(remember basketball selection in school,the person last to be picked).Has it ever crossed an asian’s mind that its not about the penis size but preference for features like blue eyes, sharp nose, deep set eyes or double eyelids.I truly believe beggars dont have the right to choose.Folks i tell it like it is and you know i am telling the truth.i am not a fascist, racist or whatever,i tell it like it is.
This boy sounds like White son of a bitch with a sheet over its head. Whenver somebody says that he is not a racist or fascist and hides behind the alibi that “he’s just telling it like it is,” you can be sure that bastard is in fact a racist and a fascist. In-breed with Whites to get rid of Asian features? Joseph Mengele shares your ideas. This comment really shows what ASIANCE really stands for. And I have no doubt there are some “Asians” who actually believe this nonsense. Guess where they learned this shit from? White America and White people. Who said the Nazis lost WWII? They only moved to the USA.
GO and see the statistics of women or men from the asian race doing cosmetic surgery to look ARYAN(double eyelids ,sharper nose,and getting taller operation) from japan ,korea, mainland china to LA.From normal housewives to actress.what’s that SELF LOVING OR SELF HATING? what’s next the rise in sales of penis pump or penis augumentation.Please you don’t have to be a racist to tell a fact.Have a nice day.
I see a pattern here,any postive to neutral comments are probably from an asian ,however any negative comment or criticism MUST be from whitey,THE WHITE MAN ,THE “OTHERS”.what you guys watch too much LOST or something?!Man,one negative comment and “YOU MUST BE WHITE” ,”HOW DARE YOU COMMENT IN OUR ASIAN BLOG”,”YOU ARE INVADING OUR BLOG,OUR TERRITORY”,”PLEASE DON”T COMMENT ON MY POST IF YOU ARE NOT ASIAN.”Its getting boring.well suit yourself,have a nice life.
In the dating world for asians,there seems to be “The Bradley effect” situation.people tend to say they are open to dating asians to avoid being looked upon as racist.Sexual preference is a personal and subjective issue.so when it comes to dating or sexual relations the statistics will show the truth like,the black women and the asian men are the least desirable and picked in the dating pool.However fantastic news there seems to be a rise in black women and asian men pairing.But this too can be viewed in the angle of black women woman and asian men dating outside to get back at their counterparts.
Correct.
Seriously, this “nice, respectful Asian guy thing”? All these comments are making me think that the author was lying through her teeth about the Asian guys.
Granted, there ARE nice guys, perhaps it’s more of the fact that lots of Asian guys posting on the internet are butthurt over being whiny brats and losing their women to white guys. It’s a self-confidence issue, really. Maybe they even read the article to convince themselves that they can still be liked even if they’re whiny gits. You guys might not realize it (hell, sometimes I wonder), but ALMOST ALL girls aren’t racist fetishists (like how every white guy isn’t some fetishist who emasculates Asian men).
More Asians in the US are married to Asians than to Caucasians. Both ways, male and female. But you have more interracial marriage as society is male-dominated. I’m being blunt; I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying it’s dominated by men. Old habits are hard to change. World leaders are most predominately male. Of course, it’s changing, but it’s not completely equal (though it should be).
Point being, males are extremely self-conscious about their masculinity, although we’re reluctant to admit it due to our fears that it’d make us feel feminine to worry. As such, it’s only natural to question why a large portion of our women get taken by the “white man”. Why? Asians are not fully integrated. They began as the sex fiend, albeit submissive, geisha figures, and are now beginning to fully assimilate into society. Interracial marriage is becoming more prevalent between both genders and all races (albeit the fact that Asian interracial marriages do show a lack of proportion when considering all races, something I can’t explain).
Anyway, it’s not good to claim people are white and play the victim card. More often than not, it’s your own self confidence. Me, white? Nah, I’m just an Asian-American male that thinks with his mind instead of his ego.
“Whitey pretending to be Asian”, am I? ????. With your attitudes like that, she’s probably the only woman you guys will ever get.
*Sigh*
Haven’t you noticed that recently, Asian males are becoming more desireable? I think it’s just proof of assimilation. Asians didn’t look white, they didn’t speak English, most weren’t Christian. It took a bit of time for assimilation.
In the end, males are just extremely selfish when it comes to letting our women marry weird guys, as any father with a daughter can tell you.
So, maybe people do the plastic surgery and all that, but tall people? Hell, I’m taller than most white people I see, and I’m Asian. And there are people in China that are much taller. And even surgery is exceptional. White people do surgery to remove their beak noses. And most Asians have the double eyelids already; I hear that white people get them, too. Surgery is for the insecure.
Asian penises are small? How many did you scrutinize to obtain this fact? Just because you’re insecure of your own size and must use the Copernican conversion to make yourself feel better, don’t give me this Freud field day.
And you don’t have to be a genius to tell you that you’re living in the past. Or that you’re being a self-conscious whiny brat.
I’d say “good day” to you to make it seem like I’m not an asshole and actually give half a rat’s ass about you, but honestly, I don’t.
HA HA i believe you man.
hi….my name is robert shute and i have a smaller penis than any asian ever……EVER….take care all
I now know why asian men and black women are the least to be picked up in the dating world .The answer is they love their own kind!They are not LEFT BEHIND,they r still WAITING to be picked up by their own kind/ race.They feel comfortable within their race.Well for few they would prefer interracial relationship but mostly they r just waiting for their own kind.The ONLY reason they are left on the shelf cos their counterparts have deserted them for other races.So shoving interracial relationship options down their throats is WRONG.It is not a SOLUTION.The promotion of interracial relationship is pathetic and sad! it should be of CHOICE AND PREFERENCE AND NATURAL.They should have the freedom to date within their race if they prefer to and LEAVE THEM ALONE.RELATIONSHIP is an subjective issue,not trend or fad.
ASIAN MEN EITHER THEY TRY TOO HARD OR HAVE NO BALLS TO TRY AT ALL.WHAT A PITY.THEY RANT ABOUT NOT GIVEN EQUALITY AND MISS REPRESENTED WRONGLY IN THE MEDIA.THEY BLAME THE WHITE MAN TO THEIR MAMAS FOR THEIR SHORTCOMINGS.BUNCH OF MAMA’S BOYS!RANT AND CRY THAT THINGS ARE UNFAIR.PLEASE SAVE YOUR DRAMA FOR YOUR MAMA.WAKE UP.WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD.YOU GOTTA FIGHT FOR WHAT YOU WANT.ITS THE SAME FOR ALL THE RACES.STOP YOUR RANTING AND YOUR FAKE CONFIDENCE.ASIANS RANT LIKE THEY ARE THE ONLY ONES THAT FACE PREJUDICE AND INJUSTICE AND RACISM.WAIT IN LINE MY ASIAN FRIENDS.
Oh I AM working with the cards that God dealt, and I’m encouraging other Asian Men to do the same. And you do have a point telling me to settle down. But that said, I believe too many Asian guys are too comfortable accepting things the way they are. Also, I am not insulting your comments, I’ve already apologized to a poster just now. And, NO, I have not been explicitly hurt by an Asian girl. Here is a story: one of the most confident and best looking Asian guys I know from college liked an Asian girl that already liked him. And he KNEW this. Yet he never had the nerve to flirt with her or ask her out. And the rest of the Asian guys all tried to set him up with her (she was really cute) even though they all wanted her too. In the end, someone set up a date for them to watch Grey’s Anatomy in someone’s dorm room. Now, I have no problem with this. They were a great couple. The issue that concerned me was just how readily and easily the other Asian guys simply refused to even try to get what they want. From what I could tell, if no one set up that date for them, the girl would not have taken the reins and asked the guy out. Again, if you are not this type of guy (Asian or not), this is not directed at you. I am only trying tell Asian guys who do not have this type of “I’m good enough for whoever I want” mindset that, unlike that particular guy, you cannot expect others to do the work for you. For any woman. You have to put your own cards on the table to do it yourself.
OMG ,never settle NEVER seems to amaze me.NOT ALL R THE SAME!SOME will be encouraged to pursue more after rejection while some will buckle under a rejection.WHY r you bent on promoting PUA tactics when you clearly see no one has any interest in this blog regarding PUA tactics.There is no better or worser source.ITS ABOUT PREFERENCE which is SUBJECTIVE.NOT ALL will be comfortable with the 3 second rule or palm reading tactics,the cocky approach and the insults which is suppose to be confident.WOMEN can smell insecurity from a mile away.NEWSFLASH everyone is SELF CONSCIOUS!OF COURSE YOU HAVE TO INTERACT IN THE WORLD TO LIVE UNLESS YOU LIVE IN A CAVE.some people are so bent on thinking their way is the right way that they forget others capabilities,conversational skills and yes balls to confront.IF PUA works for u THKS for letting us know about it.BUT no thanks.
EXACTLY, so stop waiting for you own kind to pick you up and start going out there and fighting for what you want. The more you get “rejected”, the less you care about each one, and the less self conscious you feel when taking action. Realistically, you will not own the confidence when you first start (that is if you do not have the confidence already). You will be extremely nervous and feel unnatural. But realize this: as long as you are interacting with the world in any way, you will be changed in some way or other, whether you like it or not. So why not put in effort to push yourself to become/change to what you want? Why is this concept so wrong?
This is exactly the point I’m making. I’m not saying all Asian girls will reject all Asian guys. I’m saying there is a higher percentage of Asian guys that want Asian girls but a lower percentage of Asian girls that want Asian guys. Accuse me all you want, but what I’m talking about is practical numbers. There just isn’t enough Asian girls to go around for every Asian guy because too many of them buy into the White Guy is better mentality. Also I am not saying that every none Asian girl you approach or hit on is going to be interested, but you can bet that there is enough attractive non Asian women out there that will want to be with you that you will not have a problem finding one. (33% percent of population in San Francisco is Asian, everywhere else is much lower, something like 15 to 8%, I’m pretty sure there is more than enough to go around).
Oh and BTW, I was just at a party and had this Asian girl tell me outright she only goes for white Jewish guys, the same with her two friends, just a side note.
FINALLY, IF YOU ARE AN ASIAN GUY THAT HAS A GREAT ASIAN GIRLFRIEND, THEN AWESOME, MORE POWER TO YOU. MY POSTS ARE STRICTLY APPLICABLE TO ASIAN GUYS THAT NEED OPTIONS. If you truly believe that what I’m saying is BS about PUA’s then I challenge you to take 15 min and check out some of their material, if your belief is strong and rooted in the right place, then reading an ebook or watching half a DVD will not change a thing, unless the time commitment is too much for you.
EXACTLY, so stop waiting for you own kind to pick you up and start going out there and fighting for what you want. The more you get “rejected”, the less you care about each one, and the less self conscious you feel when taking action. Realistically, you will not own the confidence when you first start (that is if you do not have the confidence already). You will be extremely nervous and feel unnatural.
When you first learn to bowl or play tennis, you need to think about each step of the action (how you hold the racquet/ball, how to hit or bowl, but after a while everything seems very natural and second nature). But realize this: as long as you are interacting with the world in any way, you will be changed in some way or other, whether you like it or not. So why not put in effort to push yourself to become/change to what you want? Why is this concept so controversial?
The PUA’s are not perfect, I never claimed they are, if you find a better source and please broadcast it.
SERIOUSLY, I really don’t know why you are calling me out. I don’t talk smack, and I don’t overblow my looks. Again, I am 5′ 8″, 125lb and only slightly above average looking. And yes, I am well aware of the physical features that a lot of Asian women are drawn to. But I seriously hope that Asian men think of themselves as something other (preferably better than) “BEGGARS”. Here is the thing. A lot of women (Asian or not) are concerned about how their friends or society perceives them based on the men they’re with. However, truly confident women could care less about what their friends think (their self image is fully contained in themselves), and this type of woman is rare, I’ve had the opportunity to have been with two of such women. These are the type of women who do not care about how much you make (just don’t be homeless), or your looks, they care about your personality. They care that you believe in yourself and take care of yourself and are capable of taking care of them. So any guy has equal opportunity for being with them regardless of outward appearances (racial, social, etc).
