Sophia Abella detonated T-bombs: Making healthy choices in crazy sexy life

My thoughts are this. I live by these. Truth, Love, Time and Choice. I believe in all four and think they are some of the most powerful things, ideas or feelings we have or can give.

TRUTH: we all strive to get it, it is hard to give sometimes and often times it hurts but we respect it when we get it. We have all lied, not been truthful with someone we hold dear and eve though we know we are wrong we still did it. We strive to be truthful in our lives but most times we fail. Most importantly the truth of yourself. Do we really know ourselves. There is some truth in that. It builds strength, it breaks you down and it shows you your inner self the problem is most people aren’t honest enough with themselves to admit who their inner selves really are. They are scared of it, scared of what others would think and judge them. Being truthful with your self is the most important. To truly understand yourself in all situations, to really understand those weaknesses and strengths.

LOVE: the most precious, and powerful emotion that exists. To love someone truly and deeply, with all their faults, strength and weaknesses. To accept them and embrace them. Friend, enemy, relative, wife, children whoever. There is nothing more powerful. Love is blind and makes everything more beautiful. Love of ones self is even more important. Just like truth about yourself.. being able to love yourself. To truly know that you are a worthy person no matter what you find your faults to be. Knowing that no matter what another person says or does you know that you are beautiful and you love that about yourself. There is some selfishness in loving oneself and selfishness isn’t a bad thing… as long as it is not wholly narcissistic and selfishness. No one will ever love you more than you and you should understand how to love yourself so that you can share that with others.
TIME: the most precious gift you can give to anyone. You can never get it back, it can’t be given away and it will be remembered. If you buy your child something nice and expensive for their birthday, they will remember that for a few months, perhaps a few years.. but take them to the park and play ball with them or give them your time and effort to enjoy that time and they will remember it for the rest of their lives. Your lover will always remember the nice trips and gifts but the time you give to her will mean more than anything. Giving your time and really giving that time says that you mean so much to me that I’ll devote my time to you and I want you to have this gift from me… because you mean that much to me.

CHOICE: I’m religious but I do believe that everything happens for a reason, just not an intelligent destiny sort of reason. I think there is an action and a reaction, a consequence and a reaction that consequence. Everything is a choice… the action was choice in some way and the reaction was choice. These may not always be thought out choices but your brain made some sort of choice regardless. When we are faced with a situation that we say I had no choice I always disagree. You had at least two choices… one of them was just better than the other. If a car crashes into another car… there was choice that was made… small insignificant choices led that car to be in that exact spot at that exact time… physics did the rest… what you do after impact is a choice. Did you wear a seat belt, is your seat to close to the steering wheel, did you lock the doors, did you buy a car with safety glass… all choices… physics does the rest based upon those choices and the laws of physics. A person cannot chose who he or she falls in love with… but they can decide what they do about it. They can walk away if they chose. Life is one choice after another… mostly insignificant choices but they are always there… and our lives are slave to them.

These are some of the things I live by and constantly remind myself of. It is my choice to give my time to someone and to allow myself to open up to them and be loved by them. My choice to be truthful with them and with myself. My friends are my choice. We all meet people everyday that call us friends but I vary rarely call people friends. There are a lot of people that i know but few I consider a real friend. I keep them close to my heart and let them know that their friendship means a lot to me. I tell them why they are my friend.
Have a nice day and enjoy whatever you are doing!