Why Men Don’t Call You Back?

A friend of mine was recently down in the D U M P S about a guy not calling her back. She spent all weekend deliberating as to why he didn’t call her back. Unfortunately, since it involved my time as well, I decided to share the results:

After having your first dates with a new guy, do you always expect him to call you back and ask for a second one,
but to no avail? Are you always at the end of the waiting end? Do you always wonder why men don’t call you back,
making you obsess about it for a few
days, reliving the moments of your first date and asking yourself what went wrong?
No, No and NO

REASON#1-Intimidated

They are intimidated by you. You are successful, overly independent and have a mind of your own. They find you
argumentative, opinionated and controlling. They think you are cold and frigid because you are so wrapped up in
your work that you don’t have time to be sensitive and warm. They are turned off because they think that sleeping
with you is like going to bed with the Ice Queen.

They just can’t comprehend the fact that you are confident and strong, a woman of substance who has been climbing the corporate ladder because you are smart and intelligent. You should try to loosen a bit when going on dates by taking off the power suit and loosen your hair, showing off some skin and
giving a warm smile. Show off your sensitive and warm side by talking about your adorable Chihuahua or your cute
little niece, if you can show pictures of them.

REASON#2-High Maintenance

Men would be running fast away from you if they think you are a gold-digger. Maybe on your first date, when asked where you want to have dinner you picked up an upscale restaurant in the city, and ordered the most expensive course in the menu.

You might have given him the wrong perception that you are high maintenance and being with you will make him broke. Fact is you are just the type of person who likes the finer things in life. Maybe you want to live the good life but not actually your priority in life. Maybe he has stereotyped you right away
as a gold digger that he should stay away from because he has been traumatized with that sort of women before.

So instead of suggesting a very upscale restaurant, try to pick up a comfortable and warm cul-de-sac coffee shop in the neighborhood, and ordering simple but mouth-watering dishes. Show off your simplicity and give the impression that having a good time means having a simple dinner with just the
right person to share it with.

REASON#3-Clingy and Needy

Men hate women who are clingy and needy. Damsels in distress are only cute in fairy tales but in real life, men
don’t like women who are always seeking their attention. They are so busy with their work, basketball games or poker nights with the boys to be distracted with their women who calls
them in the middle of the game because they want their stuck up kitchen sink fixed.

Men also lose interest in women, who they perceived are an easy catch, meaning they are just too available. During your first date maybe you arrived at the restaurant few minutes earlier
than the scheduled time, or you would answer his calls on the first two rings.

Men would like to do the chasing, it’s their human nature. Give yourself an aura of mystery, make him always second guess your actions and try to avoid showing that you really like him. This
will make you exciting to him and he will enjoy doing the chasing.

REASON#4-Not Available

Yes you thought that you found the right guy for you, you had a great time during your first date and you both share the
same interests. The situation looks promising because you are so in tuned together.

However, there’s a hitch, he is committed to someone else. Maybe at the time you were dating he was in between a relationship. He was maybe going through a rough time with his
current relationship and just went out on a date to someone to talk with and relax.

He was thinking that it was probably harmless and just a night out with an acquaintance to clear his mind from girl troubles. Maybe he was looking for a good friend at the moment, and you were there being so fun and full of life, making him forget all his worries for a while by being with you.

He doesn’t call you back after the first date because he was sorting out his life before starting something new with you. At this point in time all you can do is be patient and wait for him. Give yourself a time frame in which you can wait though.

After the time frame and still he doesn’t call, give yourself another chance by dating a new guy. You deserve that, girl!

These are just some of the reasons why men don’t call back.

To get men to definitely call, use reverse psychology like I do. I always say, I really don’t like to share my digits with complete strangers. Also, I am so tired from talking on the phone all day at work and face to face at events that I greatly value my quiet time and am swamped in the evenings. The more you sound too busy and not available, the more they are determined to track you down! Works like a charm! WINK