Also, it seems that whenever someone offers a solution here (just an option), it gets labeled as BITCHING. I am telling you that the dating world to Asian men is in some ways like the professional world to African American men. You have to be that much better (flirting, style, confidence) to get what you want.
god this guy is ALL about picking up.I can see never settle’s good intention,what baffles me is his persistent believe that the only way to change is to be aggressive and use “pick up” tactics.i get what you are saying about being proactive and not being reactive.but pick up tactics is not the only path to change.LOVE is a better natural source.People will change only at their pace.You cant rush them.You seem to have a collective mentality.EVERYONE is an individual and they are individualistic in their ideas,targets,approach to dating and love,type of people or pesonality they like to be with.so telling people to go out there and mix when they don’t want to seems very intrusive.the point is not whether PUA is PERFECT OR NOT but whether IT SUITS EVERYBODY.
TO ORIGINAL POSTER: You are right, I was wrong for pulling the “race card” here. I do agree that most white (or other guys) that date Asian women are not fetishists that seek to emasculate Asian men. But I do believe that most non-Asian guys are semi-unaware, or simply apathetic to the issues discussed here. And why shouldn’t they be? Any guy should take advantage of whatever they have going for them to get the women they want. I’m just highlighting the things that could help Asian guys.
WHO ARE YOU TO TELL ME WHO I SHOULD DATE!I WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT CHINESE GIRL,I DON”T MIND WAITING.I dont prefer interracial relationship NOT against it.But i will not wait for her to fall on my lap either.
Ever notice that the most retarded White Trash always use the caps lock function on their keyboard? Turn your caps off, ofay. Don’t they teach you how to use the internets in Crackerville, USA?
One thing about the internet, it lets all the Aryan racist scum out of the woodwork like this boy who is “just stating facts.” And his hero Hitler was just misunderstood. Go back to your trailer park and play with your penis pump.
I LEARN HOW TO TYPE IN SLANTEYEVILLE,OPP GOOK AVE,CHINK STREET.WHY THANK YOU.
Wow, serious shit storm judging by the octane levels of the recent posts. But on this quote: “I’ve found that dating Asian men over the years has been slowly changing. I’ve noticed more confidence in each new Asian man I hang out with. Dating an Asian man is comforting, warm and secure.” Great to hear about “more confidence” but judging by the way the rest of her article sounds, “comforting, warm, and secure” almost sounds like: When I date an Asian guy I feel I can do no wrong, and never fear them leaving me for someone else even if I’m really difficult/unreasonable because they have no options (or so she likes to think)…
holy cow! that was just Great, I LOVED reading it and trust me now im in love with the SERIAL dater in NYC, Wish to date you once in life woman! you Rock!
If media is at fault for emasculating asian men, isn’t it at fault for over glorify the beauty of white women and making asian men lust after white women like they are some holy grail or something.Arent the asian men guilty of thinking their women are less beautiful than their women.Aren’t they also caught in the TRAPS of media.
Not sure I agree with everything the writer presents here, but pretty interesting reading (from a seemingly non Asian author)
http://www.allacademic.com/meta/p_mla_apa_research_citation/1/0/9/4/3/p109437_index.html
There’s this whole Asian men are domineering and traditional, while at the same time are accused of being not persistent or manly with women. I was born in China, grew up in US and Britain and I can personally attest that all the Asian men I know, even with traditional 1st generation parents, pretty much contradict all the “traits” highlighted by the Korean/Vietnamese women interviewed by the author. However, I want to make it clear that I’m not saying this to backpedal in attempt to “repair” the image of Asian Men to Asian women(Asian should simply stop giving a damn)—The author concludes that because Asian women buy into these stereotypes so much, they become basically self-fulfilling prophecies. My message to Asian guys (who do not reflect these qualities) is that the only thing that can be done is to walk away. The more you try to convince Asian women that you are manly, egalitarian, etc, the more they assume you are trying to fool them, or that you are being a poser. It’s a no win situation. Get your shit together and date other women. Never wait for a women (any kind) to choose you.
“Get your shit together and date other women”.Like any asian can waltz in to anywhere and date any race women they want.(I believe one or two alpha asian baboons will respond saying, well i have dated outside my race.)It may be easy for you but difficult for others.And when they are rejected due to preference, they get dejected and start to rant that white men took their women once again or the media or racism.THAT MAKES THEM LOOK MORE PATHETIC in the eyes of women,any woman .Let’s make it clear for the few romeos or don juans who can date other race women at the drop of a hat.HAVE SOME EMPATHY!!!Its not so simple to walk up to any race when you know for bloody sure you are not the first pick.Yes asian men are not considered first(not only the FOB but the americanized ones too.)what can be easy for you (which you claim) can turn out disasterously embarrassing for others.Speaking the truth,acknowledging the truth will solve the problem.Not pretending.
You’re absolutely right. But Asian guys have to start SOMEWHERE. And “walking up to any” woman is difficult for every guy, at first. Most guys (Asian or not) I know got their gf or dates b/c they met through work, class, friends, etc. It’s unnatural to simply approach people. But the fact that the dating situation for Asian guys is so far from ideal that I really don’t see the difference between one method to the next. As for the bit about embarrassment, have you ever seen a gymnast land on his/her head on national TV? Very embarrassing, and yet they somehow get back up and finish their routine, unless they’re hurt. You have to want it bad enough, and plus growing a thick skin is part of becoming a man of any race. I know quite a few white guys who are good with women, and seen them get shot down but they never let it stick for long. Being an Asian guy means you have to be stronger and tougher than the rest if you want to attain the same results. And plus, who says you need to “pull your moves” in front of people? Pick your battles and approach women on their own, it’s kind of common sense…
Asian men should look at it this way. Becoming successful with women is no different than becoming successful academically. Because we live in a white-dominated society, we always have to be putting in that extra effort in order to be considered as a potential freshman at a top-tier university. We mastered this game which most likely explains the abundance of Asian Americans at such institutions. Of course there are some individuals out there who are innate geniuses sitting in the back of the class, rarely paying attention, studying 1 hour before the exam and enviably setting the curve. In reality though, how many of us out there are actually like that? Very few. The social and dating scene should be no different for Asian American men. Unlike Asian women who are grossly privileged in the dating scene by monolithic proportions, Asian men must try that much harder, be that much sharper and game that much better. It takes an ample amount of practice to become comfortable in a diverse social setting and immune to rejection. Some may view rejection as a brick wall, but remember “brick walls let us show our dedication.” I’ve had my fair share of rejections and after a while it doesn’t even faze you. That’s where you build confidence. In fact, it makes an excellent story to tell later on. Remember the famous words of Aaliyah, “If first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again…”
AMEN: I just want to add that there is nothing wrong with Asian women being “grossly privileged” in the dating world. This is about genes and survival, anything goes. But Asian guys do have to deal with the consequences their own way. There has been a lot of lament among Asian guys about stereotypes, the problem is that they exist PARTIALLY because a lot of guys exhibit it. For every Asian guy I’ve seen that talks with authority and confidence, walks with their chest up, and holds eye contact comfortably, there are like 10 other Asian guys lacking those qualities. I read some previous posts and saw some guy get flamed for mentioning PUA’s and self help, I’ve done self help but not expressly PUA, but I just want to emphasize to the poster who said “THANKS BUT NO THANKS” that if he doesn’t want to read about self help then fine, nobody is holding a gun to his head. But it goes against the spirit of this forum to attempt to speak on behalf of everyone and tell another poster what he should or should not write–someone else might find it useful.
I love how it’s the beta-males that have to use the Copernican conversion to make themselves feel better. And how “slanty-eyed” people know English better than the butthurt Caucasian chauvinist.
“THANKS BUT NO THANKS poster is rite,He is not opposing self help,his against pua being the one and all method of dating.Rather an asian dude who knows his limitations(KNOWS HIMSELF,the true self)and which approach to dating that suites him than an asian who gets rejected,dejected and GOES AROUND SHOOTIN ANY RANDOM PERSON IN THE CAMPUS.REMEMBER VA TECH(asian dude ,CHO shooting)!!!true nobody is holding any gun to his head but he cares for the CHOs around the world and innocent people dying becos of some LOW SELF ESTEEM person.At least he is forward thinking and responsible.you should follow his example.He didnt say it doesnt work he says if it works for you fine but it doesnt for all.
First of all, don’t tell me to follow some guy’s example, a real man figures out what works for him and goes his own way (just like you say).
But that aside, I don’t think we’re in disagreement, Cho didn’t “approach” the girls, he stalked them, huge difference. No one ever showed him any different ways to deal with his past. And I can identify with the guy, I was short, skinny, wore huge glasses, bad acne, not a great athlete all the way from 5th grade through HS and 2 yrs of college. I got bullied A LOT and was more or less a social reject until college. Then I found some self help material, started developing my confidence, and wound up going out with a hot girl in my senior year. I’m telling you I know where you’re coming from, but for me, if I wasn’t shown the material, I would still have no confidence to this day.
And for knowing YOUR LIMITS, the only way to find out your limits is to test them. Most of the Asian guys (or guys in general) that I know never even ATTEMPT to place themselves in social situations outside their comfort zone. MAN UP AND GIVE IT A SERIOUS TRY before resigning to your limits.
THIS IS WHY MEN ARE BAD LEARNERS AND LISTENERS.Define your self help,is it bettering yourself by being valuable to any relationship and society or any role you play in your life or PUA tactics?NO ONE is saying any thing wrong about self help.No one is forcing anyone to follow anything in particular..Great philosophers have told to be flexible and told that there is nothing wrong in seeing other points of view and following others if it helps in your life or to understand a certain issue.You sound weak when you tell me “dont tell me to follow some guy’s example” but some pickup artist words are as valuable as the verses in the bible.Your tone reminds me of NEVER SETTLE.Through the tone of your statement people can read the level of your maturity.For your info ,CHO started to stalk after she politely refused him when he approached her.Sorry to hear your tough past.So HAPPY for you that thru the MATERIALS you SAW THE LIGHT.Knowing your limits equals confidence,pretending that there is no limit or you can push your limits when you know you can’t is ARROGANCE.I am not saying you don’t learn thru CRASH AND BURN.If you have the mentality/personality that you learn from bad experiences GO AHEAD. NOT if you have a FRAGILE personality it scars you and you become worse.(how do i know this i worked as a counselor helping troubled teens.Confucius ,Gandhi(i purposely chose asian philosophers)all echoed the same truth KNOW THYSELF.You can push your limits if you want to help someone,you can push your limits when you need to stretch your goals in your organisation regardless you know your limits.True change happens from inside out.Like what lauren hill said,HOW YOU GONNA WIN WHEN YOU AIN”T RIGHT WITHIN.You have to conquer your past by forgiving those who bullied you and help those who are being bullied with REAL HELP.Helping yourself out of a bad situation is great with SELF HELP,but you have to practise caution when you GIVE ADVICE.NOT all are like you.EVERYONE is DIFFERENT.You have to approach in a case by case basis NOT MAN UP AND GIVE IT A SERIOUS TRY and then resign to your fate.
YES.
This is the problem with open forums you have to endure ONE DIMENSIONAL THINKING PUNKS who write without thinking or at least READ what the others write.
This is the problem with open forums you have to endure ONE DIMENSIONAL THINKING PUNKS who write without thinking or at least READ what the others write.
If someone has a fragile personality then that’s really THEIR problem and should seek professional help. One form of professional help is “self-help”. It doesn’t always have to be PUA oriented but its one viable avenue. How the hell is any woman going to know if a guy has a “fragile” personality? Should men go walking around with a sign saying, “Fragile. Please handle with care.”??? Let’s try to be pragmatic about this. Women get hit on all the time to the point where they’ve become desensitized to offending guys by rejecting him. If a woman rejects me, big freakin’ deal. Its NOT the end of the world. There are plenty of beautiful women out there and no matter how hot she thinks she is some guy, some where, is probably sick of her shit. The primary way you’ll know how much you’ve progressed or how much improvement you still need is by testing yourself. Otherwise what’s the alternative? How are you supposed to overcome hurdles that entail not just women but life in general? Does that mean college professors shouldn’t make exams too difficult because they just might be shatter someone’s confidence? Should employers should accept every applicant after interviewing them regardless if they don’t know a damn thing? As I mentioned earlier that rejection is just a brick wall to show your dedication to succeed. Just because a guy gets rejected does not give him the right to go around stalking women and pullin’ a Rambo. Nobody said success was easy.
LOOK WHO IS TALKING ABOUT PROPER ENGLISH.AHH HAHAHAHAHA
Interesting comments here.
