SMS Short Messaging kills your Giant
Casual electronic notes have become a mammoth part of dating, and experts speculate that SMS shorthand have surpassed actual phone calls between many couples. So it’s no wonder why you can find yourself with an itchy text-messaging trigger finger or thumbs, rather when in the paroxysm of new love. But beware: There’s such a thing as too much texting – what you might call TMT. “Overdoing it can flame guys out. “They feel pressured into sending an instantaneous response.”
There are several scenarios where texting can throttle a relationship before it’s barely gotten off the ground:
After your first few dates. It may be tempting to contact a guy after an amazing date, but resist the goad. “Reaching out lessens the thrill and excitement of the chase for him.
When you’re drunk. Since Blackberry or iPhone don’t come with Breathalyzers, it’s up to you to hitch yourself from sending a tipsy text message — especially one that suggests you two meet up ASAP. “Being extra available lets a guy know he has all the leverage.
When you’re angry. It’s pain in the ass when a guy snowbirds, but texting a “Why haven’t you called me yet?!” inquiry makes you look massively apprehensive. Avoid enrage text messaging once you’re in a relationship . “When it’s in keypads, you can’t easily take it back. It’s even quick-witted to ban bitchy-provocative humor, which can sound meaner than it is.
When you’re trying to be funny. “When conveyed nonverbally, sarcasm and jesting can come off as aggressive. A guy could read a message like “OMG, you were out of control last night” literally, which makes you sound pissed when you were actually just fondly remembering his funny behavior.
When you’ve already texted him that day. Once you’re in an ongoing relationship, you may be decoyed to rely on texting as a regular way of communication, and there’s nothing wrong with staying in touch that way once in a while. But electronic form deprives phone conversations and face-to-face time. Also, guys like brief updates, not a blow-by-blow of your life.
Each passing day, you will become stronger and one day you will learn.