Real Asian Woman Vs. Scam Artist
If there is one thing that causes me to feel like giving up on meeting an Asian woman for a serious relationship, it has got to be the fact that out of every 100 I talk to, 100 of them turn out to be scammers. Some are better at hiding it up front, but then reveal their true motives immediately as I send them an email address for them to reach me privately (which is why I don’t send my main contact info with my messenger ID until I know for sure. Which, sadly, hasn’t happened yet).
I’m starting to get very weary of this. So far, online connections haven’t worked, and have actually been a source of much grief for me. Since I am going to Korea next year to teach, I would at least like to make some friends there before I go, but even that seems to be close to impossible.
So I wonder – is there really such a thing as a beautiful, funny, smart and loyal Asian woman who is interested in a westerner and looking online? So far, my research says “no.”
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I am surprised to hear that you think all Asian women are scam artists. How do you know they are scam artists? They just don’t answer you?
Women are women and women are people. Being Asian doesn’t make a woman/person less intelligent, funny, loyal or beautiful 😛 ~Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the idea of what is funny varies from person to person, and there are many different types of intelligence (IQ, emotional intelligence ect). Not to mention, people may have different ideas about what they consider to be loyal. It might be a good idea to ask a person that you’re interested in what they are looking for in a relationship and what they consider cheating to be. I consider cheating to be a physical thing, but other people have different opinions.
Sometimes you can look for something so hard that you can’t find what you’re after, even when it’s right in front of you. Or, when you get what you were looking for, you find it’s not quite what you were after in the first place. My advice would be to stop looking and focus on making friendships and getting to know people in the country you’re planning to teach in- as well as learning about Korean cultures and languages ^_^
It will help you be able to communicate with other people as best as possible and help get you through/prevent things like culture shock. The more people you get to know, the more chance there are that you’ll find a woman that is special to you. Good luck! ^_^
Good advice!
Who wrote this anon? Is this the author? I don’t take anything personally!
Hiya, Methinee
If I had said “I think all Asian women are scam artists,” then I would expect you to be surprised, and even insulted (if you are Asian). But I never said that. : )
What I did say, is that so far, during my search online to meet genuine and honest Asian women, I have not found one who is not a scam artist. That doesn’t mean that they are all scammers, and it definitely doesn’t mean that I think all Asian women are scammers. That would mean words are being put into my mouth that I did not say, or mean to infer (suggest).
On the contrary, I believe that the Asian society as a whole has a different type of woman, which I view (based on my experience dating and being around women here) as better overall than dating American women. Not to say that there aren’t good American women, because I know that there are, but I believe that I would be really, really happy with an Asian wife for the rest of my days.
How do I know they are scammers? They start to tell me sob stories about how sick/ill their parents are, and how they have relocated to another country, and how they need money, and they ask me for all sorts of private information. Every single one I have talked to more than once has asked for these things. That is why I am frustrated. I am a really good man, I really am, and I know that the woman who marries me is getting a loving and caring man, who will always do everything in his power to show his love for her. So you see it’s hard for someone like me to have so much to offer, and yet I keep having people trying to scam me.
Right now, I’d be happy just to have a few good friends in Korea I can chat with regularly until I fly over next year.
I hope that clears up the misunderstanding, Meth. 🙂
The two comments below are actually mine – didn’t realize I wasn’t logged in!
Yes it was me, Meth 🙂
Sorry I didn’t realize I wasn’t logged in when I posted. I wanted to make sure that I didn’t offend you, or anyone else. I think Asian women are great! I know that Asian women aren’t scammers at all. I’m just frustrated with trying to meet friends online, that’s all. The people I meet on the internet keep asking for money and access to my email, passwords, etc, so I know they probably aren’t Asian women at all.
Great comments and advice, Anon. You are right – being Asian doesn’t make a women more beautiful/smart/funny/etc, because there are many women of all backgrounds who can be that. I just happen to really love many things about Asia, and the women just happen to be the main thing! I have one friend here who is from South Korea and she gives me good advice, but she doesn’t date anyone! lol Still not sure why.
As far as making friends in Korea, yes, that is the main thing that I’m trying to do right now. I don’t want to get over there and not know anyone. I would love to have several friends from online waiting for me when I got there! How great it would be to have people who already know me when I arrive.
I know that one day I’ll find the one I need to be with, and that doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll be Asian, it’s just that I’m very open to it being an Asian lady.
Thanks for the advice 🙂
Gotcha makes sense!
i agree with this
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I appreciate your comments, Meth, I really do; however, if you re-read my comments, you’ll see that I already said some of the exact things you said. I never said they were Asian at all; actually, I said they probably weren’t Asian. So I agree completely with you: “it’s just scammers on the internet.” See? We are in agreement.