OOOOh really,how fascinating,beta males?! asians calling others beta,WHAT A LAUGH!thought i heard a different version from asian women about the revolting beta-ness of asian men that they wanted to date anyone except ASIANS.If the truth is too hurtful to see shut your “already closed eyes” harder.
THERE YOU GO AGAIN bashing asian woman as being less confident/materialistic/self hating for choosing men outside their race! UNBELIEVABLE!,ARE you NEVER SETTLE,it must be you.ARE you retarded.it’s true there is a HURT LOSER beneath the MACHO/BRAVADO ACT.STOP BASHING ASIAN WOMEN for your incapabilities.Hope you tattoo WOMEN’S RIGHT in you right ass cheek,and PREFERENCE in the left ass cheek for your retard brain to remember.There will always be women who are looking for personality and golddiggers in EVERY RACE.Has it occur in your thick head that an asian women might be attracted to men from other race for the same reasons you have cited.You can’t deny the FACT that ASIAN MEN are the last to be considered.ITS a metaphor the writer was sayin.Last to be chosen have no privilege to have preference.AND never settle don’t get all “jet li” and say that statement is not true. Difficult to accept but what he is saying has truth in it.ONE NAME TO INSPIRE ALL BLACKS,BARACK “HUSSEIN” OBAMA.SO KEEP WHINING, NEVER SETTLE, KEEP WHINING.
I think at the rate things are going ,the next hitler will probably be an asian.1)asians rant how white men took their women(HITLER:I HATE THE JEWS THEY TAKE ALL OUR GERMAN PEOPLE’S JOBS!)
2)i can’t stand asian women mixing with whites and diluting our asian genes.(HITLER: WE ARE THE ARYAN RACE WE MUST NOT MIX WITH ANYONE!WE ARE A PURE RACE)
we all know what happened afterwards,WHITE MEN RUN!ASIANS ARE GONNA GAS YOUR ASS!!
If media is helping the image of asian by potraying them in a different light recently,the situation must be really bad for asian men.
KEEP DREAMING ,I DONT WANNA WAKE YOU FROM YOUR FANTASY.
NEVER SETTLE thinks with his other head,did you get it the OTHER HEAD,er…ah forget it………..ok bye.
He’s one of these guys who says comments that hurt others or absolutely skewed but doesn’t even know it.Have patience other blog readers.
Never settle,do you suffer from Amnesia,go read your previous blog entries,it is prove you talk a whole lot of smack!
the question is not whether you are above average or not ,its whether the women wants your above average looks or not.please don’t force your above average looks down the throats of women.Give them some breathing space,they are not put in this earth to spread their legs for you,thats not their sole purpose!don’t talk of women like they are some farm animal or some bag of chips in the supermarket.
Tattoos of chinese characters are more in demand than asian men themselves.Sad truth.
I am not a hater i come in peace.Have you noticed that every movie and drama involving,asian men in a dominant role has tanked in the box office.it is not the media’s fault its the taste of the people who watch them.However they have succeeded in their own movie industry and market such as movie industries in hongkong,japan and korea and bollywood(bollywood is another phenomenon that has ever increasing popularity among european whites).In hollywood however people prefer to see white males in the lead if not the movie doesn’t sell.No one is forcing anyone not to see but there is no interest at all and the movie does horribly in the box office.Kudos to hollywood for showing asians in better,dominant roles but the evidence speaks for itself.People don’t see asians in a leading role and somehow the movie doesn’t relate to them and the movie has low turnout.Its not racism.(OH GOD HELP ME TO EXPRESS THIS BETTER.)Its like noone wants to see a black love story or a latina love story unless its a foreign film or of historic content.(Example jennifer lopez’s caliente, andy garcia’s latin theme movie, any black movie involving all black cast.this shows that ALL people in general don’t want to see minority in a leading role in a HOLLYWOOD movie,they have their individual movie industy and market for it.this will continue, and no big movie production will take any story involving a minority in a main or leading role.MONEY not RACISM guides the hand in decision making.
Anotha WISE GUY who thinks he KNOWS IT ALL or SEEN IT ALL.Well, PERSONAL REALITY = INFORMATION X FOCUS
Here’s what I mean: I’m 25 years old and graduated from college in 2008. I’ve noticed through observations of each freshmen class that Asian guys are becoming increasingly independent of this whole interracial dating disparity. Not in the sense that “I won’t talk to Asian girls anymore because they all want white guys…” but in the sense that it doesn’t matter to them. They can function perfectly in any environment. Conversely, it’s the Asian women around my age and up, and 2 to 3 yrs younger, that I find most vocal about “I only date white guys”, and the same age group of Asian men who are most sensitive about this issue. So there you are, the issues discussed here are relevant and important for sure, but they’re never as bad as you think, and may not be all that relevant in the near future. If some of the stuff you read here is of no help to you, or upsets you, turn your face to the real world, you might find it to completely contradict the reality offered by some of the posters.
and learn how to spell. Its “another.” And quit using caps while you’re at it.
You seem to be interested in other things rather than the issue at hand.TRY TO FOCUS OR REFRAIN FROM COMMENTING.JUST STICK TO THE ISSUE AT HAND.IF I CAN SWITCH THE LAPTOP,ENTER THE INTERNET,GO TO THIS WEBPAGE,AND CONTRIBUTE MY VIEWS IN THIS BLOG,I SURE KNOW HOW TO SPELL “ANOTHER”.I WILL USE THE CAPS IF I WANT TO.THANK YOU.IF IT IS TOO DISTRACTING,I GIVE YOU A BETTER OPTION GO SEE PORN.
This is so true,i am currently working in asia (currently in singapore) and asians are so self conscious and have some sort of low self esteem.(like they can’t measure up to the world’s standard or something.and do have self hating tendencies.they hate their features(small breats,small penises,pug noses),their culture.i read in the other blog entries about cosmetic surgery and the self hating and i can truly say there is truth in it.i dated asian women and it is so true.asians when they can’t measure up they rant and whine or act like they are above or don’t care about this standard they can’t attain.(their fight or flight methods).But internally its eating them up. that’s why you see so much heated rebuttals.acting like god in their own territory so true.they feel safe in their own environmnent and cluster together for safety in case of being bullied.so their insecurity causes them to think that majority wins and dominates and that’s when they get this heightened ego and treat others badly like they are better than you in their territory.It is so eye opening ,when you work in asia and see the truth in the asian people not through media.
I live and work in China. I am white and I must say that Chinese guys are very ugly. They look like jungle monkeys and they act the role. They are sexist, racist, uncivilized jungle chimps. Moreover, I belong to a fitness club here in China and I must state that Chinese men do have very small penises. The pubic hair is often longer than their penises and they have very small testicles.
The chinese ,japanese and koreans all use stereotypes to understand people of other culture/race such as indians are people who eat curry,italians for their pizzas/pastas,doesn’t matter whether you are from nigeria or ghana you are african and must be good in sport or from NBA.Don’t know why turks don’t get along with the greeks.they are all middle eastern.They don’t have the decency to learn english(the universal language).It is the asians who fail in attempting to learn the cultures of the world and the nuances between or in cultures.They don’t care if others can’t understand them.They are the ones that use stereotypes of other cultures and they are the ones to complain that the world stereotypes them.BUNCH OF HYPOCRITES.Don’t deny it.you including the asians in north america/europe were also brought up by this stereotyping.don’t deny this.By the way i have worked in japan and china.The japanese always feared the white men would take their women,they have always been having the inferiority complex of having smaller penis(condoms in Japan came in two sizes – regular & “European”).They are fully aware of their shortcomings.Koreans are so afraid cos korean women who leave korea to study abroad marry white men in alarming percentages.The chinese call the women who date or marry white or any other races “whores” and “sluts”.How do i know this i had to learn their languages to understand them.I lived and worked among them.The asian communities in North america,Europe should shut up about unfair treatment when you asians in their own countries act like they are GOD and treat foreigners or permanent residents like crap.Accept the fact that minorities in any country should anticipate some sort of unfair treatment.Its NOT ALWAYS ONE WAY TRAFFIC GUYS.
Dude. This isn’t about China, Japan or Korea.
This is about dating in America where the country was founded on immigration and diversity. I could care less as to how many Asian male penises you’ve visually scrutinized in China. If that’s what you like to do in order to boost your self-esteem then so be it. There’s no need to slander an entire population of men merely because you don’t find them attractive.
I fail to recall any moment in my life where I’ve called ALL White-American males racist, segregating, Jim Crow loving pricks but it seems as though that you have no qualms about denigrating an entire group of people by calling them “Jungle Chimps”.
No wonder why Chinese people don’t like you.
There you go angry angry, one dimensional thinking NICE RICE.You are to see the point he is raising. minority has to adjust to the majority ,whether it is asia,america,europe or MARS.the minority have to endure the laws,the trends,social issues ,yes the discrimination(sorry,subtle racism) and the inequality in opportunity.Diversity and founded on immigration MY ASS,please open your eyes its always the majority minority issue.Never in my entire life have i seen a 100 day report card for how the president was doing in the white house.NOT even during bush’s second term.wasn’t obama born in america, isn’t he not american?But Obama was appraised from FOX news to CNN about how he faired in the first 100 days!WHAT WAS BUSH DOING IN HIS FIRST 100 DAYS OF OFFICE.WAS THERE A REPORT CARD FOR HIM?!Minority have to fight double hard for what the people in the majority take for granted.YOU THINK THE CHINESE WILL GO EASY ON THEIR FIRST WHITE PRESIDENT?!WILL THERE EVER BE A WHITE PRESIDENT OF CHINA?!C’MON NICE RICE WERE YOU BORN YESTERDAY?If you went to china,japan or korea depending on which nationality you are, do you think they will go easy on you.You definitely know the native asians hate the americanized ones.WHAT”S THE STORY AGAIN?!that’s right the native asians are BASTARDS.and thus the loop of neverending ranting.Dating in america,WAKE UP KID you’ve just scratched the surface.
Haha. The original poster is talking about calling all Chinese men “Jungle chimps” and you go calling someone ONE DIMENSIONAL?? Now that’s funny. At least learn how to write with proper grammar if you’re planning on criticizing someone. And to the original poster, there’s nothing wrong with being upset because you don’t find Chinese dick appealing to your gay tastes and preferences. You can always come back to the states for some cockasian dick if you’d like.
If you are responding to the guy who wrote that asians are chimps than you are a chimp.
sir please read the previous entries by NICE RICE before you comment.don’t come in the middle and and write like you know everything that is going on in this blog.Spent some time and read the rest of the entries don’t read one or two entries and criticise others.i am not criticising NICE RICE,i am telling him about how minorities should work double hard for what they want including the dating world.One dimensional for thinking only seeing the problem from the point of dating and not viewing the problem with other viewpoints.I apologise for my grammar,but this is a blog not my thesis for my Phd.Writing with grammatical errors is much better than commenting like a prick with an IQ level of a six year old.In communication it is not about the grammatical errors its the viewpoints and whether others get it.Your mentality is to find faults in others and insult them when you feel insulted rather than saying something or contribute to the debate.
PS feel free to tell me about my grammatical errors,i always use rightwriter software and my grammar suffers.Thanks
Open your “slanted” eyes.You can’t compete with others.You are in the bottom of the barrel,so comfort your bruised ego with comments like you can take on the world.This only happens in the net not reality.Don’t show me the You tube clips of AM/WF.ASIAN MEN THAT”S SO PATHETIC AND LAME AND INSECURE.HAVE SOME SELF ESTEEM.NO ONE ELSE POSTS THEIR RELATIONSHIPS ON THE YOU TUBE.People only perceive you as NICE and you know it.You can’t play any other card.The romeo,the mysterious guy,the leader of the pack NOTHING only NICE GUY.So be truthful to yourself,don’t act like you got the goods,don’t act like you can just get any women of any race just like that.Don’t lie to yourself and create your own reality,your world will come down crashing when the reality bites.
FOUND THE POST FROM 8 Asians.com about the ASIAN PRINCESS…
I have lived in the US for 10 years now. I have had a problem with these women coming after me. I am 6′, blonde, blue eyed, in good shape, articulate, a high level professional, told I am very good looking, funny and Married (to a white woman)! I have never sought out an Asian woman in my life.
