First Date Gone Bad
After 6 months of being accosted at bars, events, even work related functions, I longed for a nice old fashioned date. Last week, I finally found myself out to dinner, sitting across from a handsome, successful gentlemen on a 51st floor terrace, enjoying the most magnificent salmon, overlooking the most breathtaking park. It was one of the most beautiful nights. I was getting a little tipsy from the $500 bottle of wine and I thought I could not ask for anything more.
“So are you going to f*ck me or what?”, he said as my perfect night screeched to a halt like a record being ripped off its record player.
I was taken aback.
“Excuse me? This is our first date? Why did you just have to ruin it?” I said as my buzz began to subside.
“Well this dinner is expensive. Do you think I take EVERY girl out like this?” he replied.
Since when did dinner become a ticket for a lay? Did I come across as some prostitute?
“Did I come across as some hooker?”, I asked
I also don’t just bang anything I find attractive. And there are other things that are important like this beautiful weather and this bottle of wine..oh and me.
“No, not at all. Quite the opposite actually. I find you attractive, you find me attractive. I’m very sexual. I need sex. Don’t you need it too? ”
”Um yes I need it too, but I’m not an animal. I can control it. I also don’t just bang anything I find attractive. And there are other things that are important like this beautiful weather and this bottle of wine..oh and me.”
“Is that a no?” he asked.
“If I was going to have to spread my legs and blow you for a dinner, I would have stopped at the drinks and saved myself a few calories no matter how many I would’ve worked off in the boom boom room”.
“Ohhhhhh…boom boom room. That’s kind of turning me on…”
“Don’t you want to get to know a woman?” I asked.
“Well I’m not looking for a relationship right now. And if I was, sex is the most important part of a unity. If you’re not having good sex, what’s the point in continuing a relationship. Eventually the initial excitement will wear off. I’ll need a woman who’s going to be able to keep it going, not matter how long we stay together.
Sounds like he needs a hooker at your beck and call.
“Please don’t flatter yourself. I wasn’t looking for a relationship with you, yet.” I stated.
Whatever happened to picking up a female, taking her out on a date, paying for the bill, then dropping her off or putting her in cab home…WITHOUT trying to jump her bones?
He did come across as a keeper, but I wasn’t banking my new pair of Louboutin’s on it.
Based on my New York City dating experience so far, “too good to be true” is usually, “too good to be true”. BINGO! This guy was too good to be true.
“After this behavior, there’s 100% chance you won’t be seeing me again. IT’S OUR FIRST DATE!” I started getting irritated.
“Jesus Christ. I’m so out of here. Don’t worry, I’ll catch my own cab!” I yelled.
Whatever happened to picking up a female, taking her out on a date, paying for the bill, then dropping her off or putting her in cab home…WITHOUT trying to jump her bones? Is that too much to ask? And on a FIRST Date? How did my knight in shining armor turn into a smushy douche bag?
Have we, as women, really become valued based on our sexual performance and/or willingness to utilize all 3 orifices? Is it just New York City men or other Metropolitan men in the US? Who raises these men? Did their mother die? Were they raised by apes? Did they learn this from one of their classless buddies who “appears” to get all the chicks? It is not like this in Boston. Has the value of intelligent, educated and moral women just disappeared? Have they been replaced by women who suck and fuck at the drop of a dime, while sexually up for anything?
Is this how it’s going to be dating in New York City? Is this something I’m just going to have to accept in the dating world of a single 27 year old female? If so, I’m heading back to Beantown very soon!!!
Nancy Lee is a new dating and relationship, sex columnist. She will be writing on her experiences throughout her dating career. A recent graduate of Boston University, Nancy has seen it all. The purpose of her column is to educate and inform young women, through her own life experiences, on the trials and tribulations of being a young woman in today’s dating world. Nancy hopes to connect with the readers and hopes the women (and men) can identify with her experiences. Hey – “ It’s hard out there for a pimp! She looks forward to your feedback. Name changed for obvious identity purposes. Leave your own Christmas Men stories below. If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to leave at the bottom or send her a private email at nancy@asiancemagazine.com
Why is it every negative article in the Sex and relationship section of this stupid white washed magazine (written by suppose Asian American women) always have an Asian male pictured? Couldn’t find a douche bag white knight to use? I can think of a few on top of my head: 1) Ray Clark III, 2) Brian Lee Randone.