And don’t be offended about titles until you look at what I’m saying. I’m not suggesting “Asian women are scammers.” When I say “Asian WomAN (singular) vs. Scam Artist,” what I am implying is this: “Is the person I am talking to a scam artist, or is it really an Asian woman?” Don’t be offended, Meth!
If I have not been able to explain myself to you clearly enough by now, there is no further need to try. I think that most people will agree that I have been rather plain and thorough with my explanation. Either way, I hope you understand now. : )
And just for the record: I DON’T get scammed. I’m not quite that incompetent (yet). However, it doesn’t keep people from trying to get my wampum anyway! As far as the affinity, it doesn’t have as much to do with me liking Asian women in particular, because this type of scam is rampant on the internet against men all over the world who are trying to find a sincere woman online, and not just Asian women. It’s everywhere.
I stress to you once again: don’t be offended. There is honestly nothing in my post that should be considered offensive. I encourage you to look at the overall context of my post, and not just a title. After all, the title itself is completely meaningless and makes no sense at all unless you read the post, so why be offended at something that makes no sense on its own?
Let’s just relax and learn from one another. There is too much grief already going around in this world for us to be adding more to the pile!
: )
-Brandon
honestly, I think it’s just scammers on the internet. I don’t think it has anything to do with Asian women. Therefore, your title Asian women vs scam artists offends me. How do you know for sure that the people you are speaking with ie, asking for credit cards, personal problems, etc are even Asian? Perhaps you are getting scammed due to the scammers knowing your affinity for Asian women.
OP, I’m not sure where you might be looking. When I was in Korea few years back, I used Koreafriendfinder and found some really nice people, both male and female. No scams there. That was like 7 years ago. So, it’s entirely possible that it has been overrun.
I think it all depends on where you’re looking. I’ve had people ask me similar questions, but they had all been looking on dating sites. I assume these are prime territory for someone looking to scam someone though.
Hope it all works out for you. If nothing else, once you get to Korea, get away from the “Americanized” areas a little bit. Find a friendly local to take you to the real Korea and your chances of meeting people with no ill intentions will increase.
I’d also like to add that there would be none of that scamming going on with this site. We monitor the users very closely and if we have any inclination of scamming/spamming, etc. we delete them right away!
Oops! Didn’t realize (yet again) that I wasn’t logged in when I posted! The other 2 comments were mine!
Thanks for the advice, Pillow. Trying to find some locals in Korea is what I hope to do, for sure. My desire has been to make some friends before I get over there, so I can “cushion” my fall once I arrive. I have also started studying Korean so that I can rely less on having to find people who understand English. In my travel experiences, I have found that people generally seem to warm up to a person who is at least trying to communicate in their language. Since I have quite a few months before I go, I’m hoping to get pretty decent with my Korean by the time I get there (it helps that I have a friend here from South Korea!).
I won’t let the bad seeds deter me, it just becomes discouraging sometimes. I know that Asians are great people and they have an amazing culture which I have loved since I was a child. I know that one day soon I’ll have formed some really strong and permanent friendships overseas. : )
That’s nice to know – many times it seems that these things are overlooked on most sites, or not dealt with efficiently enough. I joined the site because it seemed like a great place to connect with people from other cultures and exchange ideas and opinions, and to learn from people around the world.
Thanks! : )
Hey, I’m the 10:03 Anon lol
I’m glad my advice was helpful?
I hope you’ll have a wonderful time in Korea! ^_^
That’s okay lol ^_^
Lots of comments on this topic benglishtea!
Great! It’s nice to have a good discussion going. It’s a bonus when many people are giving some good insight and advice on the topic, as well. : )
LOL Hah! Perhaps I should do some more research and write a better article that can help people a bit more, so that they can be aware and protect themselves better.
Thanks for the thoughts on “fixing us up.” LoL I’m sorry to hear about your friend’s troubles, really. I never got scammed out of anything, and it definitely never went as far as that with me and anyone else. Thankfully, I can see it coming from a long way off, it’s just disappointing to have it happen so often.
hah! i just googled ‘asian women internet scam by US men’ and found your site! my friend in malaysia just called me, cried over the phone and said she has been scammed by this guy she met over the internet. She is such a nice sweet lady, really, but so naive and trusting..I mean, come on…they knew each other for less than a mth, and then he profess his love and proposed to her and said he was going to send her some gifts (she didnt ask for it), and then the parcel has arrived and cant be release until she paid $2k… anyway, i am not going into details..this is the second time she fell for the same trick, only with different men and different version of stories. Maybe i can fix u both up?! 🙂
haha you’re funny! Let’s fix them up!