I don’t have anything against Asian women or any women of any race but for some reason these women have sought me out. I have had a number of them that have tried to be my “best friend.” Want to hang out with me all the time at the fitness club, at the country club, hockey rink, or what have you. I have even had them frequent my company as clients excessively in an attempt to establish a friendship with me.
I don’t like to try to be rude to anyone and have been neither overly friendly or flirtatious or rude to get rid of them. BTW they were ALL married too (to white men). And these men were not the best looking usually, while all of these women were very attractive. In retrospect I would say those men could not have married a white woman half as attractive as these asian women were.
I don’t even live in a city with a high Asian population (Phoenix). I probably just represent the “white bread” stereotype success story. I am not sure if they see me as “moving up the food chain” or what but they all have let me know in no uncertain terms I can have what I want with them. Its weird.
I stumbled across your article and you described most of them to a tee. Married to white men, designer this and that, German car…Mercedes or BMW. They have all told me they would only marry a white man (which I find odd, I would mary anyone of any race if I loved them). I didn’t grow up in the US so I have a different perspective on things than Americans but I do represent the quintessential American s success story.
I don’t pretend to know jack about any Asian culture. Its not really on my to do list either. I feel indifferent to Asian men & women in general. They are just people to me. . But I keep having these gorgeous Asian women coming after me, more so than woman of any other race. And I just didn’t understand why really. Why Asian women? I guess they were the Asians you described. Princesses.
And no, I wasn’t stupid enough
Your article was an eye opener.
I see your point, but why are you so sensitive about self help? So many guys do much more dangerous things than walking up to women (snowboarding, race car driving, being a marine, firefighters, etc). These are men and women pushing their limits every day, some out of duty, others out of thrill/desire. Are you going on forums and telling these people they’re being unhealthy? From the way you get riled up, it sounds like you’ve tried it yourself and crashed and burned, in which case you should simply admit it. Also, that bit about “forgiveness”, I’d say you are too naive. As for the “case by case” basis, I agree to an extent, but the fact of the matter is that there are A LOT of Asian guys that this stuff applies to. The poster never claimed it was the right path for everyone, he just neglected to post the warnings about side-effects for certain individuals with overtly thin skin etc.
The author said something about dating white guys for fun, and then marry an Asian guy for stability and money–well, that sounds a lot like she thinks of Asian men as tame cash cows who will cater to her after she spread her legs of all the other men…it may be reality, but seems like any self-respecting Asian guy (or any guy with self-respect) would find that mentality deeply repulsive. And who says I was forcing my looks to women? Women are adults who can make their own decisions, I never said every women would go out with every man who shows some confidence. I’m saying: be a man, make your case, don’t try to be a friend if you want to be her lover, and move on respectfully if she’s not attracted to you. What the fuck is so disrespectful about that?
If you think being white is so great why are you working in a country full of “chimps” and ugly guys? Are you jealous or something? Or is it because you’re like most of the white guys I see with Asian women–the overweight, socially inept, frumpy kind that don’t have a prayer with women of your own race so you go for an Asian girl (or move to China) to settle for someone you actually have a shot with? Fucking pathetic. Guess what, I am one of those Asian guys that regularly upstart white guys. I saw this white dude at a bar trying to pick up a cute brunette, she was giving him his number, and I grabbed the phone as soon as he was done entering. I stole the number, texted her 5 min later, and got a date, right in front of several of his friends. Nice guys finish last, unless they’re a desperate white guy trying to get with insecure Asian women.
Oh, and I work out quite frequently, and I can’t help but noticing the packages of white guys–they aren’t any bigger than mine, in fact most of them have pretty pathetic looking tools. And here’s another thing I’ve noticed abt people in general, it’s always the most insecure people who are trying to put others down. Because if a person has full confidence, they really don’t feel the need to talk shit about others.
ANTBHER, ATHOER, ATHNOTHER, ANOOOOER…seriously, if you’re going to post a response, at least call me out on something more substantial than a spelling error. It basically tells me you have no come back for the original post because it reflects reality. And reality is that most of the younger Asian guys I’ve met simply don’t give a flying rat’s ass about what Asian girls think anymore.
You must be so insecure that you check out white dicks.sad.You my friend have been busted penis watching.
Then WHAT THE HELL R YOU TAKING ABOUT,YOU INSECURE CHINK!You just EXPOSED YOUR INSECURE SIDE OOPS!!!! LOL!!!
UPSTART MY ASS! STOP DAYDREAMIN. In the long run,the fantasy you conjure up will hurt your health.
Im an Asian guy but I don’t date asian girls cuz im afraid I might be related to them. Plus theyre too small and short. I rather have hapa babies too cuz theyre cute.
I don’t which saddens and upsets me more…the article or the following comments. I am from Thailand. I am a divorced Asian woman. I still use my ex’s last name. He was caucasian. I was with him for 3 years. I now only DATE Asian men exclusively. I have dated 2 black guys before and they were very nice as well. But I find my preference is towards other Asians, sexually and culturally. I can safely say that I will never date another white man again. I found the one I married and others I dated in college to be losers, arrogant, racist, border-line gay, and dishonest. That’s my opinion.
Im an Asian guy and Ive totally given up on asian women. I mean…whats the point of trying to talk to them when you know they wont even give you a chance just cuz your an asian dude. Its a huge waste of time. Most of the girls I go for now are non-Asian and all asian guys should do the same.
i think its funny how all the asian girls want to marry a white dude cuz they think they’ll get “cute hapa babies.” then they end up with a baby that looks like rob schneider, who by the way is a hapa.
Like rob schneider,who actually thinks he is funny,i find it equally amusing to see asian guys acting like they are the MAC.SAD man,real SAD.One thing that is harder to swallow than a bitter pill is the fake confidence asian guys portray.I have personally seen women laugh their ass off at asian guys tryin to pick them up.I don’t know whether to feel sad or slap them to their senses that people are laughing at them behind their backs.
Oh like you can,plz respect the asian gals you have no where to go.By the way which hand do you use to masturbate.that’s all the action you will get.Don’t kid yourself.
One day you gonna find a fantastic asian gal just right for you,and you are gonna regret for the interpretations/comments/decisions you just made.You might have given up on asian gals but that’s your opinion.WHAT IF YOU WERE WRONG?
I am sick and tired of people speaking for the world,like they have experienced ALL and generalize about them(white men) in a negative light cos they have had a bad experience.You dating ASIANS ONLY? GOOD FOR YOU.HOPE YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU AND CARES ABOUT YOU.
Try not to take some of these comments seriously. Some are trolls trying to flame and bait. I am glad you were open minded but in the end prefer Asian men. I too can attract any beauty white, Asian, black, biracial, latin, Indian etc, but in the end prefer Asian beauties. This is my opinion but I prefer having Asian looking babies/children with my wife who I would be more culturally connected. Some biracial Asians I know try to avoid their Asian heritage culture.
Why do you get so riled up by her comments as a white guy and you can’t even post your name?
I don’t agree with it. There are knuckheads male and female here who over generalizes about one race over another and some of it is true but you can’t generalize one race if you have not met all of them. I was born here in the US and I am proud of my heritage and live in the DC area. I am not against interracial dating/marriage and yes I have dated and befriend female beauties here of all races. I have acknowledge the good and bad among Asians and whites, black, latin, Indian and other nationalities. So why don’t you too among whites.
OOOOOOOHHHHHH!Don, you forgot MARTIANS.WHAT A LAUGH! Don can attract ANYONE and EVERYONE IN THE WORLD but he prefers asians!Even brad pitt can’t do that!Don can.Your wife’s a lucky woman!In other words,asians are what you can get.You do know how to show yourself in a better light.I can smell your insecurity,Don.Anyway,You are telling someone who wrote that “white guys in general are losers and borderline GAY”to not take some of the comments seriously.Surely you must find dermont’s comments a bit skewed.Don,she still USES HER EX HUSBAND”S SURNAME for god’s sake and bashes white men in GENERAL.Don,t you think she is a weirdo and still harbours hatred for white men.Don’t you think she is the troll who is trying to flame and bait?!C’mon,Don.
Don,your speech and action gap is widening,you seem balanced in your views but your actions seems totally opposite.You seem to ‘comfort’ someone who seems to ridiculously overgeneralize about white men in a negative way.Kudos to you for acknowledging the good ,bad and the ugly of EVERY race but your actions seem to support a weirdo white men basher.You didn’t write the same comments you wrote to me towards her,you seem to support her.I am happy for your preference towards asian women butthe way you put it really does make you look like you are insecure about yourself.If you like asians say you like asians.Period.Lastly what’s in the name,its about the views and opinions!If you REALLY want a name,umm,BARACK OBAMA,r you happy now.Who the bloody arse writes their true name in the net.Honestly.That’s the only reason ( BEING ANONYMOUS) why anyone and everyone comes here to write their own ‘REALITY’ when the truth is so pathetic.Right, DON ,the person who is so attractive among all the races,whose charm can be felt even in MARS.
I agree with you,dear… I am non-asian. My asian friend and I get along great.
“The greatest happiness in life is to crush your enemies, to see them scattered before you, to rob them of their wealth, to see those dear to them bathed in tears, and to clasp at your bosom their weeping wives and daughters.” -Genghis Khan, Asian Man.
Get off your ass and contribute to the world at least in a small way ,give contribution to Haiti or something!It is really really pathetic when you bask in another man’s hardwork,initiative,drive,ambition and glory.You are a parasite.What next BRUCE LEE?! You will never be half the man he was.Go get a life.You need genghis khan to make yourself feel better about yourself.Truly shows your insecurity,lack of maturity and lack of strength.WHAT A TURN OFF!Eeeewwww.
-EMBARRASSED ASIAN GAL
Point proven,READ WHAT YOU WROTE.I was right insecure,lack of maturity and lack of strength.SAD.You have self esteem problems.Also you show signs of SCHIZOPHRENIA(hallucinations, paranoid or bizarre delusions, or disorganized speech and thinking).GO GET HELP.
-CONCERN & COMPASSIONATE ASIAN GAL
i think its really pathetic when asian girls bask in the white mans glory. you are a parasite. whats next, nicholas cage. you will never be white by association. go get a life. you need white men to make your self feel like somebody. truly shows your insecurity, lack of maturity and lack of strength. what a turn off. ewwwww. – embarrased white woman.
p.s. stop trying to be white.
yeah, you should be embarrassed to be asian.
Have you ever thought that maybe the males you have dated were all “boys” and not “men”? There are no “advantages or disadvantages” to a particular ethnicity because they exist in all races. Maybe, instead of looking at race when choosing a partner, opt for an individual that is mature; because immaturity and childness exist across the globe, regardless of gender, race, culture etc.
Every man from every race is dating and marrying their women from their race.Interracial couples are beautiful.Any relationship is.It is the asian men who are ranting that there is a higher percentage of their women dating outside their race.And they, on the other hand can’t level the playing field(even in a vengeful retaliation to asian women dating outside)THAT”S THE POINT.Its not about dating boys or men,or dating based on maturity.There are definitely advantages and disadvantages to a particular ethnicity.And i am not talking about monetary reasons.(Asians are smarter make more money).If there weren’t any, WHY THE MASS EXODUS,not only to white men but other races too.To your point,Yabai,its the asian men who see race when dating,when they get dissed by asian women.Just read the previous posts,about how they ONLY want to date white women,wats the point in asian women and how they ignore them.So DON’T TELL WOMEN THAT THE MEN THEY DATE ARE BOYS, IF IT ISN’T YOU THEY DIDN’T CHOOSE.WOMEN ARE GATHERERS, THEY CAN TELL THE GOOD APPLES FROM THE BAD ONES.Asian men were close minded when it came to dating.When they were dissed by asian women, they suddenly became open minded.But to their horror no takers.So back to asian women being sluts,whores,sellouts,traitors and the rant goes on….media…..and on…..emasculation of asian men…..and on……
BEGGARS CAN’T BE CHOOSERS
I agree Asian men can’t afford to be picky and desperate at the same time.
I’m a white woman(20yrs)and I’m more attracted to Asians than non Asians, so is my little sister. I don’t know where we get it from nor why. Everyone else in our family thinks we are weird.
I agree. That’s what I said to the white tramp when he whined over the $5 dollar bill that I handed him.
The writer is an absolute user, from this single statement: If you’re young, you will probably be happy playing around with a white man and appreciate an Asian man as you mature, like a fine wine.
Yeah, Asian men, as usual, are the LAST RESORT. Guess who is first choice?