Seriously, this stupid magazine is run by loser Cracker/Joo boys who hire these Cracker worshipping Asian females to write these asian male bashing article oor pictures.
are the ones who speak this crudely about Asian women. “They’re pussies are so tight.” “They love my White cock.” “Its so easy to bang these Asian bitches.”
Seriously WTF?? Every negative article shows a woman with an Asian guy.
“So are you going to f*ck me or what?”, he said as my perfect night screeched to a halt like a record being ripped off its record player.
Only White guys talk this crudely. Look, if you want to reinforce stereotypes then why not mention the one how the White man views Asian women as their fuck dolls and put up a picture of a WHITE guy. This is their main point when they talk about dating Asian women. Either that or killing them. Yes you Ray Clark. You too Brian Randone. And you Isaac Campbell.
Yeah he was a white guy. But honestly, I get it from all nationalities. Once I met an African American guy at Marquee (thru an introduction) and he grabbed my hand and put it down his pants.
Case closed.
The reason why this magazine does this is to get a rise out of Asian guys, man. Just leave it be and let it fade into obsucurity.
I never understood why Asian men don’t date outside their race. Who cares about continuing your culture? It takes two to tango and it’s very obvious that Asian women don’t care so why should you? It’ll eventually die out anyway, fellas. Sheesh.
Asian men will say that it’s because non-Asian women won’t date them. Pfft to that. I say that there is a reason for that: they believe that Asian men don’t find them attractive and only chase after Asian women so they don’t bother mingling with you. That’s a fact.
Is it a hurdle? Sure. Does it make a huge difference? Nope. It’s like saying “Man, I would have won that 5 mile race if I was 2 pounds lighter.”
Take it from me, an Asian guy who’s been in a great relationship with a white/Latin woman. Three of her friends are now dating Asian American guys and never looked back.
Asian women have pushed me into becoming the perfect man for a non-Asian woman. I suggest you do it too.
Empower yourself, not Asian women. The more you lash out like this, the more Asian women will realize they have power over you and exploit it…like this article.
The reason why this magazine does this is to get a rise out of Asian guys, man. Just leave it be and let it fade into obsucurity.
I never understood why Asian men don’t date outside their race. Who cares about continuing your culture? It takes two to tango and it’s very obvious that Asian women don’t care so why should you? It’ll eventually die out anyway, fellas. Sheesh.
Asian men will say that it’s because non-Asian women won’t date them. Pfft to that. I say that there is a reason for that: they believe that Asian men don’t find them attractive and only chase after Asian women so they don’t bother mingling with you. That’s a fact.
Is it a hurdle? Sure. Does it make a huge difference? Nope. It’s like saying “Man, I would have won that 5 mile race if I was 2 pounds lighter.”
Take it from me, an Asian guy who’s been in a great relationship with a white/Latin woman. Three of her friends are now dating Asian American guys and never looked back.
Asian women have pushed me into becoming the perfect man for a non-Asian woman. I suggest you do it too.
Empower yourself, not Asian women. The more you lash out like this, the more Asian women will realize they have power over you and exploit it…like this article.
“Why is it every negative article in the Sex and relationship section of this stupid white washed magazine (written by suppose Asian American women) always have an Asian male pictured?”
Well, they couldn’t very well put up a picture of a White boy now could they? It’s politically incorrect to tarnish the image of the Great White Hype.
And just check out the names of the people that own or oversee this magazine to find out whose perspective it’s pimping.
It’s lifestyles of the rich, White, and vacuous (and their Oriental imitators).
Think of this magazine as a trip to the travelling circus where you get to glimpse into how all the freakshows live. LOL.
Stop being such a hoity toity bitch.
Women need to STOP playing their bullshit “Games”! It’s no wonder men are going after Asian women and leaving you in the dust! We’re sick and tired of having to “play games” just to get women interested because that’s all you respond to!
Yeah he went about it all wrong, but he was honest! He spent a butt load of money to make you happy and comfortable. You think money grows on trees?? NO… he worked hard for that money; that now went to shit because you think that would make you a “whore”.
Women admire a man that is confident in the odds that his efforts within a date will pay back in the appropriate time frame. He was insecure and rushed it and made himself quite unappealing as a mate/date. Look you can buy all the expensive dinners in the world but it doesn’t mean you’re going to get a blow job at the end of the night. Everything went to shit because he was a petty, horny coward with ill-intentions from the get-go. If all he wanted to do was pound an orifice he should have explicitly told her so before buying spending his cash. He has only himself to blame.