My father has just been scammed by an Asian woman. He had met her and her husband many many years ago through a chance meeting. Some 5-7yrs later she phoned him crying poor due to her marriage break up. He felt very sorry for her and she scammed him for his money over a two year period. He has just recently died and she is now trying to go his estate. I don’t trust Asian women in general, sorry to those who think otherwise. My father is a very generous caring man and was taken advantage of due to his lonliness and now his family are paying the ultimate price. Not to mention there are other men she is taking advantage of……. I hear it happens all the time. From documents I have found she prostituted herself to him made him feel wanted and he paid her bills. Sorry state of affairs>>>
That is horrible. I’m sorry to hear that! I’ve heard about all kinds of women doing that, not just Asian…haven’t you?
This part of the world seems to be full of scam artists and tricksters….I have been living in Vietnam now for the last 3 years, and every time I deal with people here I hear the guy from “Casablanca” warning about how there are vultures everywhere….this is the truth here at least. Typically here they are after one thing….your money, and they get it by sending a pretty girl with a beautiful smile….later followed by a sad story, or a direct demand….I have had both. Added with this is the idea that you are seen as their ticket out of a third world hell, and into what they think is Disneyland…a Western Country.
I wish I could say that Vietnam is the only country with this problem, but I have had everything from Filipinos, to Russians, to Chinese, to any country not in the Western world. Really though I would say that 99% of Vietnamese here are scumbags just looking for easy money, since I guess the effort they put into robbing you to them seems less than actually working a job, there are those who do know how to act like normal people. I have met a few online, but really you have to be in country, where ever that may be, to find someone decent and normal. My advise though is be careful….the Asian world claims honor, morality, and integrity, but behaves very far from it….
hahahahahahahah lol
I thought that the only scam artist was Mitt Romney but he is not an Asian woman who is looking for a western man or at least I don’t think he is but who the hell knows these days?? Nothing surprises me anymore! People just aren’t who they claim to be today.
well i have been on a thai website, and they are all pretty good, in fact its the other way around on that site, because all the girl are very cautious and dont talk much because all the men they talk to just want sex and are not interested in a realationship. There are the ones that do talk but are extreemly worried about the sex thing, and they are usally not so good looking. Then good looking ones wont talk to me at all. And i am not that ugly, they just want a super hunk i suppose. But i have made a few reasonalby good looking friends on that site. Honest and genuine women. Lets face it everyone wants something. And they want to come to my country. But the reason I am posting this is because I have experiences with two chinese women and I a very upset and totally discouraged by them. One of them was resonalby nice, not that nice but ok. we talked for a bit got to know her, but she never asked much about me she sent some photos that were obviously not here, very common with asian women. or photos that are very old with them very young. And after a while i got to see her on camera and some photos of her. and i tell you she was so pretty. increadible beauty. out of this world beauty. Any way she said i can come to see her. and all the time i was so cautious and suspicious of her. then I belived her and that she was sincere, then the ball dropped . straight on my foot. She said some crap about chinese tradition was that she has to come and see me first in my country, and I have to send her the money. I have never been so destroyed. it really hurt. And the other chinese girl was a bit quicker. I said I would like to meet her in Hong Kong because she lives not far away. And the same crap , I would have to pay for everything. one weeks wages for her. travel expenses the whole lot which would have cost me at least 1000 bucks, just to meet her. and when I told her I will pay some and the rest later. she abused me and cursed me. she was very rude. So the question is are all chinese women like this, rude and money hungry. I am very upset by the whole ordeal.
If your wondering I like all women not just asian. but in my country I am not appeling to women because I am not a rugby player or a muscle man. I am just ordinary and nice. women dont like nice where I am from. not the good looking ones. where is my soulmate. I know alot of you may not agree to my point of view. But its mine, and Its my story and I need to tell it. Thanks for listening.
Hi benglishtea:
My brother unfortunately fell for one of these scams and he went through hell because of it. Now, unfortunately for the scammers, he happens tyo be a well-known writer and wants to document his and other similar experiences with other men who met with the same fate. Would you be willing to talk to him? I’m his “research” gal so here’s my email in case you want to add your story to the future book: “anandaxxii@yahoo.com”. My name is Ana and if you wish you can “re” the email with “scam”.
I hope you are willing to fight this insidious crime…Namasté
The scammer women on these sites are usually men. And they operate in groups. They might have some girls to do cam chats, but I’m guessing it’s organised. Yes, it’s sad but true. I’ve had “Viet women” contact me, but as soon as I ask them a question in Viet, they have no idea what I’m talking about. So who are they? Scammers from Ghana and Nigeria. Dating sites are starting to post warnings about them.
The only one I have had dealings with is my now sister in law who is now trying to entice my husband of 33 years to come to Asia to find a woman. Totally different culture. Never been racist , but I can see why a lot of people are. Just out for what they can get. She told me she would fall pregnant and she would not give this child away as her husband would have to provide homes for all their children.