I did not say Asian Men are the last resort, stop reading into it so negatively you issue bearing monger. Confident is key I would like to add, probably a reason why you’re so angry!!!!! ARRRGGHHHH!
New reason for me not dating Asian women. LOL..Have a happy life.
Asian guys don’t be plan B.
I feel sad for the Asian guy you date. You area has been. I made the mistake of dating an Asian girl who only been with white before me. i was able to overlook that because I wanted to be a good guy.
The white guy gave her STD, cheated on her with another Asian girl, and she then give me STD, and I only been with 1 other girl, she has been with probably over 10.
I will never make that mistake ever again and I advise other Asian men to do the same. Fuck Asian bitch. And yes, I am angry. I was being a good guy and I was fucked over by society and self hating Asian btiches.
My tips to Asian guys – seek out all women and definitely don’t stick to only Asian women. Asian men need to learn to filter out Asian women who are proud of their culture vs. completely whitewashed ones who are insecure and have that white male only mentality. By all means celebrate Asian women who do stand behind Asian men but do run away from damaged brainwashed ones. Also, most Asian men will be surprised women of other colors beside Asian are interested in them. Trust me on this, you just need to get some balls and ask those women out. Most white and Latino women I been with never even knew Asian men are interested in them. Women are conditioned to think who are the potential mates by what kind of men approach them. If you never been approached by Asian men, you naturally don’t think they are interested in you. Trust me on this, I be rich eif I get a dollar each time I hear another comment from a Latino, black or white women telling me “I didn’t realize Asian guys are into white/Latino/black women”. You can’t get a date if you don’t ask. I realize Asian men face extreme social racism growing up in this racist country, but you are still ultimately in control of your own life. If you rely on those whitewashed Asian women for your confidence, you might as well give up now cause they will ruin you. Confidence is something that you have to build yourself. I realize racism in this country has beat down many Asian mens confidence, but it is something you are in control of. Believe me, you be surprised how receptive women of other colors are once you ask them out. I know cause I am living proof. I have dated hundreds of women in my life and I always have my choice of who I want to be with. NEVER EVER be any woman’s safety choice. Certainly not be a safety net for an Asian woman who think you always be there after they have their fun.
90% of the time it’s probably not because you’re an Asian guy, but because you’re a loo-hoo-hoo-hoo-zer. A buddy of mine is Chinese and scores hot Asian and white ass all the time. He’s banging a smoking hot blonde right now. So it’s not because you’re Asian, it’s because you’re you. My advice is to listen to Arnold Schwarzenegger and “Stop whining!” Hit the gym, stop being such a dork, and get some confidence. Do that and unless you’re ugly as sin, you’ll be slaying mad slam pieces in no time, both Asian and white. Stop hiding behind your race and address the real issue.
have fun with that asian guy when you’re old…it sure won’t be meeeeee!
they can do whatever they want.
I’m an Asian guy. I have to say I probably wouldn’t give an Asian girl who had dated non-Asians a chance, unless it was just for a few months and they had decided that it had all been a mistake. There are Asian women out there looking only for Asians, still. It’s not easy to find them but I guess I’ll just have to hold out.
why white women willing to have sex with black man and asian men…???
“answer”
1.lives of black man and asian men is almost advanced
2.black man and asian men has lot of money and famous
3.black man is no longer tacky and life is no longer such antiquity
4.pity to see black man and asian men underestimated and has the ugly face
5.white women actually do not really love black man,just need money
black man who is very ugly,can now have sex with a white woman who is very beautiful… ooooooooooohhhh my good………world almost doomsday..LOL
ugly,rotten,poor race,not really loved by white woman because of ugly,like monkey,
big lips and smell is BLACK PEOPLE
white women actually do not really love black men.
when viewed from physical,black man is very ugly.
and not all white women love race black men.
only some from white women…
and why there are white women who love black men??
because pity to see the they ugly face like a gorilla.lol
we all know, that the dignity of the degree of black man race is now good.
they can get enough money and famous like michael jackson
(however, in their hearts really embarrassed to have ugly faces)lol.
and white women love only they money, not really love them,because have ugly faces.
lol,lol,lol,lol,lol,lol.hwa..ha..hahahahahahaha…
so, for those of you who feel a black man, it’s better not to love white women.
because They do not really love you .lololololol..hwahahahahaha
race japan, china and the black man is garbage for white women.
they like toy money.hwahahahaha
(for men japan, china and the black man…)
yours do not deserve hanging out with the white race
because yours are not the equal of their..lol
blackmen and asian men should not be having sex with white women!!!
because your is race low!!!
fuck you asian men and blackmen………..
Wow, reading article like this really turned me off to Asian women. I am an Asian American guy, I am a late bloomer so I never get to date any non-Asian. I feel weird dating Asian girls after I find out she has pretty much been with everyone. I feel unequal in the relationship, so I usually dump her after I get a taste.
This article serves nothing by divide Asian people. I really wonder what is the purpose of this white supported magazine. What are your agenda?
I don’t understand what you are trying to say? You aren’t attractive enough to date white women? What are you talking about? Please explain!
Hey dude, shut the fuck up. Do you think you get married in your teens? I dont think so. Asians hold up more serious relationships than average. And who said anything about a last resort? It never even said that asians are the last resort. And also, it said when the woman matures, they would choose the asian. Im not saying we own asian woman. Im just saying read the fucking article before posting up racist comments like these bitch.
Why do you have to give tips to Asian men?
Why not grow a spine and do things without having someone to tell you to do it.
GOD ITS SO FUCKING SAD!
Hmmm…
I am not fooled one bit by you.
YOU ARE SOME DUMB ASIAN BITCH pretending to be a white female.
IF you were white you would be able to write in the English language a bit more eloquently. LEARN ENGLISH before you insult people you disgusting dirty pig.
Asian men are like programmed robots!
They just aren’t open minded like Asian women.
Asian men have wayyyy too many hangups, its pathetic really.
You will probably end up alone in the end, because you won’t go outside your little box and try anything new.
What’s wrong with dating outside your race? (I’m an asian female) And all of the Asian guys I’ve dated have all treated me like crap. Maybe it’s the men I came across or maybe it’s the location that I’m at.
But I have a theory:
Asian men are either really HOT or really not. You never really find an asian man who’s so-so.
The really NOT category do not usually get women because they aren’t too attractive. The really HOT asian guys however have absolutely no respect for women because trashier, lower class asian girls (or any race really) have no qualms throwing their panties at them since they’re a rare find.
So call it unfair, but I’m more hesitant to give good-looking asian men a chance anymore.
well I think you’re awesome <3
Hello my name is Aaron
I’m 20 years old and an Asian American male
I respect your opinion and you. I felt you told the blatant truth with as little bias as possible and thats what I respect about what you said.
However I wanted to express my own opinion. I disagree about 2 things you said:
I have a very different way of thinking from other men in general. I don’t think I own women, especially not Asian women. I strongly believe that all people should have the freedom to choose their mate, regardless of gender or color. When you said that Asian men think that Asian women are their property, that hurt me on a personal level. I know you try to avoid stereotyping, but what you said was a stereotype.
My whole life I’ve been rejected by Asian girls my own age. I grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood, but most of my friends have been Black or Hispanic. I usually didn’t have the confidence to talk to white girls, so all of the girls I’ve dated in the past have been Black or Hispanic… Never Asian, I’ve never been able to get an Asian girl’s attention before in my life. Most of the time they just over look me for a young, athletic, but slightly older white/Black/Hispanic male. That’s fine in my opinion, despite the fact it hurts me to think “I’m not good enough for her…” But everyone’s entitled to their preference, right?
The main reason I go out with Black and Hispanic girls is because they think I’m exotic and that makes me feel special. If I had the chance to date an Asian girl or white girl my own age I’d love to! But when it all comes down to it the Asian girls don’t like me because I’m Asian and the white girls think I’m too short. I can’t do anything about my height, but I’m guessing that when an Asian girl looks at me she’s reminded of a strict father or a chauvinistic ex. It hurts me that I get generalized because I’m a chivalrous young man who just wants to be himself and have fun… But, what can you do? Right?
The second thing is that as a young man from a newer generation I’ve very open minded about sex, race, religion, etc. Most of the time I’m the sexually adventurous one and the girl is not. I’m not a boring person at all! My Black American girlfriend thinks I’m the greatest, most exciting guy in the world (and I don’t mind cuddling). And at the same time I’m Asian. I know you already know that stereotypes are just stereotypes, but I guess I wanted to get this off my chest after I read your blog.
why don’t you try walking in someone else’s shoes?
you’re awesome! That made me feel better
I wouldn’t have treated you like dirt… I’m as you put it “so so” not too “Hot” or too “Not”
So would you care to make your case again? Just for me?
Maybe it’s not ‘black man’ and ‘asian men’ problem that you’re having difficulty finding a date. I know plenty of women from every race that has no problem finding dates both interracially and from their own race. Taking out your racist insecurities on all ‘white women’ is uncalled for. Have you ever thought that you might be having a problem finding a date not because of your race or how you look but because of your personality?
I’m a young hispanic/white female and i would love the chance to date an asian guy. I don’t know what but something about them is so attractive. 😉
I`m an asian girl and 21 years old. I`ve dated only white men and somehow, I don`t have the feeling they really fit to me. I also like asian men, but I hate it, that I can`t find an asian, who is nice, self-confident and who knows, who he is and what he wants! Probably I just want to believe, that asian are different than white men, because the people I met were stupid. XD
But I`m also not perfect. I can`t speak my own language any more, because I haven`t learned it, when I was young. That`s why I don`t have a lot of asian friends and a lot of people don`t see me as real asian (well, me too XD).
u must be so insecure inside. Stop looking at naked asian men what a dickless white gay man!!!!!!!!!!! Are you jealous of something or u just can’t get anyone (men & women ) in China ???? by the way i m a latin white girl and THE ASIANS I DATED WERE BY FAR THE BEST IN BED COMPARED TO ANGLO-SAXON GUYS AT ALL LEVELS!!!!!! LOL
Oh dear!
Are you the person who wrote ‘FUCK YOU’?
English is my first language. Technically you could improve your English too:
I am not fooled by you. You are a dumb bitch pretending to be Caucasian. If you were white then you would be able to write eloquently, using the English language. Please learn English before you insult people, you disgusting, dirty pig.
However, I think if someone can be understood clearly, then it doesn’t matter how well they can speak English and it isn’t nice to text-shout at them to “LEARN ENGLISH” or cll them a “DUMB ASIAN BITCH” or a “dirty pig”. 🙁
This is for the guys.
White guy confidence is often just a communication style – the confidence of being the in the “upper class.” When an Asian guy is confident, it’s usually because he did something to earn it. The good news is, that kind of confidence is available to everyone, even the ugly guys. You just have to push yourself to accomplish some of your dreams – it’s all from within.
Also, don’t limit yourself to one race. You’ll find the “same people” in different races, and different people within each race.
You’ll face a lot of rejection, and some straight-out racism, but that’s life. You probably will face more than others, but that’s what it means to be a minority. Work to overcome that within and in the world.
Don’t hate white people (more than necessary). It’s ok to be angry. You’d be weird if you were not angry. But you can’t live in the anger. You’ll just get depressed.
Do something to fight racism against Asians. Do something to fight against racism for other groups. It’s an obligation to yourself to do this work. You can’t wish this stuff away.
Recognize that you can’t become white. You’re Asian. Do your best. When you have kids, make sure they’re Asian too even if your wife (or husband) isn’t.
“Ewww” to your face and at you. I don’t even know why you’re in this website.
I dated an asian man an his penis was really smaller,i thought it was a myth i didn;t want to have relations with him i ran out of his house and back to my white ex-bf’s house and did it with him instead ,asians are gross i think, my brother had sex with an asian girl and said there “only good to fuck” and that he wouldnt wanna keep one around, id do anything but an asian there faces are so flat ,like paper they look lie bamboons, whites,latino, and even Indians and middle easterns have got better features they cant drive even,blacks look like gorrilas but there penises make up for it , bye u teeny weeny asians
Nancylee,
I took a glance at the picture used for this article, and that guy doesn’t look “white” to me. LoL He looks like he’s from overseas, Middle Eastern or something.
This comment goes over the line, in my opinion. It should be deleted from this site. There is a vast difference between opinion and blatant racism.
wow! how lame are you!
so check this all.. Im a 35 yr old asian guy whose been there and done that with around almost 90% all asian women taht ive been in relationships with. White women dont turn me on, i guess im old fashion like that since im ’75. However, white and hispanic and even black women have stalked me before and wrote letters to me asking me out and the likes, yet i choose to be nonchalant about it most of the time except the really gorgeous ones that i took a chance on. Anyways my point is that not all asian men have low self esteem, hell, all my exes told me im probably the most cockiest, confident yet funny asian guy they ever met period. So whats up with that? Anyways bottom line, confidence comes from within… That chick Nancy knows the deal… Even if your not, just sit back and i guess fake it till u make it until its a natural thing.. goes for all races, i do this now for my business cause altho i was a good player, but im not so good in business (lol, opposite of the asian stereotype) but this visualization ive been practicing has been very helpful to me in my cellphone business that i started in Los Angeles. Anyways, goodluck all and be positive people!
im so open, hell, i even left my real email and facebook website to prove my identity and backup my walk
This is the most backwards article I have ever read. I can not believe such bigotry and stupidity centering around stereotypes still exists. Perhaps I should learn to accept such from women, then.
White men default to upper class? That is where the problem starts. Class see’s no color nor financial status or even lifestyle for that matter. It’s simply a characterization of your behavior. According to your definition of “White vs Asian” shouldn’t the Asian be the classier of the two? Quite contradicting. Perhaps the perception of the author comes purely from a social standpoint and not balanced with a professional standpoint. Growing up around whites and now friends and business partners with many of both, I must confess I find classier Asian men in both business and social settings. I’m sure many will disagree with that statement as well. To each their own.
It’s clear from “sarah’s” post that education is truly wasted on some.
You’ve had every man under the sun? At least prostitutes get paid for it.
what white guys really think of asian girls:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQ8xDSEqzto
read the comments at the bottom
What a lopsided and odd comparison.
The article tries to paint a veneer of objectivity on it but come on. It’s a hit piece on White guys (oddly enough with many, many responses by Asian guys who hate White men and hate but want to have sex with White women) and a ridiculous puff piece for Asian dudes.
All in all it’s racist and I wouldn’t want to date any Asian guys who think like the author or those commenting here.
man is a man no matter what race,colour he is…
LOL, THATS ALL I CAN DO…
Guys ur ganging on nancy. She said to you, ” I’ve had every color under the sun” her theory or research is based on her sex life or rather put it more maturely, ‘love life’. I respect you for that.
Besides she is only sharing her own opinion. @Nancy, thank you for your enlightment, im open minded so ja, i hear you. Just to be clear, ive had neither of the race. Im South African.
Thank you! You haven’t touched an Asian girl? boyyyyyyy your missing
When girls finally mature they go after the Asian men who treat them right. You got it spot on. Also that white guy is probably 5% black ha ha.
Soooo roughly speaking, how long would it take for girls to mature? I don’t want to wait 30 or so years fermenting into “fine wine” haha
lol OMG!
this video is SO fucking right!
on average that’s exactly what happens to Asian girls! It’s why I didn’t like Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World. Typical insecure white guy who leaves his Asian girlfriend the minute a hotter girl comes along… What a douche bag!
http://abclocal.go.com/kabc/story?section=news/local&id=5676767
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2009/05/23/2009-05-23_i_choked_her_during_sex_gary_mcgurk_suspect_in_nypd_criminalist_michelle_lees_mu.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Annie_Le
http://www.cbsnews.com/blogs/2009/09/18/crimesider/entry5319578.shtml
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lili_Wang
http://www.sfexaminer.com/local/crime/child-molester-faces-new-charges-in-florida-87473967.html#ixzz0i1a68UEa
http://www.sgvtribune.com/ci_14233456?source=rss
http://abclocal.go.com/kabc/story?section=news/local/los_angeles&id=7372285
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFRrUAgc_IQ&feature=watch_response_rev
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/2010/06/30/2010-06-30_karl_joseph_kraus_90yearold_australian_arrested_and_charged_with_raping_four_sis.html
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/06/28/AR2010062804452.html
http://www.cnn.com/2010/CRIME/06/29/arizona.missing.woman/index.html
http://www.aolnews.com/article/cops-eye-boyfriend-in-ariz-womans-disappearance/19537254
http://www.ocregister.com/news/home-253448-old-year.html
This is super cool, I loved this comparison, I am half white and half Asian..
You must have one big muthaf**king family!
I also think you’re awesome!
Puhleeze. Media was not as prevalent as it is now. Plus, it’s the stereotypes and oppression that makes them rise in the first place.
I agree with the study. It’s true that SOME Asian women don’t want Asian men. It’s probably due to hegemony pressure. I think these particular women have their own insecurities of being treated as a second class citizen. To avoid being constantly criticized or lowered in value/class, they join in on the fun. Better to walk along side of the devil than to be in its path?
That’s why you see so many Asian women make PUBLIC statements of how much they dislike or are quick to judge Asian men. They always have to make it clear that they themselves are somehow not happy with their own race of men. You rarely see this with females of other races.
I don’t agree with your form of retaliation towards Asian women. Not all Asian women hate themselves or their race.
If these insecure Asian women (NOT ALL) want to hate Asian men for superficial reasons. Let them, they are weak and self-hating. I myself do not want to be with a weak and insecure person. To me that’s not a queen bee. It’s not like white men are catches anyways. They can’t keep a marriage. Divorce rate is over 55% and 70% in some states. I’ve seen it so many times. Asian woman marries a white man and gets divorced. So let the weak have their white centric MTV dream. Chances are, over half will have broken homes and fail. It’ll be funny if they end up having a half Asian boy too. LOL
I don’t understand why so many Asian women (NOT ALL) put white men on a pedestal. Are the insecure that brain washed by white centric movies and MTV?
I’m Asian and out of my work team, I’m the only one who is still married to my wife. All of my white co-workers are divorced. I’ve been with my wife for over 16 years too. Longer than any of my co-workers.
Why do SOME Asian women consider white men such a prize? They have less than a 50% chance (30% chance in California) should they marry an American male. I saw on the news (CNN) the other day that white men specifically have a 70% divorce rate (whatever that means). Who in their right mind prefer broken homes for their offsrping? j/s
Word… Your girlfriend gets it. You’re a lucky guy to have a secure woman by your side.
As Aisan women have become more empowered the divorce rate amoung asians has risen. It doubled for Indians in the last ten years. It is hard to go earn a paycheck and come home to be treated like property.
Read my bio. Yes I am. 😛
Nancy, just curious, are you Korean?
Nancy, just curious, are you Korean?
It’s good to know that there are still Asian woman out there who are able to describe their own experiences without having to resort to blaming someone else or a group of people…I respect that.
Nobody forced these women to get married to these men. Again I see it has come down to blaming Asian men for their failed marriages and bad decisions. Stop making excuses and take responsibility for your actions. If you want to put white men on a pedestal that’s fine…whatever floats your boat…lol….just don’t pretend it’s the fault of Asian men…lol.
Meh I don’t agree with you on the notion that white men are more fun and more of an adventure while asians are boring or whatsoever. That’s false and you know that. Some asian guys are way more confident and exciting to be with than white guys. So your opinion is just that an opinion. I guess everyone has different experiences.
I just want to point out that you said, “I don’t SEE color,” yet your whole article is based on the differences between white and Asian men, then you say, there really is no difference in penis size, men are all the same.
“I don’t see color” is stupid to say, ALL people look different and have different cultures, and act differently, for better or for worse, and you saying that you don’t see color isn’t accurate. Unless you have autism, only because certain types of autism makes it difficult for them to recognize faces.
Damn, I would not like to be in the shoes of an asian man, think about it, a white man has more chances to get an asian girl even more than an asian male, is an easy task for white guys, if an asian man can’t get an asian girl he can be lonely forever because the chances that he has with non-asian females are very FEW, is the reality, I think the asian girls who date asian males do that because there aren’t many white guys around, white men have more chances with asian females even in asian countries
imma korean guy and i say forget about races/cultures. people have their preferences and attraction is attraction. attraction isn’t a choice.
how about instead of wasting your time by giving out your opinion and arguing this non sense, go and do something valuable!!??
yeah everybody has insecurities but if you seriously let them and others get to you, your just portraying your need to validate and be submissive to others.
@ the end, be who you are and if someone doesnt like you, fuck them, who gives! there’s really no need to have a feeling of satisfaction by wanting approval from others. be yourself and if others dont like you for you, they can GTFO!
good point eh. it’s more about the individual rather than the race/culture.
There are no studies or statistics to support your claim.
Duh! That is why I stated it as my experience. hellllllllo? I’m sure, if you do a study on it, our results will be similar. Please try and let us know.
Yes.. I agree with you here.. Asian men are much more interesting in my experience. I wish they were easier for us caucasian girls to meet though. I melt when I set eyes on Asian men… sigh!! My limited experience of love making with an Asian man has totally blown my mind! I never had that with a white guy… I promise!!
Thank you for this article. I agree with the author of the article that white men see Asian girls as a sex experience or a rebound. Unfortunately, I have been that. I have learned from my experience and now curious about dating Asian men. Everytime I see an Asian couple, the man always seems to adore his girlfriend. She seems to be the luckiest girl in the world. When it’s an Asian girl and white guy, it’s like the other way around, where the Asian girl adores the white guy and the white guy is usually a piece of SHIT!!!!
Amazing race today shame Hamilton didn’t win
Button again shows he is got a brain for changeable conditions, although i feel he got somehow lucky with ham being the 1st of the two to pit.
Well, I disagree with the write at Asian guys is boring and lacking of confidence. Like me, Im fully Asian, I was born there did secondary school and moved to Aus for high school. It really depends on the environment of where you grew up and how you face with it.
I have no problem when talking about sex (but my parents do, see thats difference about environment) Im dating with a white girl. Im here first boyfriend and she is happy about it. So there is no difference about colour once you are in love. But you will see the different between white and asian man once you have date with them.
White guy:
Not all of them treat you like trash, but some of them are. They are more likely to be playboy rather than a real/truly husband or boyfriend. Yes their english is perfect but somehow they cant understand woman/girl. They think they know everything and want to be the boss. Funny part is when the bill comes. What white man will do it pass it to you, and ask you to pay half. Even if they are married, no difference. They want to share everything and afraid of loosing money or in other words they afraid of paying more.Never take future as a serious thing to think about. They are always Play First and dont care about whatever things are coming up to them. They love money so easier to get involve with crimes.
Asian guyL
Yes they are shy, lack of confidence(some) but once you and them get along well, you will see they are warm,nice,treated you like princess or queens. They truly respect you, carry on and always looking forward about a good future with you. They are hard worker,money saver. they dont care about who earns more or who is the boss at home… they give you all the money that they have(only if married) Beside that if you are dating with Asian guy. Can I ask Do you ever pay for the bills? Do they ever say anythings about money in front of you? I doubt it if they do. They saves money and spend for the right things.
Conclusion:
Like the writer said you probably want to play around when you are young (which is white guys are for teen) and they willing giving up on you once they found a hotter chick. So keep in minds. When you are older you should take Asian as a secure future where you can find a true meaning respect and family.
Yes Im Asian so I stay on Asian site because I know How we treat woman, how we look after them and how we think about future! So comment below and let me know what do you think?
P.S: as I said Im Asian so English isnt my first language. But however I believe its good enough for you understand. Please dont comment about my English coz I dont give a Damn!
Cheers
Asian guys boring? It depends on the guy and how he was raised. I like to go river rafting, skiing, skydiving and travel. I don’t think that’s really boring. I only date Asians because I think it leads to a better long term relationship. The more you have in common, the more likely the relationship will last.
I read your description of white men and I think you have been dating the shallow end of the gene pool. There are millions of white guys who aren’t any of those things you mentioned- I count myself as one. Over confidence and self assuredness would be two things that most white guys have (even if they don’t tend to show them). I do agree with the dating asian guy idea but you must also add the “playboy” aspect to the asian guy (at least the asian guys who can ask girls out easily enough). All of my asian male friends who have the confidence enough to ask a girl are sleeping with more than two at the same time. White guys have been conditioned (trained/whipped?) to not do this anymore (or at least they’ll feel very guilty about doing it).
Penis size- Filipino have the largest, Chinese smallest, Japanese average (though their porno stars have much smaller than average)- no idea about other races. White people on par with Filipino and Japanese (generally).
That being said I’m speaking in only the penises I have seen and noted (consciously or otherwise) in Spa’s, showers, and while having sex. Generally I ignore those I see in pornos.
Unfortunately I also agree with the finance statement about asian men. Some say its a substitute for not being able to express their feelings (saying loving things comes easier to white guys as does expressing their opinion) and others say differently. White men have been trained to realise that once you start to give then you have to keep in giving and the sizes can only get bigger and bigger and so we are naturally catious before starting down the pay-for-my-precious-time-with-you slippery-slide mentality. Matererialistic? Depends on the type of girl you want or the girl you want to be or the relationship you think is most healthy for you.
I’m a guy and I prefer an Asian girl who hasn’t spent too much time in Western society and so remembers that love of her family comes first. They are a more long-term dating/marriage solution for me as white girls seem to just want the flash/fun and independance. There is not independence in a healthy, loving, marriage/union. Just two people who love and respect each other.
Once all has been said and done. Love is love. Just recently I started dating a Chinese girl (the first time I have ever been attracted to a Chinese girl) after many years of other asian races and some white girls too.
There are plenty of HOT white girls but the majority are too loud, rude, obnoxious, masculine, crazy, selfish, stupid, and fat. Just walk down your street and count them, then look at a movie (or visit Tokyo for example) and count them. It’s not an opinion- it’s a statistical fact.
Any white girls getting angry at this go for that walk/jog and count the heifers and young-wanna-be-women (avoid McDonalds and the thousands of other fast food places because you’d prove my point too quickly).
ohh great! Thank you! :3 You’ve just confirmed what I’ve been experiencing for these past 3 weeks. I’m European, but ever since my first boyfriend… I started to get so tired of the unreliable white guys. Not to mention that I don’t even like the ‘handsome’ stereotypes here o.o I’ve been into asian men for 2-3 years now and 3 weeks ago I just met someone amazing, he is asian.
He is.. simply amazing. For someone like myself who doesn’t like too much sweet talking and empty talk or rudeness, this sweet man was like an oasis to me. And he still is.
He is so well-mannered, so considerate, so focused on what we are talking, always making sure we take turns to talk, listens to what I say and understands me, he takes me seriously for who I am and I really feel like I am important for him. When he smiles, I can feel he is honest and it comes from the heart and , indeed, he is very ‘aggressive’ in obtaining the next date :D, but I don’t see it that way. I like him for that, I also like to have things clear and to plan ahead. And this also gives me a feeling of security. When he has an accomplishment, he always makes celebrating with me number 1… I am being surprised and I am so happy every single day. After every date with him I am so excited that I go biking in town at full speed or jump around in one spot haha. it’s really childish, but I’ve never felt this way before. Indeed these boys are shy, but contrary to that they are so determined to get what they want! It is so amazing! And behind those blushing shy cheeks and the silent calculated person, there is a golden heart and it’s so warm… you can’t help but smile. I know I do!
Thx for the info about white and Asian guys! I’m an Asian girl and I prefer white guys(since I’m still young:)). I might change my opinion when I mature and have more experience on guys. I don’t mind their penis size. The first thing I look for in men is good character and how they treat girls. Secondly, I care about looks.(which most girls do) But I don’t see a problem with that.:) It’s just my opinion. I really hope to have experiences with dating cause I never had.(I know it’s rare and with all that I said.) But still.
Does all of your insults revolve around race and stereotypes? I thought this site is suppose to help asian women not give them a bad name.
You can’t generalise a race by assuming every individual has the same characteristics as the men you have dated. How they are as a person really depends on their personality, beliefs and how they might have been raised. Your article is biased and racist! For your information Asian men are not boring and don’t lack confidence, take this advice from a Caucasian girl who has probably had more dating experience with both Asian and white guys than you!
very true
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that stereotype about small hands/feet is nonsense. My feet are average and my hands are small but my size is over 7.5″ and a bit fat (i’m white and I lied about .5″ to moderately boost my ego).
Proportions are only slightly relevant but there is a gene that affects penis size and there are random changes during embryonic development that also plays a role. Anyway, if a girl turns me down based on my hands, that’s really for the better because she must be quite the bimbo, quite the gaping vagina.
BTW, I wouldn’t date any kind of girl who is proud of dating “all the colors of the rainbow”. Not simply because you would be a poor life-partner, but for the cold hard fact you’re more likely to have STDs.
Why do Asians who “dated” a black guy suddenly think white guys are going to want to jump their bones? This seems to happen to me when I go out to bar. I would have some faith in an sexually aggressive asian girl but 9 times out of 10, she went black and wants to “try out” the white meat like she’s going shopping. Well hell no! I had black roommates before and they were all Tiger Woods wannabes, they have no goals (except the BS they tell women) but to find another hole to stick it in each night and it doesn’t even matter how grotesque, slutty, or old the girl can be if she’s not black. And they seemed like decent guys to people who didn’t live with them and see the trash they bring home every night.
So in effect, you’re really sleeping with the entire HOOD and therefore I wouldn’t touch you with a 10 foot pole. Taste the STD rainbow is more like it. They play that “pity me because I’m black and sensitive”, unlike those wild white boys you see in the cliche college movies. “Let’s just fight the racism baby”. BUUUUUULLL SHIIIIIIITTTTTT! It’s not racist for me to profile your character if it affects my health. Our health is the only true treasure we have in this world. Hopefully the tramp-stamped hoes won’t procreate so we can evolve our way out of this mess.
I have to agree with NancyLee’s point about younger Asian females dating White and moving more toward Asian guys as she gets more serious. It’s not easy being an Asian female in this society, at least in New York. On the one hand they are regarded as sexy and desirable and then on the other hand they’re regarded as property, sex objects and easy to push around.
On more than one occasion I’ve acted the knight in shining armor when I witnessed a sweet Asian girl being picked on by a rude conductor or clerk. I’ve had to get in the offender’s face and show them that their behavior is completely unacceptable and will not be tolerated. I hate it when rude idiots get out of line.
While we’re on the subject, some may think me superficial and maybe I am to a certain degree. I like my girls to be attractive. But I have noticed that some Asian females who aren’t that physically attractive, have really stepped up their game such as in personality, charm, sense of humor and are able to chat up a fair number of subjects. This is something I really haven’t noticed about other races of females.
Or maybe I was too superficial to even give them a shot. Yes I’ve noticed that a good amount of not that pretty, Asian girls are confident and bubbly and have the cajones to approach me and chat me up. Maybe it’s a race thing with them; they figure that since I’m Asian too, that they can feel more homey with me and be all kumbya and what not.
Whatever, I always come away with the feeling that that was a nice girl and don’t mind in the least spending time with her.
As an Asian male I have always been fascinated by these topics. Keep it up even though many Asian sites have respondents roll their eyes and say, Not this topic again! Secretly, they are interested also.
So yes, I’ve dated a few females from all backgrounds; Irish, French, Jewish, Italian, Pinay, Latinas, African American, West Indian and tons of Asian girls, of course; Mandarin, Cantonese, Korean, Thai, Japanese, FOBs and American born and Hapas too. Thing is, I’ve been told I’m the quiet type. I think a lot has to do with perceptions.
Nonetheless, my being (Quiet) hasn’t prevented me from dating my butt off. Peeps are going off old stereotypes. I don’t like to be loud and rowdy although sometimes I am considering the company I’m with. Some dates I’ve had bring out the natural comedian in me and my wit comes through time after time.
But I do think that I’m a little shy. It has cost me many, many possible dates. In New York City, everyone takes the trains and buses and it’s these encounters where perfectly charming, attractive and outright Hotties have given me the eye but I don’t approach. I just flirt back by giving them the eye also. In New York, the females outnumber the males so maybe I take that for granted.
That’s not to say that I haven’t approached total strangers on the bus or train. I have but maybe I should step it up because there are so many desirable types that ride the happy transits of New York!
ok first of all, i would like to say you have double standard.
Why im saying this? You want to say that asian/black/white are all equal but at the same time you are racist because you are generalizing these races ONLY based on your dating experience. There are hundreds of millions of white men out there, why do you generalize all of them just because you dated like, 5-10 white men? Seriously? There are maybe almost a billion asian men worldwide and how could you generalize all of them just because you have dated several asian men?
Let me say it like this. If there are 7 indians raped your daughter, would you write “indians like to rape”? That’s called logical fallacy.
Secondly, you mentioned there that you have dated both INFECTED asian and white men. By the word INFECTED, i’m quite sure you are INFECTED yourself. Why im saying this? Because there’s no stupid guy who will have sex with you while he’s having herpes outbreak/HPV outbreak. Most guys would WAIT until he’s clear of his herpes outbreak then have sex again. Of course when he has no symptom you wouldn’t be suspicious of his infection then you still have sex with him. Boom, the next day, a blister appear. That’s how you know if you have STD. Considering that you have confessed some of your ex-es had infections, DEFINITELY you are infected yourself.
My third and final point, regarding feet and hand size as comparison to penis size. This is ridiculous as well. I agree with a statement from someone here who says his hands are average but his penis is big. I mean that’s quite common. Have you ever heard the biggest penis ever measured? It belongs to a 170cm Dutchman and his hands are just very average (instead of very big). I have also seen the shortest penis ever measured which is just about 1.5″ and his hands unfortunately are a bit big (it’s a 30 something white man and he’s tall too). so stereotyping penis size based on hand/feet size shows another logical fallacy from you.
my conclusion is, you stereotype everyone just based on your dating experience. What a double standard. and please, get your blood tested. Seriously, nobody wants your herpes or hepatitis
Seriously all you asian females are just purely sluts…….You want to satisfy your lust with white guys and then come to asian guys.I wish all asian guys realize,that you all asian females are just sluts,not worth of their time.
As an east Asian woman I can assert that most Asian women prefer East Asian men and not interested in white Caucasian men at all!
However, westerners have the wrong concept opposite to the above probably because of the Hollywood movies that used to promote white males and deteriorate Asian males, and many abnormal Asian women such as Wendy Deng, Bai Ling etc. who obviously couldn’t get any loves from Asian men & have no room in the Asian societies, went to western countries like America, Australia, Canada, UK etc. to cheat some dump ugly white Caucasian old farts for living and to attract attention from people, unfortunately they never realised how bad they’ve made other Asians look!
Can you see that those arrogant(but pathetic) white men, as you can see no matter in the US, Thailand or Hong Kong, can only date poor dark skin Asian hookers who are normally not considered pretty or attractive?
To the author of this article: This is, no offense, quite possibly one of the worst interracial dating articles I’ve ever read. You said you’d address the stereotypes, yet you seem to believe several yourself.
“…dorky white me[n] are just happy to date any female. They just think an Asian girl will give them the time of day…”
Um, no. As a dorky white man with Autism who’s been socially blacklisted, despite holding a steady IT job for well over 5 years, being athletic and possessing a college degree; I will not be happy to date “any female.” The fact I might be socially impaired doesn’t mean I don’t have standards. I also don’t date Asian women because I perceive them to be more receptive. In my experience, Asian girls tend to be very arrogant and can often be gold diggers. Asian males, you have my sincerest condolences here.
“Be prepared to be a rebound from a bad experience they had with a white woman or retaliation towards women in general. Some have been rejected too many times from a white woman and want to take it out on the “submissive” Asian. It could also be a trend.”
While this does not apply to me at all, this could be true in some cases albeit I imagine such would be a very rare case. Like it or not, interracial dating is becoming commonplace. I doubt it will be a “trend” however, more like the norm.
“Also, Asian men think I’m their property and that it should be a given that I will go out with them, whether or not I’m attracted to them.”
I just had to LOL here. I’ve seen lots of Asian guys who are extremely Westernized and would never date Asian girls (unless perhaps they also are very Westernized), especially in the emo/screamo scene.
In any case; I’ll take your journalism, as awful as it is, with a grain of salt. I would hope you’re not anywhere near as evil as this article portrays you as being. Then again, if you are in fact this evil… I’ll say it again. “Asian men, you have my sincerest condolences here.”
And with said, I bid ye all a merry farewell.
finally, someone’s telling it like it is.
Rico Suave,
I agree with you 100%. I’m asian btw and I’m tired of these whining f-ers complaining and blaming the girls or someone else for their lack of game. I’ve been doing pretty much what you mentioned, gym & confidence will boost any guys stock. Throw in a lil GQ swag and you’ll have a good amount of resumes to select from. Just sayin and speaking from experience.
One: Unless you’ve dated every Asian and White male on the planet this is only your opinion.
Two: I’m not your sexual adventure. I wouldn’t date any woman who is just looking to have sex with me, I don’t like to be used. Some of these confused White guys may like that, but I don’t.
Three: Black women are the future.
Oh yeah, Asian women need to work on their class. I recently saw a porno of some Asian chick getting fucked by a bunch of aboriginals, that’s disgusting.
The dude in that picture isn’t white,
Wtf?
Asian guys are only as boring as asian females, we are from the same culture and same part of the world. And I am not a damn whine bottle, enjoy me while I am young or gtfo.
This website suck, it should be renamed to disconnect asian male from the world.
Can I slap your mother?
I could say the same for you, you sound like an asian dude who just logged onto a computer for the first time, stupid fucking troll.
*Face Palm*
You sound stuck up, I’m surprised you can even get a date.
“but I’m usually not with them long enough to figure it out.”
“If you’re young, you will probably be happy playing around with a white man and appreciate an Asian man as you mature, like a fine wine.”
Nah, I don’t think so. This should be eye opening to asian and white men. I don’t like to be “played” with.
Asian women are disgusting and shallow, they’re just like white women, manipulative users.
YOU ARE A MORON!
Asian and White women are gold diggers, they are not marriage material. They only care about money.
The guy in that photo is not white.
Asian women = Shallow gold diggers.
White women = Shallow gold diggers.
If you want an Asian or White woman do what everyone else does, buy one.
I don’t know which is more stuck up, white or asian.
U mAd BrO?
I WOULD NEVER DATE YOU, AND NEITHER SHOULD ANY OTHER WHITE GUY, YOU’RE A SHALLOW USER!!!
You know nothing about white men.
The person in that picture isn’t white.
THE GUY IN THAT PICTURE ISN’T WHITE!!
I wouldn’t date you.
The dude that picture isn’t white, look at his hair. He looks mixed or jewish or something.
Yeah, you don’t know what you’re talking about.
THE END IS NEAR!
You mad, bro?
You don’t know what you’re talking about, you got this entire thing wrong.
You’re clueless.
Have you dated every Asian and White guy on the planet?
The guy in that photo isn’t white.
Im willing to bet big $$$ that…. the poster of this article dates a white man.
I think the only point that the author of this article got out to the world is that she is a whore.
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Stay away from white men you nasty asian cunt hoar. U are not good enough for them. I’m so sick of seeing you nasty mail order brides with our men
I am an Asian male that doesn’t fall into the stereotypes you’ve listed. So plainly:
“Bitch shut up and take out a pencil.”
Truthfully I would not date any girl regardless of race had I known she takes such stereotypes into consideration. It is bad-mannered, ignorant, and forthright intolerable. Looks like your name is Nancy Lee, Guys watch out for that one.
I can’t stand for all the guys out there (simply b/c not every guy out there is the same), but theres something in common allot of guys look for in a gal. And that’s class. No, you can’t buy it. And no, you don’t have it.
The classy gals are on page 16 of the mail order catalogue……
What the hell. I’m a dark skin asian, South Asian- Bangladeshi to be exact. I never see any south asian girls chasing after white guys for green cards, wealth, and re-marrying other white guys just to climb social ladders and have babies who would look less asian. Only you shameless east asian women do such things, not us “dark skin asians” as you put it. So keep your arrogant BS comments to yourself. You east asian women deserve the disgusting stereotypes you all have, because out of all the women in the world, you all are the only ones openly-willing to chase white men (with the illusion that all white guys are apparently chasing you) to have your mixed babies and aquire wealth so you can purchase your designer purses, clothes, shoes, and eyelid surgeries that is rampant in your cultures. Most of you east asian women are so vain. Sad thing is, you do all this at the expense of your own asian men, who are actually patient with all your dissing.
So please shut up with the “dark skin” asians chasing white guys. Complete BS. White guys are a bunch of sperm donors and credit cards to you east asian skanky girls, so YOU chase them. NOT US!!!
Im a white guy and this article was plain offensive and bullshit but unfortunately it is the opinion of a lot of Asian woman I have come across. I’ve been on a few dates with Asian woman and your not the only one who is only too happy to oblige to sex on the first date and usually I’m not even the one who brings it up first, which is fun but also screams not girlfriend material. White woman that I’ve dated, at least the attractive ones anyway are usually more of a challenge and I find it easier to connect with them as well. I’m all for interracial dating but recently I’m finding that I’m most attracted to girls of my own race. This article has done nothing to change my opinion.
i want to know a asian girl. please find me at facebook like gabriel alvarado, i have a green car “mitsubitshi lancer
Sounds like the women that wrote this piece and the women that commented on are just sluts!!
If you wrote an atircle about life we’d all reach enlightenment.
You put the lime in the concuot and drink the article up.
Asian girls are hotter!
asian men are the best !!! i couldn’t have any experience with white men, i do not like them and would never try ! NO MEN COULD BE HOTTER THAN ASIAN BOYS <3
You did well for a non-native English speaker! I don’t look like any of the referenced “hotties” in your list but if you want an “older gentleman”, a nod is as good as a wink…..tickle my fever….ha!
I’m not a native English speaker.
I know what you want to hear but you couldn’t choose who you are attract to. Men feel insecure as well not only women. That’s why there’s this post. Men don’t like and couldn’t to be compared. Women can answer this question very well because if she like what she sees or not men but you will know from her mouth or not she will never tries to tell you straightforward to hurt your feeling, make you feel unattractive and bad about yourself. I’ve been reading so many posts like this for a while. I’ve seen a lot of men cyber warriors that say whatever he can to protect and defend himself. Speaking of hate. It shows a quite well about him that what kind of person he is and what men fear, worry and maturity…
It seems men ask each other and try to convince each other and say that whatever men look is not the most important. If any women think only about that she is superficial and not good and then use the words as a tool to insult women who speaks about men she likes and men she finds attractive. There’s nothing wrong about it women get compared by men and other women all the time and it’s ok you don’t need to be the best looking guy.
I think beauty is the eye of the beholder but beauty mean nothing if you have bad personality. Beauty attracts attention but personality attracts the heart.
I’m a woman and If we’re talking about appearance only. I think, white guys are hotter and more physically attractive. There’re more variety in the eyes colors and hair colors in Caucasian men.
I don’t need a man who have lot of money. It’s doesn’t matter to me at all because I have money of my own and I don’ need men who swear all the time and insecure either but just someone with a nice heart and my type. I pick white men 100 % percent.
http://www.imdb.com/list/DPaSYGXJdKM/
For example,
Chris Hemsworth
Channing Tatum
Ryan Phillippe
Ian Somerhalder
she’s retarded if she wants a bigger penis than why does’nt she go for blacks, Pakistanis, or Arabs
I have dated Asian and Caucasian women. The Americanized Asians will sleep with you usually on the 1st date. Or definitely, by the third date. The Asians that are FOB will wait a long time. Caucasian women are not as slutty as the Americanized Asians. Also a few of the Americanized Asians admitted that they have slept with 50 – 100 guys. That sounds like a lot.
Extremely true I’m dating one right now, I might end up actually going out with him but its only been 4 days hahaha that says alot dont u think 😉
You are an idiot. Congrats.
Lol. Tell that idiot to challenge a martial artist like Bruce Lee…
yes because whites treat their women with so much respect, that’s why there’s a nude white girl on every single ad huh?
Keep in mind that asian women consider good looking asian men as superior to any white man, which is why the hottest asian women always go for them. Its just human nature
My origin is Indian, (India) born and bred in the UK. I know this discussion is Asian v White, as Indians are part of Asia I thought I’d contribute my opinion. I don’t have much experience with dating but will definitely tell you this, the white guys are much respectful whereas the Indian guys have tried to get me into a hotel room asap. I feel the white guys will love unconditionally minus all the drama and politics that comes with the Indian guys. I’ve only had one relationship with a white guy but recently have been dating Indian guys and have been repeatedly disappointed. I just have a stereotypical view of Indian guys being perverts! I’m sure there are plenty of good Indian guys out there but I’ve yet to meet them
First of all, those two guys in the picture
Left: Not white.
Right: Not Asian.
Note: Indians(next to Pakistan) are definitely not Asians, they are their own. Scientifically they are Caucasians.
Let’s compare with real white and real Asian(north Asians – China Korea Japan) next time.
They are not Asian! Asian power rule world!
Those actually aren’t real stereotypes. for example, stereotypes for good looking asian men are: superior to white men, top of the food chain in eyes of asian women, always date/marry the upper echelon of asian women, not boring and cookie cutter like white men.
and for the record, most white men are actually ugly/average at best, thus, they wouldn’t even be able to own their own white women.
Good Asian women preferred dating with a cool Asian guys. Good white man always get bad Asian women. Bad Asian women often have a secret bad Asian husband…
That’s what I see most of the time.
Asian guys are just assholes, that’s why I’m half white, and my handsome white father is such an awesome guy who is successful in his career and offers his family a lot of happiness and financial support, unlike asian guys that love their gambling and opium. My father is also rich but gives most of his money away to the needy. I dated Asian guys and they’re boring, selfish, rude, violent, old fashioned (in a bad way), shy, racist and (ESPECIALLY to mixed asian) broke. Black or white guys make great dates, and are spontaneous, adventurous and more intelligent. They also make beautiful children and are better at sex (they are also larger downstairs). There’s more passion there and you truly feel special. One day the asian male population will die out because of the way they are ! Asian guys are for the ugly boring women, have fun with that small limp ol D !
Hateful Racist bigot
Racist bigoted pig
Oh you shut it lady! Asian women are number one in prostitution world wide you freak of nature! And millions post online to marry a American man! Heck! Half of China town in America is run through underground prostitution rings!
I agree with this poster. Asian men scammed $35,000 of my life savings and ran. From my experience, Asian men are scheming, back-stabbing, abusive, and angry.
My sister is married to an Asian man who frequently abuses her. Every holiday, on my family get together, we have to endure through my sister’s husband mistreating her. We can’t do anything about it because my sister keeps on saying she is fine. She lives such a miserable, boring, and distraught life with her abusive, loser husband. No clue why she married him in the first place. He is shorter than my sister with a flat face and smells of fart most times.
Every holiday is a misery to have to witness this ugly Asian man abusing my sister.
You’re half white BECAUSE Asian guys are assholes? That had to have dropped my IQ at least a half point as I shake my head and roll my eyes. This has got to be some of the sloppiest, half-assed, and needlessly arrogant generic word vomit I wasted forty five seconds wading through. I would describe it as humorous, except that this is symptomatic of our public educational system.
The overall content seems not in focus with dating, but a comparison of asian males from white.
Not all Asians are like that, although I agree that guy should die. But that’s only one Asian. If I based my opinions of a race on only person, then that means that black people will most likely beat their wife ( http://www.cnn. com/2014/09/09/us/ray-rice-nfl-janay-rice/ ) or white people care more about video games rather than their own child ( http://m.nydailynews. com/news/crime/florida-man-kills-6-year-old-son-crushing-sofa-article-1.2482822. ).
Does this mean that all black and white men are bad? Absolutely not, the creator of the Google Industry is white and the current president of the United States is black. But again, not all black and white men are like that. My point is that you can’t just catagorize an entire race like how you did.
White man are so disgusting! All they think about is sex and sticking their dick in any hole they find. Accepting the Center of Disease and Control, WHITE MEN have a:
1) 50% higher rates of cancer, which will be passed on to your children.
2) Significantly higher rates of STDs than Asians
Also, White men don’t give a fuck about family, all they do is think of themselves. They’ll gladly throw their mom and dad in an old folks home because they’re “TOO ANNOYING”.
BTW, WTF is with WHITE MEN having so many allergies and mental illness. Inawaysnhear WHITE men with erictle distinction or deadly allergic to a nut!
Are all white people crazy? White kids shoot up schools, rape college girls and are a racist!
It’s no surprise WHITE WOMAN hate WHITE MEN. It’s cause they are fucken pathetic!
Oh geez. You really should kill yourself as all other white bitches are doing. Good for your family life you annoying rude cunt.
I can see most of these posts are by Asian men like that’s so hard to tell